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in e[lust]
Ten editions, that is.
Ten….it doesn’t sound like a lot, when you think about it. But to me, it is. 4 months and 10 editions means I can finally breathe a little easier during submissions time. So far I’ve always watched the inbox and feared that the submission count would drop this edition, that it was all losing steam. The numbers have fluctuated but all in all are doing quite well.
Submissions are now open for edition #10! Double digits! We officially swam-instead-of-sank! Wow that doesn’t sound right in the past tense….oh well, you get my point. I’m excited! I’m hoping that this milestone will bring together more bloggers in one edition than ever. In the course of e[lust] we’ve had around 200 blogs participate amongst the 9 editions published.
In honor of edition #10 I’m going to expand the Top Three to be a Top Four or even Five! The number depends on how many submissions we get overall.
So as usual, head over to the submission form. Submission period ends Midnight EST on Tuesday the 16th. Your eligible post date range is March 3rd – March 16th. If this is your first time submitting please read the quick rules on the submission form and look over the full set of rules here. By submitting, you are agreeing to comply with these rules.
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in HNT
I’m a sucker for beautiful underthings. Sadly, the ones I pine for don’t usually come in my size. So when I see beautiful bras in my size I snap them up. Even if all they’re destined for is to be a sex bra.
in random thoughts, real life
Off I went last week to my local Lane Bryant Outlet store to replace one of the newer “really uplifting” bras I purchased last summer. After being pretty sure that the bra I picked up was the same one that died recently, I grabbed one and threw it on my pile.
By the time I got around to trying it on, I’m standing there in just panties, trying to get this damn thing hooked – the security tag was making it difficult. It wasn’t until it was hooked that I found out exactly why. And holy hell did it HURT!
See that white cone-shaped thing there? That dug into my back. The flat side is what is supposed to be against your skin. But come on now, LB….isn’t there a less obtrusive place to put these damn things?!?
in Ask Lilly
When guys email me for sex toy buying advice for themselves, one of the two topics is choosing a masturbator sleeve. There’s many different types out there. The infamous Fleshlight; the colorful ones that aren’t meant to resemble any part of female (or male) anatomy; and the larger ones that are molded from a porn star and are a big heavy hunk of rubber that is basically the whole pelvic region, like the naughty bits section was sliced out of a mannequin. A Japanese company, Tenga, makes a whole bunch of pricey one-time-use jobs (baffling, really) and then their piece-de-resistance: The Fliphole.
Time and again there’s only two I’ll recommend: The Fleshlight and the Tenga Fliphole. Yeah, they’re more expensive than a simple jelly rubber sleeve but you’re going to enjoy them a whole hell of a lot more. One concern I hear a lot though from men considering this is: cleaning. They don’t always want to get out of bed after jerking off and clean their masturbator – they, understandably, want to roll over and go to sleep. I get it, I do. Been there, done that. While I don’t recommend you make a habit out of it, you can let it go till morning sometimes. Just keep in mind though that lube and semen wash off much more easily when wet instead of dry.
DESIGN
Fleshlight: The sleeves and the cases are able to separate for both cleaning and to try out different sleeves with different textures and internal widths. The sleeve is open at both ends for cleaning and for suction adjustment. Fleshlight can be nondescript and the design is, obviously, meant to resemble a flashlight (but not realistically). You can get the sleeves in Beige, Pink or Clear. You can get the cases in a few different colors, too. The common is pink sleeve w black casing. The first Fleshlight I bought my husband was the all clear one, so that when I used it on him I could see what’s going on. There is a bit of a difference though in the materials, the clear sleeve is a little more sticky/tacky when not dusted in cornstarch. The colored ones feel more realistic.
Tenga Flip hole: There’s only two different textures with the Fliphole and if you want to try both you have to buy both, they don’t have removable sleeves. However, the Fliphole opens clam-shell style to make cleaning (and drying) easier and more thorough. Fliphole looks…..geeky and techie and not like a sex toy but its cool and unique enough that if someone sees it, chances are they’ll ask what it is.
CLEANING
Fleshlight: You have to clean these after use or you will ruin them in short order from what I’ve heard from various sources. (however one of the top male toy reviewers at EF says he has put off cleaning until morning a number of times and no mold ever occurred) Due to the material you can’t use anything other than water (yes, this means no soap), maybe some isopropyl alcohol if you really need it. Which means it can take longer since it’s a tube and you can only use water. You have to let it dry completely in a ventilated area or it could mildew. My husband wraps his up in a paper towel and then perches it upright in the case.
Tenga Fliphole: Splits in half clam-shell style and you can use water & mild soap to clean them. You can switch around the base to fashion a stand for the Fliphole so that it it can dry standing up and partially open.
HOW IT FEELS
Fleshlight: They say that Fleshlight feels more real compared to any other masturbator. You can let the sleeve (and even the lube) sit in a sink full of warm water to bring it up to body temperature. The material is phthalate-free but it’s also porous so it can’t be shared – it’s a softer material with more “give” to it, more like flesh. Fleshlight can more easily accomodate a larger variety of cocks in term of length, girth and sensitivity levels all by changing up the sleeve. The sleeves have different orifice entrances – vaginal, mouth, anal – which offer a different visual look as well as a slight change in sensation. You can vary the suction a little bit by the screw-cap base, having it off or on or partially on.
