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Rainbow G-Spot Dildo from BS

“BS Is Nice“  is a newer silicone company making hand-poured 100% pure silicone products in Madrid. SheVibe.com has started to carry some of their products and graciously sent me one to try out.

BS has a lot of interesting color schemes and designs; some (not on the SheVibe site) are a little less fun and are just single or dual colors. Others are much more interesting. There’s a cow print, one that looks like a sports sock, crazy asymmetrical stripes and zebra stripes. You can see roughly what it’ll look like on the site, but since it’s hand-poured they’re not all going to be exact. The rainbow levels on mine are not quite as uniform as the one photographed for SheVibe, but they’re unique. I’ve seen photos from BS on Facebook where the rainbow levels were more uniform and more thick, going a little farther up. I’d say that the only thing I would improve about the designs where it encompasses the base, is to bring that design farther up from the base just a bit, maybe a half-inch or so more than mine show? When I put my Rainbow G-Spot in my Aslan Leather Harness, most of the colors were hidden, and it didn’t quite fit right in this particular Aslan style. If you want the BS dildos for use in a harness, I’d suggest that they will look best and work better with harnesses that are more minimalistic, or at least don’t have you pushing the dildo through fabric or leather.  The Aslan Commando harness would be better, as would the Sportsheets ones since the dildo only goes through the o-ring, not the fabric. This might fit RodeoH or Spartparts styles, it’s not oddly small or wide, but you’ll cover up most of the design by using those types of harnesses. 

 

The G-Spot style is the only BS dildo style that SheVibe currently carries, but I happen to think it’s a pretty good choice. I’m not usually a fan of perfectly straight dildos (unless the girth is the factor) and this heavily curved design combined with a slightly-flat more snub-nose tip (reminiscent a bit of the Lelo Ella, shown below to compare) will be great for g-spots and even prostates. I happen to have the Medium size, which looks like it’ll give you an extra inch in length over the small, and a little bit more girth. Honestly the girth is hard to measure. The shaft seems to be 1.3 inches wide and the head juts out a little to be more like 1.4, 1.45 inches wide, but the base widens a little bit on a slope, making it sit less flush against a harness o-ring than I’d like. SheVibe does a pretty good job of measuring the items they list, especially when there are multiple sizes available. For size/shape comparison below, I’ve shown the BS alongside the Tantus O2 Cush in blue, and a black Tantus P-Spot dildo.

The G-Spot design is just flexible enough for me to be able to straighten it out fully, so for those that really like and almost require a firm curve and specific pressures/angles for g-spot or prostate stimulation might not love this line. The silicone isn’t quite as squishy as the Tantus O2 outer layer, but is quite a bit softer and more flexible than very firm Tantus pieces. BS silicone is about on par with Vamp silicone in firmness. For those that like some give and dislike rock-solid materials, you’ll really like the BS silicone. It does of course gather up fur/dust/link like crazy.

I actually really like the BS packaging design. It’s minimal, yet reusable. It comes in a clear, plastic pouch but it is a very thick mil of plastic, more like heavy plastic sheeting than the bags that a Tantus dildo might come in. And yes, I said reusable. It comes to you like a food item – you tear off the sealed portion of plastic up top and then it has a “Ziploc” style closure for the bag. It’s not discreet since it’s see-through, but it’s great for people who don’t have a lot of storage space options and want to put the dildo in something to keep it clean in between uses.

Since it’s pure silicone, you’ll probably need to use lube with this, the silicone dildos usually tend to naturally create a little more resistance (unless they’re super glossy in finish). I’d suggest a water-based lube, pure natural coconut oil, or you can try to spot-test your favorite silicone or hybrid lube on the base. If it gets gummy/tacky in a minute, scrape it off right away. If there’s no change, leave it there an hour and see if there’s any further change (like the lube gets absorbed). To clean these, you can pretty much do anything. Soap and water for most situations, dishwasher, boiling water, or 10% bleach solution if you’re going to use it both anally and vaginally (although never in the same session, please) or share it.

SheVibe.com is becoming known for showcasing the smaller companies, and I think that BS Is Nice offers a few really great choices that are unique. I have a feeling that this rainbow-and-black color scheme will be a big seller. Thank you, Shevibe!!

