Feb 282009

First, I must apologize.

Foremost, for being a lackluster sex blogger as of late. Perhaps I need a muse? I’m even having trouble writing reviews, in case you’ve noticed a lack of such in the last few weeks. Part of it is cutting back a bit but I’m also right now in a bit of a writing slump. So in go the sensual posts about food – something used by many as a surrogate for sex. My domestic goddess side is more out right now than the sexual goddess. And I use the term ‘goddess’ lightly.

Secondly to all my fellow pervs who have arrived here from Fleshbot. You see, I was Fleshbotted today. It was pointed out to me on Twitter by DebauchedDiva and I scratched my head and said “For what?!?! I haven’t written a sex post lately!!” But perhaps they were mesmerized by my description of meltey-sweet-cream cheese (wherein I was referring to cream cheese but it sounded like I could have been referring to a need for a mouthful of well, something else decidedly less wholesome) and just stopped reading after the first 6 lines? Dude there’s gonna be a lot of pissed off pervs lookin for a bit of jerk material and instead seeing a photo of an innocuous little grilled cream cheese sandwich and the recipe for a Fettuccine Alfredo that most cardiologists tremble in fear at.


Sorry. It’s not my fault!

To be honest, it’s ridiculous that that post was included in a sex-blog round up about “when horniness attacks”. But it at least gave me a much-needed laugh for the day.

And now, on to some lunacy.

I swear to you some times the biggest reason I have a traffic meter / tracker on my blog is for the amusement factor. But this week, the amusement and simultaneous irritation came from the spam-catcher Askimet that WordPress offers for catching spam comments. It does a really good job for the most part. Usually the spam levels were at perhaps 50 a week. The posts that tend to consistently get the spam comments are the ones linked from the Pleasurists lists, followed by Sugasm and then the couple Fleshbotted posts. This one review though that I did a few months ago, for Pinkcherry.com, is the sole post suddenly garnering in excess of 200 spam comments a DAY. Just out of the sheer blue.

Here’s the crazy part: It’s Disney spam.

HEY, DISNEY SPAMMERS!! Ya fuckin perverts, get off my damn blog. Seriously. Disney links in the spam comments. They’re all linking to some spam site and its all for Disney stuff.

An excellent work! KEEP IT UP![url=http://0222disneyb.BLANKINGOUTcuzImnotgivingYoutraffic.com/?disney-background-free]disney background free[/url]

The weird part though is that all these spammers don’t seem to be showing up in my blog tracker. I’ve looked at the IP address of the spam comment and the time of day it hit, clicked over to the tracker….looked at the hits around that time…and nothin. None of those IP addresses went to the review post in question. So I can’t tell where these spammers are coming to me from.


Inspire me a bit if you miss my erotica, if you want to see more pics. Otherwise you’re going to hear about the recipes I’m perfecting because I’m going to be entering a few recipes contests in the next couple of months. I promise to cook mostly naked though!

Feb 222009





Coating my tongue

Dripping down my chin

I lick it from my lips and fingers

It is simple and luxurious, sinful and decadent.

It is over too soon and I cry for more.


I sin equally in sex as I do in food. My breakfast concoction this weekend and Sunday night’s dinner are like pure sin on the tongue. The silky gorgeous mouthfeel of high-fat-content dairy foods is really in the top 3 of sinful food. Melted sweet cream cheese; cream sauces; runny warm egg yolks. Just fucking divine.


Oh, I’m sorry. What did you think I was talking about??

You want sexy food? I got it, right here. And I’m going to share it.

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Feb 222009

I’ve never been editor’s pick before :)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #160? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
The Annual Anti-Valentine’s Day Posting: 2009 Edition
“Ahh, Valentine’s Day. Sigh.”

“We talk a lot about putting me on display, and it was even more intense in reality as it has been in fantasy.”

“At the edge of the precipice, my nerves rippling with electricity, i tumbled down into you”

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Sex Work And Compassion: A Call From Baghdad

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 Posted by at 10:29 am
Feb 202009

Earlier this week, Sinclair asked on Twitter if any reviewer had any massage oils/candles that they didn’t want and cared to swap for. So I emailed, offering up my one Babeland massage candle. Anyways, she says “Hey….wouldn’t it be cool to have a place where all the sexbloggers who review stuff can go to swap with other reviewers?” It would only be stuff that can be sterilized or that doesn’t need to be, like lubes and massage oils/candles, BDSM stuff, etc. What, you’re getting squicky at the thought of toy-swapping? Why? Like I said, only something we tried for review purposes and that can be totally sterilized…..you’d swap toys in a group sex situation *shrugs* so why the hell not? I don’t know about you but I hate that I have some really nice things laying about that I won’t ever use again.

