Jun 122016

Good Clean Love Almost Naked Personal LubricantI’ve never been one to really review lubes, but ever since The Great Lubecation of 2015 sprouted my Big Lube Guide and a sparked activism for non-irritating body-safe lubes, I’ve begun collecting some of the better brands to find some water-based lubes to love. My previous favorites have been coconut oil and hybrid lubes, specifically Sliquid Silk, for their longevity and ability to still play nice with all of my toys. But water-based lubes deserve love, too, and Good Clean Love Almost Naked gets my love.

What I Don’t Like

I’ll say this early and get it out of the way: there’s only one thing I dislike about Good Clean Love Almost Naked lube – that they don’t make an anal-friendly version with a higher pH. Thing 27 I learned last year is that water-based lubes need to consider pH and what’s good for the vagina isn’t always good for the ass. A lube that has a pH that is too low will potentially feel irritating and may sting/burn. A normal pH range for the vagina is anywhere from 3.5-7, which the butt ranks in at 6. Higher vaginal pH can be associated with lower estrogen levels (and infection, but not always). I’d recommend starting off with the 1.5oz tube first to see how your body reacts.

When I look at the GCL site I see a lot of reviews saying how it “burns half the time” – this is possibly because your vaginal pH changes with your cycle, and they are using it during a time in their cycle when their pH is up around a 6 or 7, perhaps. Again, this is why I wish GCL would make a higher-pH version because then those that love it half the time could love it all the time by having one for their variances throughout the month. If you want to find out if the pH factor is an issue, consider testing your own pH at various times of the month to get a better idea of lube compatibility.  Of course, this isn’t the only reason it could cause a burning for some people, but I’ll discuss that in the Ingredients section. I’m going to continue to hunt for a higher-pH thick lube for those who need it!

Why I’m a Fan of Good Clean Love Almost Naked

First, I like it because it’s thick. If you’re looking for a thick gel personal lubricant, this is it. I really hate runny lubes where I can feel something running between my ass cheeks – it’s distracting and odd to me. Good Clean Love Almost Naked stays where it should – my vulva, and my dildo. I can squirt some on and not worry at all that it’s going to drip off before I can even get the dildo inside of me.  When I took the photo below, the lube had been squirted on the dildo a half hour prior, and then carried outside and posed for a few photos. It didn’t really run until the wind knocked the dildo over – then it was more like “displaced” versus dripping.

Image shows a dollop of thick clear gel clinging to a light purple dildo

Second, I like the scent and taste. It’s warm. I realize that’s an odd way to describe a scent and taste, but that’s my brain, folks. It’s vanilla, but barely. Although they do make a Cinnamon Vanilla version, the Good Clean Love Almost Naked has a little something there. The taste is subtle and not lingering, but the scent lingers on my hand if I don’t wash it off (like when I tested it on the back of my hand). Some people have noted that the scent lingers even after a washing. I have chemicals sensitivities but the odor of this lube isn’t strong enough to bother me in the least. I only smell it if I bring my hand up to my nose. 

When it begins to dry (absorb into your skin) it doesn’t get sticky. At all. A little saliva reactivated it really well though, even when I’d let it completely dry. I’m really loving this lube!

The Details

Good Clean Love Almost Naked is one of the few lubes out there where we know the osmolality number – GCL is 269, and vaginal mucus is 280. It’s about as iso-osmotic as we’re likely to find in a lube. In case you need a refresher on osmolality, here’s my bizarre way of explaining it, taken from the Big Lube Guide page:

We’ve got three situations – the best is if the lube is iso-osmotic – meaning your cells and the lube sit there next to each other, happy, making each other better. They’re content. If the osmolality is low, i.e. hypo-osmotic, then the lube is like my Italian best friend’s mom – eat, eat! It’s feeding the cells too much water, and at some point they will burst. When does this matter the most? If you’re trying to conceive. Hypo-osmotic lubes would kill the lil swimmers. The most common situation is when the osmolality is high, i.e. hyper-osmotic. It’s the vampire situation – the lube comes in all charming at first and things seem okay. The lube feels really slippery, which is great! But it’s slippery because it’s drinking the moisture from your cells. When they have no more to give, they are dead and dry. The outer layer of cells will slough off and leave your mucus lining very vulnerable, like standing in a snowstorm without winter gear. STI transmission can increase and at-risk people are at greater risk for infections – this is the same group of people who need to use more lube than the average person. Diabetics, those with a compromised immune system, those undergoing treatment for cancer, etc. If your partner has Herpes, you’re doing everything you can to avoid transmission – consider the lube, as well. Stick to iso-osmotic lubes.