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The Dildology.org 1st Bi-Annual Blog Carnival Fundraiser Event

Over the next 19 days you’ll be hearing from 30 31¹ bloggers who graciously agreed to be part of the 1st Bi-Annual Dildology.org Blog Carnival fundraiser. The hope is to raise $1,500.00 during this time, which (depending on the item’s material) could fund 3 -5 tests.  If you’re wondering what might get tested next, here’s a sneak peak: The James Deen Realistic dildo from Doc Johnson. This is the one with the painted-on veins and ultra-realistic look that is made of PVC with Doc Johnson’s “Sil-a-Gel” in it. Everybody wants a piece of the Deen, and so do we!

Would I love for us to exceed our goal? You betcha. Would you make 3 Dildologists extraordinarily happy by smashing that goal? Oh, you’d better believe it bucko. So every day we’re going to have 1 or 2 bloggers talking about sex toys and Dildology in the hopes that each particular story reaches a few people willing to donate. This list below will update with every new post that is part of the blog carnival. After reading these posts, I’m sure you’ll agree that the industry has a problem and Dildology.org is offering the best possible solution.

Fundraiser Progress:

Together, we are making history in the sex toy industry and together, we WILL create positive change

Legalese in regards to donations:  Dildology.org is in the process of finishing up their 501(c)(3) which means that your donation will be tax deductible. It will be retroactive, so anyone who has donated prior to this can claim the donation for tax year 2013.

  From the 13th through the 31st, I’m personally going to offer an incentive for anyone donating $100 or more². My incentive is only good on donations made during this time! I’ll provide you with an hour-long one-on-one chat session where you’ll get my undivided attention as your personal shopper, to help you choose the best sex toy for your needs. If you’re in the US, Canada or UK I’ll work with you to pick something from SheVibe or Lovehoney to use that coupon code you’ll also get! Everything we talk about will remain 100% confidential.  These sessions work best though when I’m talking to the person/couple who will actually be using the toy so if you donate but want something for your partner, I’d prefer it if we bring them in on the session. It’s really the absolute best way to choose something that will work out.

Other current donation incentives: Donate $15 or more and you’ll receive a coupon code for either SheVibe.com or Lovehoney.co.uk. The Shevibe coupon code will be good for orders placed and shipped within the US and Canada, while the Lovehoney code is good for our friends across the pond. From here on up, the donations “stack”, meaning you’ll also get all rewards from the lesser amounts. If you donate $25 or more, you’ll also be mailed a Dildologist bumper sticker (for those within the US). For those who donate $50 or more, you’ll get the coupon codes, bumper sticker and a Dildologist t-shirt when we raise enough funds to get the first bulk order processed. The t-shirts will be included for US residents; international donations will have the option of donating enough to cover the shipping of the t-shirt – you’ll also receive a special “Worldwide Dildogist” round sticker or two. The t-shirts will be available in various sizes and either pink or black.  For those who donate $100 or more, you’ll also be listed on the Dildology.org site publicly as a sponsor.

For those donating $50 or more, please include in the notes section of your Paypal payment what size and color tshirt you’d prefer, and if it’s $100 or more please let us know how you’d like to be credited on the site. If you’d like to donate and cannot do Paypal, we can do Google Checkout or take an old-fashioned check  – contact us to find out where to send it.

We’ve also received some other great press during the carnival. If you don’t speak French, the translator that is native in Google Chrome does a semi-decent job of translating Objets de Plaisir – Dildology : In Dildo Veritas. I especially like their graphic of “sex toys fighting amongst themselves”!

Jenn at Blog No. 42 bravely shared her thoughts on phthalates with her readers, on a blog that probably never talks about sex toys. I really like reaching those audiences, because it’s not “preaching to the choir”, there’s a real chance for education and eye-opening. Thanks, Jenn!

And then Violet Blue supported us. Holy cow, y’all. EXCITING. I see good things coming for the Dildology Army.

As I locate other press coverage, I’ll share it here.

 

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Dildology.org Blog Carnival Call for Participants

So by now, I’m hoping you all know about Dildology.org, the non-profit sex toy testing company founded by Crista, Val and myself. We think our launch can be called a success, wouldn’t you agree? Dildology.org, both what it represents and what it hopes to change in the industry, is well overdue and very much needed. In order to make a difference and begin the changes we want to see in the sex toy industry, we need your support. Your donations are the only funding we have.