Hubby has now tried two sleeves – the Clear Non-descript and the Pink Wonder Wave. He got the Non-descript style first, and enjoyed it. I liked being there and watching, able to see what was goin on. When we first opened up the packaging though the sleeve was a little cold; combine that with the sticky and I was mildly squicked. The sticky went away though as soon as it was wet. He liked it; but required the extra tightness of his own hand to kick over that final ledge to orgasm. The non-descript and other “original” orifices are all the same tunnel style – smooth (no texture) and the biggest width. It’s good for guys who are really girthy or really sensitive. Even though Hub is girthy, he prefers more sensation so he ended up liking the Wonder Wave better. Also we both felt that the Pink material felt a little more realistic than the Clear. I would find myself fondling it, actually…….
*ahem*
Anyways. While he didn’t think that the Fleshlight was *better* than real live vaginal or oral sex, he did find it to be a very nice alternative to his hand. Not necessarily his everyday preferred method, but he really likes it. The Non-Descript was 3/4″ tunnel and the Wonder Wave is 1/2″. There are ones that are more snug (with no texture) and ones with more intense texture. The Non-Descript is rated a 1 out of 5 on the “Intensity” scale that Fleshlight uses, whereas the Wonder Wave is a 3 out of 5. For frame of reference, Hubby is about 1.75″ diameter or so and 7.5″ in length. For men that fall into the average cock size range in length and girth, and who like a more intense sensation, Fleshlight came out with their “Sex in a Can” line. The material of the Fleshlight is super stretchy and soft so that 1/2″ wide tunnel didn’t feel constrictive, just snug. All in all though, the Clear Non-Descript we’ll only use when I’m there; he much prefers the snugness and texture of the Wonder Wave.
Tenga Fliphole: From what I’ve read (we haven’t tried one yet) the material is a little bit more firm but the original Fliphole White still has a lot of texture to it. It’s not meant to replicate the feel of a real, live vagina but I’ve read/been told that it’s still a really great sensation. The Fliphole has three buttons along its length to change up the suction/tightness. You can make it more snug at the head than the base, more snug at the base than the head, etc. The newer Fliphole Black has a more extreme texture to it.
FINAL WORDS
Lube. Lubelubelubelubelube……and more lube. Water-based lube for the Fleshlight, Tenga and anything else made of silicone. Try out a few different viscosities of lube to see what feels the best, and always keep your lube nearby in case you need to “refill” during use.
And also….you get what you pay for. Saving money on the cheap ones, 9 times out of 10, will just leave you disappointed.
*You can also read my more technical review of just the clear non-descript which I wrote up in detail over at EdenFantasys.
in Uncategorized
Cross-posted from Tied Up Events who are hosting this party!
Empowerment is something that adult film star and gallery owner, Madison Young, is passionate about. Her passion has led her to direct cutting edge films that push boundaries and buttons in an effort to give the viewer more than just “bang for the buck” but also to immerse them in an experience that leaves them thinking about boundaries, sexuality, gender and the intersections of pleasure and pain. But that isn’t the only way 29 year old Madison has chosen to spread her mission of empowerment. Founding Femina Potens, a non-profit art gallery and performance space, in 2003, Madison brings that message to the gallery’s San Francisco neighborhood, combining art, education, theater, kink and sexuality in a safe and welcoming space for the LGBTQIK community and their supporters to congregate and experience art in a way that often blurs the line between artist and audience.
Tied Up Events supports Madison Young and the vision she has created and nurtured. We’re delighted to announce that on Friday, March 19th, Madison will be in New York City and we’d like to ask you to join us for a special fundraiser for Femina Potens to be held at Fontana’s.
From 6PM to 7:30PM, there will be a private wine and chocolate party (donation $35 in advance through Eventbrite), limited to 30 guests who will get to enjoy some one on one time with our guest of honor. Outstanding erotic photographer JM Darling will be there to photograph guests with Madison.
At 7:30PM the general public is invited to join us at no cost for the second half of our evening. Madison will be doing a special, interactive performance. Sexy, sultry N, ecdysiast and co-producer of Hypergender Burlesque, has generously agreed to perform for us. And, of course, there will be a raffle with fabulous prizes graciously donated by sponsors such as Stockroom and Kink Academy. So be sure to bring your cash; maybe you’ll even be one of the lucky guests to purchase your tickets from Madison. Spend $25 or more on raffle tickets and if you’re among the first 50 people to do so, you’ll receive a signature Tied Up Events gift bag.
So come on out, belly up to the bar, order a gratis Original Sin Cider as long as the supply lasts, and heat up this cold and snowy NYC winter while supporting the arts and enjoying art, burlesque, a beautiful and brilliant adult film star, prizes and gift bags. Attend This Event
Yep, I’ll be there for the whole thing! I might be a little starstruck though….Madison is HAWT. I’m also going to attend my first In The Flesh reading the night before. Finally will get to meet Mollena!!