There’s more to love! (But wait! There’s More!).  Info provided by GCL, as displayed on SheVibe:

Good Clean Love organic personal lubricants enhance your love making naturally. They can help to reduce vaginal dryness and improve vaginal wetness. Our natural and organic personal lubricants are 100% vegan, paraben, glycerin and petrochemical free.

  • Reduces vaginal dryness, increases vaginal wetness- naturally!
  • No parabens, no glycerin, no silicone, no petrochemicals.
  • 100% Natural and Organic ingredients
  • Safe for latex, toys, and use throughout pregnancy
  • Protects and moisturizes sensitive tissues
  • Works with the body to simulate natural lubrication
  • 100% Edible and Cruelty-free
  • Recommended by healthcare professionals and sex therapists nationwide


Ingredients: Organic Aloe Barbadensis Leaf Juice, Xanthan Gum, Agar, Potassium Sorbate, Sodium Benzoate, Citric Acid, Natural Flavors

Aloe is very soothing, but some people are allergic to it, so that will suck. Some people are sensitive to Citric Acid which is often found in lubes that need a natural preservative. Both of these ingredients can cause a burning sensation, so if you have known sensitivities and allergies, give it a test first – just a little dollop and try it just before a bath or shower in case it does burn and you need to rinse it away quickly. Good Clean Love says that this lube is edible, of course, but I would want to lick up a big glob of it – it’s too thick. But I don’t foresee a situation where my mouth is going to be on genitals so soon after applying that much lube.

Off Label Use

One day I washed my cloth pads in a new detergent, not thinking a whole lot of it, until the next time I wore one I got the itchies. Life was pretty uncomfortable for a day until I was reminded that Good Clean Love Almost Naked has a high aloe content, and aloe is pretty awesome for irritations. It really calmed things down so that I could tolerate the irritation.


Just like there’s no one single perfect sex toy, no “best” that works for everyone, there’s no one best personal lube either. I really love Good Clean Love but I understand it’s not going to be everyone’s favorite. While I am baffled by the few on-site reviews I’ve seen calling it “runny” or “sticky”, I can only assume theirs went bad? Maybe they reviewed a different product than the one they owned? All I know is that is GCL is super thick and really lovely for me. If it sounds like something that would work for you, you can find it at Shevibe (who carries the most GCL products), Smitten Kitten, or Amazon – but use caution with Amazon. Make sure the “freshness seal” is in place (both the one over the cap and the foil bit you have to peel off after removing the cap).


 Posted by at 6:50 pm
Apr 292016

Fiera Arouser for HerArouser, “pre-hancer”, “before-play” whatever you want to call the Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her – Don’t call it a sex toy

That’s the first thing I learned about the Fiera Arouser. From their uncomfortable presence at SHE NYC1 to their interactions with review bloggers who genuinely wanted to work with the company. So despite me writing about my issues lately with mental health and low libido I wasn’t sure how I’d be received by them when I contacted them to review the Fiera. So far I’ve only seen some questionable (at best) magazine “reviews” and I knew that it needed some input from a professional sex toy critic because at the end of the day, it’s still a sex toy. I know that the word “toy” cheapens it and “sex toy” (according to Nuelle) means that people will expect it to deliver an orgasm, but that’s what things are called in this industry. It’s a catch-all term, it’s generic. Is it something you use to make your sex life better? Then it’s going to be called a sex toy in some way or another. A cock ring doesn’t necessarily give you an orgasm, but they’re a “sex toy”, right? 

So despite my initial skepticism I started to have high hopes for the Fiera Arouser for Her. I wanted my sex life back! I wanted to WANT sex again! But I had to wonder….was I really their target audience? Nuelle seems to be firmly entrenched in their demographic being post-menopausal cis women in hetero relationships who have lost their sex drive2. I had pointed out in my conversations with them that plenty of younger people have low libido problems, too, due to mental health / brain chemistry imbalances or even the mental health drugs they’re being treated with. Often people who fall into either of those camps are much less sensitive and require more effort to orgasm. So again I had to wonder what the Nuelle Fiera could do for those of us who fit that bill. Since it’s not meant to make you orgasm – it’s meant to make you aroused -could it still be a beneficial tool? 

In the website/manual, Nuelle states that it’s going to take you 3-4 attempts to really get the hang of using the Fiera Arouser for Her – figuring out placement, which of the two included SofSense heads are right for you, etc. But they do stress that once properly positioned it should work for you within 5-15 minutes of use. It says right on their site that a study was done that showed that after using Fiera for 4 weeks many saw increases in arousal, etc. Yet when I asked for more SofSense rings to continue my trial and be as thorough as possible in my review, I was smoothly and subtly denied3. I’ve never had a sex toy testing session cut short like this.