To that end, I’m going to be hosting our first fundraiser blog carnival starting May 13th and continuing on through the end of Masturbation Month. Fitting, yes? Here’s how it will work: I’ll kick things off on the 12th; my post will contain a link tool where everyone’s post will be entered in and linked to¹. Each blogger will create a post on their own blog to promote, and help raise funds for, Dildology.org. Talk about why you think Dildology.org is necessary. Perhaps even talk about a bad experience you once had with a mislabeled sex toy, a jelly dildo that caused burning during use, etc. You’ll be asked to link back to my kick-off post, so that your readers can see the other participants’ posts, and also to Dildology.org. I’ll provide you with graphics and any information² you need to write a great post. Our goal for this first fundraiser is to raise $1,500.00. This will allow us to begin testing a few more items; next up on our list is the James Deen Realistic dildo!

While I’d love to have tons of people participating, in theory, I have to call it enough at some point so that I don’t get *too* overwhelmed….plus we’re going to have future fundraisers! So for the 1st Blog Carnival fundraiser, I’m closing the list now at these lovely people.  If you’d like to talk about us and help us raise money, as I said there will be another one this year. I’ll be able to give a little more notice for that one for sign-ups, I wanted to get the first one started whilst we still had that “new launch momentum” going on. 

13th – Molly
14th – Sugarcunt & Epiphora
15th – Stef Woods aka CityGirl
16th – Sarah at Marvelous Darling
17th -  Scarlet & Karen Blue
18th – SeptimusReviews & Screaming Violet
19th – Rayne
20th – Emerald & Buzz on Vibes
21st -  Emma & Penny
22nd – RedheadBedhead
23rd – Beck & Sexpress Milwaukee
24th – Reenie
25th – Ned Mayhem
26th -  Nadia West
27th -  GeekyNymph & Sangsara
28th – Zoe Hanis & Insane Hussein
29th – Blacksilk & Mama K
30th – Sexsational & DizzyGirl
31st – Nymphomaniac Ness & ScarlettSeraph

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Dildology: The Science of Sex Toys

Backstory:  I like to flame test my silicone sex toys, and pretty much do it to every item. When the JimmyJane Hello Touch failed my flame test, I first showed it to some other industry professionals and peers at CatalystCon who agreed with my thoughts that it didn’t appear to be pure silicone. I then contacted JimmyJane. Due to their response filled with PR fluff-n-stuff, I publicly mused that I wished I could get a real lab test done to see who was right. When a few of my followers responded that they would contribute, I asked a few peers to confirm/deny my sanity and was told to go for it. I very crudely rounded up enough funding to get a basic test done, “FTIR”, which would tell me if the polymers were just silicone, or silicone plus something else. This action spurred on something a lot bigger….To those who donated to fund this test, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Without that initial support I don’t think this would have gotten off the ground so smoothly.

 HAPPENING NOW:

The lab test results for the JimmyJane Hello Touch came in on Friday, April 26th. I really didn’t think that the test results would show that it is pure silicone, since there were 4 cases of the product being subjected to the flame test with 2 different results. As I mentioned before, I even showed the torched product to a few others at CatalystCon and they also agreed that in their dildo-torching experience, it didn’t appear to be *pure* silicone. However, the FTIR test told us that the product contained no other polymers than Polydimethylsiloxane (silicone) with “No evidence of additives or plasticizers”. In other words, the flame test failed us – what we had previously believed to be true, which was that a pure silicone item would not go up in flames, is clearly not always true. The flame test is not quite as accurate as we’ve thought – while I knew that the flame test was never 100% accurate and that it could not serve as the one true answer, the results I received on the Hello Touch really seemed to indicate to the contrary of the purported material listed. I still don’t believe that the flame test is completely worthless; I believe it can still weed out the items that some places like to call “silicone” but are clear and jelly-like in appearance. However, in some cases, you won’t be able to tell if your item is pure silicone and the only way to truly tell would be to obtain a lab test result. The FTIR told us about the polymers and that there were no additives, but a more expensive test (similar to what CATT ordered) using a GC-MS would tell us better perhaps *why* our flame tests gave varied results.

So in the absence of a truly accurate Home Dildo Test, what is a sex toy geek to do? Call the Dildologists, of course.