So after some quick-n-dirty research, I found a site thats used for swapping. But, as I quickly found out, its mostly for crafty stuff. Handmade stuff. You host an idea, everybody signs up who wants to join, and the site software randomly pairs up two people and then when you’re assigned a partner it gives you their mailing address. Well, we didn’t realize all that at first, we so signed up. We each ended up creating a group. We should have given the groups innocuous test names, but we didn’t. We also didn’t realize that the group names show up somewhere on the site. So one such nosey person noticed this, read our short descriptions, saw our websites and…..well…..got all “proper vanilla lady” concerned. How’d I find out about this forum thread? Because I noticed in the tracker for my site that suddenly I was getting all these referral links from that site and a forum thread there. WTF??….hmmm……

Ok I saw two new groups made …sex toy trades and so forth ..18 and over site so it doesnt bother me ..My question is can newbies with no ratings or filled out profiles make groups …

@DangerousLilly and @mrsexsmith

are they self promoting or what …

IMO… you can swap anything…..sex toys are not the kind swap materials swap-bot is about …i understand the music …the sexy swaps …..

i dunno this just got me the wrong way …..

if im wrong so be it , but ya’ll know i say what’s on my mind


As an aside here, by the time I noticed all this, the thread had already gotten quite a bit of activity in the form of the “hens” speculating…..and holy shit was it funny…..

Well, I have no issue with the content of the groups, but I do think its highly suspicious that both of these creators have no ratings and not even filled out profiles, seems mights fishy…should we alert the “authorities”? :-/



Considering the turn that the other thread took, I hesitate to add my 2 cents but I’ll take my chances. Here goes…I for one would hate for swapbot to become a site that attracts those wishing to solely swap sex toys, spouses, dirty socks & worn shoes or whatever else that I probably couldn’t even imagine. I think there are other more appropriate sites for these kind of activites. I highly doubt that this was Rachel & Travis’ vision when they developed this site.

Wait, wait wait. Hold it.

“…spouses, dirty socks & worn shoes or whatever else that I probably couldn’t even imagine…..”


A bunch of bloggers, a self-contained group, that merely wants to find a place to congregate to work out swaps easily….swapping sextoys is a gateway to listing SPOUSES for swap?????

*cackles maniacally*

Oh you gotta gimme a minute here….

*insert 5 minutes of crazy-person laughter, including snorts and tears*

Oh dude that’s some funny shit.

was suspicious of the group founders, too. Yeah, used sex toys … sounds gross!

I rolled my eyes so hard at that. Yeah honey, we’re gonna stick a toy in our cunt, swish it around, and then say “Anybody wanna try this one?!?!?!” Friggin dumbshit. And prude, I might add. Not one of the few female bloggers that I showed this forum thread to the night it was happening seemed to think anything wrong with swapping barely-or-not-at-all used STERILIZED toys. Nor did all of us automatically assume insertables.


Well, whoda thunk it…after doing a search for @dangerouslilly this came up. Included on that site is the same url for her website that she has listed on Swapbot under her profile name! And well… @mrsexsmith is well…all about it!

I like this one. My site, that’s raunchy and eyebrow-raising and hand-over-their-mouths “I’m gonna pray for her soul” stuff. But Sinclair? A self-proclaimed “kinky queer butch top”? They could barely even speak of her. That was just so “out there” to these ladies that they couldn’t even mention it. After all…..we both had groups up. Both had similar profiles (i.e. empty “about me” bullshit)

My response at that point was this:

Since you’re all talking about me….I should chime in.

MrSexSmith and I know each other, we’re both sex bloggers, we both set up groups just to see whats up with this.

We are thinking about setting this up because, being a sex blogger, we are given sex toys and similar accoutrement to review. Sometimes we don’t ever use them or they are sterilizable and therefore could be swapped between other sexbloggers who review. So you’d be seeing a whole bunch of other bloggers signing up as newbs and our group would be doing a private group swap, i.e. we don’t expect other non-bloggers to be joining.

I hope that clears things up for you folks!


Yeah, that didn’t stop things.


educate the uneducated wth is a sex blogger …please use little words i sometimes am very slow ……..thanks


Seriously?? blogger…..sex…….anything?

This all happened Tuesday evening. By 10am on Wednesday morning….I’d had over 3 dozen hits from that site and/or that thread. Heh.

