Category: Ask Lilly

I Gave Up Vibrators for 4 weeks (just to see what would happen)

I Gave Up Vibrators for 4 Weeks

Despite this being 2016; despite the enormity of the sex toy industry; despite the amount of tech, pomp and circumstance that is being shoved into all manner of vibrators… for many people, vibrators are “naughty”. They’re inferior to “natural ways”. They offend teh menz who think that, thanks to porn, people with vaginas can come easily, often, and loudly with just some vigorous thrusting of objects into the vagina. Some people can. I envy them! Many can’t, and for that we have the work of many many scientific things and people and polls to thank: It’s a much-trotted out fact that most people with a vagina actually need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.

So what might happen to me if I give up vibrators for 4 weeks? Can my clitoris be “reformed”?

Soothing the Genital Burn: When Toxic Toys or Poison Lube Strike

If your vulva is on fire, if your vagina feels like fire ants invaded your space the confusion and fear can result in days (or weeks) of pain. If you don’t suspect your cheap sex toy or dubious lube, think again. You may not have a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis, you may be suffering from a mild chemical burn. Hopefully the following tips can help you soothe the burn.

Ask Lilly: Can I Put My Sex Toy in the Dishwasher?

For people with a lot of dildos and butt plugs, there’s a really fast way to sanitize your sex toys: The dishwasher. But this cleaning method isn’t as straightforward as it seems! There are some rules and tips that must be followed, but first I want to talk about something important: sanitizing versus sterilizing and how your dishwasher fits into it. Sterilizing means that you are killing ALL living organisms, whereas sanitizing is killing “most” – enough to make things safe for public consumption. When we are talking about cleaning, there’s cleaning (removing dirt and fluids and cat hair), then sanitizing, then disinfecting, then sterilizing. To understand more about this

Is your Clitoris a Lefty or a Righty?

I talk a lot about my clitoris that loves pinpoint stimulation and how it’s a “righty”. This isn’t uncommon, but one reader had no clue! So what is your clitoris. a righty? Lefty? Ambidextrous? A leave-it-alone-y? Whichever it is, you’re normal. You’re not broken.

Is your glass sex toy safe? Image shows an array of glass sex toys on a teal background

Is Your Glass Sex Toy Truly Safe?

Everybody and their brother claims to be creating/selling high quality glass sex toys; they may tout brand names like Pyrex or toss out the term “borosilicate” as if those words automatically mean quality anymore. When we know how shady many sex toy companies can be and how they can say whatever they want about their product without the need for truth in advertising, people naturally get skeptical regarding the true safety of glass sex toys. I’m always trying to find new ways of testing sex toys at home for quality, material, and relative safety. Since one of the few things I could do is burning to see if it’s silicone or not, I never thought I’d be able to test a glass sex toy at home until Crystal Delights talked about using a polariscope on some glass pieces which shows stress in glass. I figured out how to run the test at home, cheaply, and then proceeded to spend more than a few dollars buying various brands to test. I tested them all for glass quality and lead content – I have no way of testing for Cadmium or other harmful heavy metals, though. I have always received questions about the relative safety of inexpensive glass sex toys and I can finally give you some more in-depth answers. I suspect we won’t stop with this post; I’ve already talked to Crystal Delights years ago and I plan to present you with a more in-depth chat with the people behind Fucking Sculptures, soon.