Category: Thoughts & Opinions

Dear Readers: Care and Feeding of Your Favorite Bloggers

My last post was written more for bloggers, creators and businesses about Facebook Pages, but this post is for you, dear reader. Just like entertainers would be nothing without their fans, bloggers would be nothing without their readers. You literally make or break us. We are educating you, we are supporting you, we are letting you know you’re not alone but we need your help.

My Favorite Sex Toy Shop: SheVibe.com

Whether it’s their above-and-beyond customer service, their support for smaller brands, their support of the blogging and sex ed community or their simple willingness to take advice or critcism and create positive change, the SheVibe team shines like a beacon. In a world where literally every month this year some company has made an egregious error in ethics or judgment I have the utmost faith that SheVibe will never be out of my favor. Empathy, humility, generosity, sincerity – these are the traits that come to mind when I think about Sandra and Thor.

Blog Squad - Truth, Justice and Caffeine

Thoughts on the Blog Squad

So this post is pretty much just for bloggers; I had to address a growing issue within our large community regarding feelings of exclusion, use of the term “blog squad”, etc. If you’re a blogger, I hope this post helps you feel a little less scared of the group.

A few of the thank-you emails I've received over the years, they keep me going when the voice in my head doubts what I do

Never Shut Up: A Mantra for Changing The World One Sex Toy at a Time

Over the years we reviewers have grown more and more vocal about safe sex toy materials. We send a message when we refuse to give our time to porous and toxic sex toys. We are sending a message to the manufacturers who, in recent years, have exploded with under-$75 (even under $50!) sex toys made from truly body-safe materials. With our honest reviews we are giving some assurance to people that when they spend $100 or more on a sex toy, we’ve thoroughly vetted it as best as we can. When we review the affordable toys we are helping people find safe, decent sex toys that fit their budget – our role is not only to make sure the high-end sex toys are worth their price tag, but to make sure the affordable sex toys are still as decent as they can be. After all, what’s the point of buying any sex toy, no matter the cost, if it doesn’t perform well? And when we continually reassure our readers that their pleasure is important, their bodies matter and that yes they need to care about the materials of their sex toys and the ingredients of their lubes we are validating that these items are important. They are not just for the lonely, the celibate, the single. They are tools for every body. And every person deserves access to safe pleasure tools.

The Carrot is Not a Dildo!

The Carrot is Not a Dildo!

As I trawl through my Tumblr dashboard, I tend to see a lot of cases of ignorance-via-innocence and household objects being repurposed as dildos. Today the object to catch my eye and trigger this...

A rant: Your crappy writing skills turn me off

A rant: Your crappy writing skills turn me off

Your written words are your clothes, your voice, your facial expressions and that by which we measure intelligence, personality and sometimes even attractiveness. I’m not a “grammar Nazi” and I’m not a college English professor. I’m just a reader who wants to read words that make sense when thrown together in sentences and paragraphs. I don’t expect perfection; I just expect simple readability.