e[lust]

So you know that e[lust] has a modified summer schedule, right? Well it’s time for edition #18, submissions are open till Tuesday. I also am still looking for people to volunteer to be a (mostly) anonymous judge for the Top 3 on elust. If I don’t have enough judges, I can’t give you guys a Top 3. I don’t expect volunteers to be available every edition, don’t worry! Email if you’re interested.

NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar

You only have until August 1st to buy a day or 5 so get crackin! Please! See my post here for incentives from me.

Blog Organization

Due to boredom at work (read: refusal to do boring work) I made up a page of links to all the Ask Lilly posts. I also made an extensive sex toy care and maintenance guide page; Epiphora asked on Twitter yesterday what thing we hated reading in sex toy reviews, and my answer was the boring “not this again” rote of cleaning and lube use. It’s boring to me because it’s common knowledge but I know that a lot of people read my reviews from doing a google search and they might not know. So instead of wasting the time of the old-hats, I’ll just put in links to the proper spot on the maintenance guide, in the reviews.

Due to some kinda-serious health issues, new meds, and a frantic mad dash to copy over the remaining posts at the Co-op in the next 2 weeks (anybody wanna help? lol), I don’t know if I’ll be blogging all that much. Unless of course you ask me some really good Formspring questions ;)

Tags: blogging out loud

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Hubs got this today for our kitchen, for those times when your hands are yucky with raw chicken juices or whatnot:

As he was reading the brochure:

The spout sensor soap pump dispenses soap touch-free to help avoid the spread of germs. Simply place your hand under the spout to dispense soap automatically. The elongated spout arcs over the sink basin to keep wet hands and soap from dripping on the counter. Four volume settings allow you to control the amount of soap or lotion dispensed.

He says to me “Hey you could put lube in this!” At first I gave him a look because, well, I can’t see either of us needing that sort of thing but then it occurred to me that it’s not a bad idea for those who like to jerk off often and use lube copiously. Wouldn’t that be awesome to not have to touch anything, just stick your hand under there and you barely need to interrupt the flow of the session!

I can totally picture some of the more hard-core sex toy reviewers enjoying the hell out of this. And, ya know, all you other pervs too.

Tags: masturbation, silly shit

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Somehow, taking this picture while I was on a Liberator ramp made me look even more pale than I am. Of course, there’s something about my skin that in natural lighting I tend to glow a little.

I swear, I’m not a vampire.

But…..I DO bite. It’s just another one of my oral fixations. But I’m a courteous biter. Only if allowed and only in good spots ;)

Check out who else is playing this week!

Tags: lips, Photos, tits

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Another Formspring question here!

When looking for a new toy how do you know if it does or does not have pthalates? asked by mydnitebyte

First, a definition from Wikipedia: Phthalates, or phthalate esters, are esters of phthalic acid and are mainly used as plasticizers (substances added to plastics to increase their flexibility, transparency, durability, and longevity).¹

So how DO you know if a sex toy has phthalates in it?

1. Research your toy purchases from sites that include that sort of information.

a. At EdenFantasys, you can choose “Phthalates Free” in your search options when you’re browsing categories like vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, etc.
b. At Babeland you can purchase anything they sell and know that there are no phthalates – they won’t sell toys that contain them.
c. At Good Vibes, look for this logo on the product description page for a toy:
d. At VibeReview, you can specifically browse only phthalates-free vibrators or phthalates-free dildos

2. Stick with materials that are known to be safe. This includes:

a. 100% pure medical-grade silicone
b. Elastomer, TPE, TPR, WTP
c. Hard plastic/acrylic
d. Glass, metal, wood, ceramic, and other natural materials

Avoid sex toys made of jelly, rubber, pvc/vinyl. While some of the “cyberskin”/UR3 and other “realistic materials” may not contain phthalates, I would personally recommend staying away from them. They’re porous, they usually have an odor, they require “powdering” (no talc!!! that’s proven to be bad for genitals) and many are painted to look even more realistic but this paint suspiciously rubs off with use/washing.

Can condoms keep you safe from phthalates?

Researchers/scientists haven’t come to a conclusive yes/no result yet, but they say it depends on numerous condom factors such as:

a. The thickness of the latex.
b. The integrity of the condom.
c. Additives in latex condoms could also influence whether phthalates pass through. For example Nonoxynol-9, which used to be used as a spermicide in condoms, could actually increase the risk of phthalate exposure (Nonoxynol-9 is no longer commonly used on condoms or personal lubricants though).
d. The personal lubricant in pre-lubricated condoms could (but doesn’t necessarily) facilitate the leaching phthalates out of a sex toy.²

One thing that I wasn’t able to find in my searches is this: Since the FDA isn’t regulating the sex toy industry, could a company claim that a toy is phthalate-free if it’s made out of a blend or cyberskin & its comrades? Since I can’t find an answer on that – and given that the iffy toys are kinda gross to begin with, what with their chemical odor – my recommendation is to just avoid the stuff altogether. Spend the extra $10-20 on a known-as-safe toy material and you’ll get a longer toy life and the peace of mind that your toys are safe.

1 – Definition of phthalates from Wikipedia
2 – Phthalates and condoms fom About.com:Sexuality

Tags: ask lilly, dildos, safety, sex toys, sextoys, shopping, silicone, vibrators

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Or somethin like that. Actually, quick tangent, I enjoy a good long back scratch moreso than a back massage. Anywho.

So I think you know by now that a pic of me and Coy Pink will be in the upcoming NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar. There’s a lot of really good reasons to support this calendar – the charity (Woodhull Freedom Foundation) is a great one; there’s a bunch of sexy models in it showing you (in some cases)  more than you’d get to see on their blogs; and I’d be very grateful ;) The  photos that are in the calendar will never be seen anywhere else. Ya know what else you’ll get to see only in the calendar? Me. One time only, a straight-on shot of my face, is appearing in the sex blogger world.

If you have a blog or other website, it’s a great advertising opportunity. $25 for a day means your text is visible (message up to 80 characters), staring at calendar owners, for a whole month. I know that I saw a good increase in traffic during the month of May where my purchased day from last year’s calendar resided. Many retailers will offer up coupon codes good for the month their day is in which further drives in business.

If you just want to support Woodhull and the models’ endeavors to raise money, you can say whatever you want in your spot! Wish someone happy birthday, proclaim your love, etc.

Do I need to sweeten the deal?

Of course I do.

If you purchase a day in the calendar you’ll get a pic of me – specifically, my tits with my gratitude in a personalized message written on them. Kinda sorta like this pic or this pic.

If you purchase more than one day OR one day + a calendar you’ll get private access to an audio clip of me jerking off ;)

To qualify, when you buy your day (through Paypal) just mention my name in the “message” section. Tell me what email address you paid it from and I’ll verify with Tess & Diva. You can click on any of these Paypal buttons to purchase, the payment will be going to the calendar email, not to me directly.

$25 – One day

$40  – One day + one calendar

1 Calendar only

Special – 5 days in the calendar for $100

Tags: calendar, good things, NYC

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