I’m not the first person in this industry who has wished for access to a lab to test for material purity, phthalates, etc. I’m just the first sex toy reviewer who actually said “I’m doing this, NOW”. My dear, darling Crista has been part of this industry longer than I have, and she even worked in a sex toy store years ago, from clerk to Buyer, so she’s seen it all. She knows first-hand, much more than me, the horrid crap that is out there. Around that time is when CATT came together and did their test, and Crista thought how much she, too, would love to do that. TEST ALL THE TOYS! But the time wasn’t right.

The time is now right.

The universe said “Do it now” and Crista’s partner, Val Orenda, heard it. He saw “PinkSexGeek” in her prime when they went to CatalystCon together this year, and wanted to help her realize her dreams, and be a part of this world of hers. So before I even knew what was happening, as I was asking Val more questions since he is far more intelligent than I could ever hope to be, it all started coming together. Quickly. A name. A site. Registering as a business. A freakin’ Wiki. A forum. etc and so on.

I give you, Dildology.org.

From our Mission Statement:

The sex toy industry is on the rise, yet it remains largely unregulated. Dildology.org intends to provide material verification services and maintain a public database of the results, adding transparency and oversight to the industry while educating the public about the science behind pleasure products. We stand on our own, unaffiliated and uninfluenced, and we are dedicated to protecting the health and well-being of the dildo-loving population at large through education (and maybe a little entertainment).

We will:

• accept monetary donations.
• accept product donations from third-party retail stores.
• purchase products from third-party retail stores.
• choose products to test based on community feedback.
• send products to accredited labs for testing.
• compare the material composition of products to the manufacturers’ claims.
• share the results of lab tests with manufacturers.
• record the results of the lab tests in our wiki.
• make our wiki available to the public.
• provide other educational resources to the public.

We will not:

• accept product donations directly from manufacturers.
• test second-hand products – only those acquired randomly from retail stores.
• test any product manufactured more than one year ago.
• publish opinions about products or manufacturers – only facts.
• falsify data, for any reason.
• suppress or fail to publish the results of any test.

Read the whole thing here

Dildology.org is a non-profit organization run by 3 broke-ass people who care, and we need the help of lots of other people who care. So we will run by donation. If you want to help us make a difference in this industry, then please donate what you can. Since this will be a years-long endeavor, you can donate a little now and a little later. We don’t have any plans to stop. Ideally, we’d like to get 25 toys tested this year and we have a pretty good idea on what most of the 25 will be. You can see our list in the Product Directory section on the Wiki. As you can see, we’re not focusing on any one sector or company. We’re even going to have a Tantus item tested. We’re not always going to be testing things that are suspect. Rather, we are going to be testing a wide variety of materials and manufacturers to amass a directory that will give consumers a pretty good idea on which companies to trust. If you see that more often than not a manufacturer has lied about their material, then you can make an informed decision not to trust their products, if you want. We’re not in this to persecute any certain company. We’re in this to provide a much-needed service for consumers and my hope is that we will help a few misguided companies as well (in case our results are a surprise to them and they choose to take action at their plant to correct it).

What can you expect from Dildology.org? Everything we do at Dildology will be in the name of science, and science cannot have a bias. All personal affiliations, opinions, etc will be tossed out the window. We will simply acquire the data and present the data, nothing more. The data will be available for sex-positive boutique stores to eventually use to help their customers feel safe in choosing reputable toys, and help the retailers feel safe in recommending a great dildo. The data will also be there for bloggers and reviewers to refer to, as well as the average consumer.

What can you expect from me? True, I’m a founder of Dildology.org. But here, in the space of dangerouslilly.com, I will continue to be a reporter/journalist/sex toy reviewer first and foremost. When Dildology.org comes across an item that doesn’t match up to the manufacturer’s claims, Dildology as an organization will not be “alerting the media”. I’m the media, and as Lilly I will be using my blog to help shine a spotlight on the squiffy items. That won’t ever change.

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We can cry out for the industry to be regulated by our government, but really what will that get us? A higher priced dildo. A “luxury sex toy” that costs double what they do now, and their current costs are already prohibitive to many. Sex toys that take twice as long in development resulting in fewer, quality new sex toys being introduced to the market every year. When you bring the FDA to the party, you get mountains of paperwork, costly fees and annual 3-4 week-long audits to retain your FDA classifications. The better solution just might be to let the industry self-regulate, but with a little help from a neutral party.