Really now.

I checked out a few profiles of some of the more vocal participants in the thread. I’m not joking that one included, in her very long list of “likes to receive” for swapping stuff, anything to do with:

  • Walmart
  • The Virgin Mary
  • Religious candles
  • St Jude
  • Rosaries
  • in amongst all the standards “glittery things, pink things, flowers” etc etc etc.


It then occurred to me just HOW out of place we were. Like…..watch your back, we’re about to be burnt at the stake.

Eventually, after some very nice explaining of what we were and were not about, that we didn’t expect any illustrious members of the community to be involved with it…..I just gave in. Said ok, thanks for clearing it up, the heathens won’t sully things anymore. Buhbye.

To credit, they weren’t all stuck-up prudes. Two really nice women took the time to privately message me and say we shouldn’t feel the need to be run off by the others – even though they would have no interest in our group, it’s not illegal and not specifically against the TOS of the site…..and that I should stay. I was adult and nice with my responses, I never freaked out and never was rude (unlike some of them). I let those two women know how much I appreciated their speaking up in private to me.

Boy did this experience open my eyes to just how……unwelcome a sex blogger can feel in certain places, real life or internet.

Above all else though it was fuckin funny. I mean just “holy shit look at the ruckus we caused!!!”

Sinclair’s idea of swapping though will not be deterred, we’re finding other ways to set this up. After all, wouldn’t you like to trade that paddle there for an oil from her that neither of you like your current product but think that what the other person has is really neat and you’d like to have it for yourself? I would.

*Don’t worry, once it’s all set up and kinks worked out, we’ll be spouting off about it so much you’ll get sick of hearing about it! We’ll let you all know :)

Feb 182009

It’s been a while since I posted an exhibitionist sort of photo. I plan to start remedying that.

On the last day with my old Razr phone, some photos were taken. R had requested ahead of time that I be sure it was charged, he was going to ask for some photos throughout the day, a proper send-off for the phone that served me well.

As I sat there in my car in my lot that morning I noticed how and where the sun was hitting me. I knew that with the sunlight hitting me so brightly that my semi-sheer bra would be more pronounced. So I set about snapping a photo or two of my sweater yanked down to expose my tits in my red bra. I also then angled it so that it could be seen where I was and that it was a bit risky.

I did not expect to look at the photo once taken and see a person in it.

Did she see me? I really don’t know. She walked behind my car but who knows really.


The black car to the very left of the frame is one thats parked next to me. The bus you see going by is on the street my lot is off of. And there in between the bus and the car is the aforementioned lady.

{Edit to say outright that this isn’t for HNT, I’m not participating this week…perhaps next week, we’ll see, I’m burnt out on it all…}

Feb 162009

Food is so much more than just vitamins, minerals and life-sustaining calories.

At least to me it is.

Last week I visited BrokeAss Gourmet at the urging of a few blogger friends. The more I thought about it and read what there was, I realized….hey…I would love to contribute! I’ve got at least half a dozen recipes that would easily fit to the Under$20 for Two theme they have going there, and I (humbly) know my food is good.

Problem is, I don’t really use recipes. I may have at one point started off with a recipe or two, but as I went along with it I modified it. Perhaps because I didn’t like an ingredient, couldn’t get it, or didn’t stock it. 9 times out of 10, the dish is always good but never ever the exact same way twice. Not exactly. Now, I have not yet heard back from Brokeass Gourmet….so I’m hoping. As the days go on, I am doubting I will hear back from them in a positive light – after all, who the fuck am I? Another nobody “sexblogger” in a sea of others. I’m not a professional writer, a professional fucker, or a combination of the two. But I’m still hoping. I love sharing my food with others. I truly love cooking for others, seeing the blissful looks of foodgasm on their faces as they eat what I’ve made.

So this weekend, food replaced sex because I’m sick with some hybrid chest/head cold. I did my best to measure and write things down as I went along.

Until I figure out how to insert a slideshow, or determine if any of you care to see foodie pics, I’ll just leave it at some finished product shots. Because if I’m sharing recipes/techniques, I fully believe in giving visual aides as well.


Breakfast: I’ve perfected the poached egg. Totally decadent, but messy, when I schmear it all over the toast.


Dinner: Shiitake Parmesan Risotto


Quite possibly the most decadent, sinful chocolate chip cookie I’ve ever eaten. Very rich, a bit messy. I just found this recipe elsewhere over the weekend, I cannot claim it. It’s complicated and I don’t like baking, but I made an exception.