I encourage you to share this post, write about Dildology.org on your own blog, link to it, follow us on Facebook and Twitter and just in general spread the word to as many people as you can. The bigger the media attention is from bloggers, the better chance we have of being written up in larger online mags, which betters our chances of raising the money we need to get started on testing toys for you. We were conservative thus far in sending out our press release, not wanting to spam people. If you’d like to view it and share it, it is on our site. If you received it and know of other peers who would be interested, please forward it on. Thank you!

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Want to make a difference? We could really use your help:

~ Donate money* – without it, we won’t be able to test much
~ Spread the word – the more media attention we can get, the more donations we can get
~ Incentives for donations – these can be “limited quantity” but please, no sex toys
~ A lab – Our current lab is small without the ability to cut us a price break. Currently an FTIR costs $200, while a GC-MS costs at least $400

 

* We were using GoFundMe to handle donations, however suddenly WePay has decided that they don’t like sex. Our account was killed in less than an hour after launch, despite the account and campaign being active/live for 2 weeks now.  So for now, I direct you to our Donate Page on the site, where we will be handling things for the time being. We’ll be starting a Donations Drive in the form of a Blog Carnival in the next week or so, stay tuned!

 

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We-Vibe Salsa Giveaway Winners Announced!

I had 50 entries and had to narrow that WAY WAY down. I’m also the sort of person for who complicated brain situations require something more visual and tangible than “on screen”. So I printed out the entries and started the sorting hat up. Some were quick to go in the YES pile, a few were quick to go in the NO pile, and that MAYBE pile saw a lot of dithering.

I have to admit, I’ve never had the opportunity to have multiple winners like this and likely never will again…..and yet I’m still feeling greedy, because if I had my way there are others I would have chosen. Picking these winners was agonizing and just so damn difficult. But I have to say, I liked this method better. I like choosing the winners. I like that there was no “necessary evil” of contest spam on the social media outlets. I like that people who are unable to gain the entry edge by utilizing all of the social media options were able to have a fair shot. And I really liked that everybody here had a fair shot – one shot – to win.

While this giveaway isn’t your only chance to own a vibrator with such awesome rumbles (despite the fact that I like the colors less, the Tango is identical and will work nearly as well for replacing bullet vibes in silicone toys so keep your eye on sales for this one), this giveaway represents most of the opportunities. You’ll have another chance in June to win one (along with 4 other weeks of 4 other equally fabulous prizes) so if you didn’t win, please come back!

Here are my winners:

Alison, a college student who has never owned a vibrator. If I had had a vibrator like the Salsa in college, well, there would have been a LOT fewer frustrating nights then and in the time between college and when I actually did finally own a vibrator.

Minivenus, who would like to actually orgasm when pegging her boyfriend. I think that the Salsa is her best bet at getting some decent vibe action going on in the strap-on dildos!

Pantophile Panic, who gave up the majority of her sex toys after finding out that they are likely toxic or unsafe, and has PGAD. I think that the Salsa can bring her to multiple orgasms on a lower setting, thereby bringing her less pain.

Somebody, who had a few life-saving medical procedures done that sadly left orgasms just outside of her reach for now. I hope that the Salsa can be the thing that helps her get back in touch with her sexuality, improve her mental health and just in general make life a little better.

Abbi (the) Gale, whose very long tale about living in an sex-toy-oppressing country, with a girlfriend in another country who has difficulty with orgasm AND is taking care of a parent, with the ladies having to make a choice between a plane ticket and a sex toy? Choice obliterated, sex toy granted!

InsatiablyTaken, who gets major props for the things she is teaching her students. That just HAD to be rewarded!!

Caite, who, like me, struggles to reach orgasm and has body issues that make manual stimulation uncomfortable at best.

Rachael J, whose well-meaning boyfriend bought her the very-stinky and too-big (and therefore useless) James Deen dildo. Dear Rachael’s boyfriend: consult her before your next purchase, pick it out together! And no more PVC dildos!

The winners have been notified via email. They have 1 week to respond and (if applicable) get the shipping thing worked out…..if any fall through, I will pick replacement winners.

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