Because I may be the only sex toy reviewer to write about the Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her I wanted to be certain I’d answer every question that people had about it. You can read the answers to the most-asked questions below but I also recommend the video because you’ll learn more about the Fiera, how it works, what it does and get a closer look at this mystifying SofSense ring.

This review is so lengthy because I wanted to cover everything, yet at the same time I still feel very unhelpful. I’m just one person. I checked out the reviews on the Fiera website and, to their credit, it appears they have not removed the negative reviews. There are a lot of “reviews” and it clearly doesn’t work for everyone – it seems to be rated well by most, though. But it seems that they have so many reviews because they gave a lot of units away for free with this House Party thing. Many of the reviews noted that they received theirs for free this way. Now that Nuelle is also selling the Fiera Arouser on Amazon, it seems that some people who also posted a review on the Nuelle site are posting the same review on Amazon.

What You Should Know

The Nuelle Fiera is, first and foremost, not going to give you an orgasm. They do say (on the site and in the manual) that in their studies some people preferred to leave the Fiera on and “wear” it during sex and feel that they were able to have a clitoral orgasm with its aid. The Fiera also uses true suction, as you’ve seen in the video. It’s strong enough to leave marks on my skin (hand, cheek) but I’ve not consistently seen my clitoris become engorged like I would expect from something with suction. And really, that’s the primary way it’s supposed to work as far as I understand it – to bring in blood flow. Aroused genitals have a rush of blood flow so if you work backwards then the theory is you’ll be aroused from extra, encouraged blood flow. Fiera is not intended to be used like a vibrator (Fiera feels subtle and is meant to encourage blood flow and create interest). Because Fiera utilizes gentle suction and stimulation, it does not feel like a vibrator and you are not meant to achieve an orgasm while using it.

They talk a lot about “figuring out” which SofSense ring is right for you, without ever telling you what the differences are. They will only say that most women prefer the “clear” ring. It turns out that one is deeper than the other. I’d say that if you have minimal labia / more exposed clitoris, you’ll want the clear ring. If you have large labia, a chubby vulva and/or a buried clitoris, you may need the white ring. What if neither work? How will you know if it’s a case of the Fiera not working for you, or the ring not working for you? I don’t have an answer. I wish I did. For all I know my problems with the Fiera could be that the white ring is not deep enough. Perhaps they did not prototype test their rings on overweight women?


How the Fiera Arouser Feels In Use

I can never feel the suction on my vulva/clitoris. Ever. And if I don’t turn up the vibrations, then I’m not really feeling anything and it’s not doing anything. I can lay there for 15 minutes on a very low vibration, relying on the “suction” to bring in bloodflow but it’s just really suctioning to my labia. I don’t feel that my clitoris is in on that action, certainly not like when I apply it to the fleshy pad under my thumb on the palm of my hand. Then I feel suction, and can see the lines on my skin where it’s clear suction was happening. I do not feel confident that that is happening with the plush, wavy landscape of my vulva. When I’ve experimented and finally really felt something GOOD it’s been the vibration. On the almost-high setting you can use the patterns and there’s one that hits the three vibrating lumps in succession so that it feels a bit like something is touching your clitoris in circles around it. That felt nice. But the setting that feels the nicest to me is the very high vibration setting – it’s a rapid pulse of all three vibrating nubs (the patterns aren’t accessible here) and it feels …. thuddy in the most gentle way that thuddy could feel. It is not buzzy, I wouldn’t maybe go so far as to say it’s rumbly but it’s NICE. I like it. If I then grab the body of the Fiera and, taking care, press down a little more to get more clitoral contact and move it around ever-so-slightly I almost feel like, given some time and some porn, I could come. Almost. That will never happen though because it is on this setting that they’ve installed a fail-safe; a clit-block, if you will. It will overheat and abruptly shut off and refuse to work for 5-10 minutes by which time you’ve moved on to something else – since the Fiera is not designed to give an orgasm, I suppose this makes sense…somehow. But this brings me right back around to this – if what I’m primarily feeling is the vibrations, then why won’t a standard vibrator work just fine?

Don’t get me wrong though – this isn’t strong, this isn’t going to make you orgasm if you need vibrators to orgasm. There’s a chance this could make you orgasm if you’re particularly sensitive, if you come easily, and you like pinpoint stimulation. If your genitals require a lot of sensation/time/effort to orgasm from anorgasmia or lack of sensitivity from meds or that’s just how your body is wired, you won’t find that the Fiera Arouser is helpful for building arousal through stimulation because you simply won’t feel very much.  Nuelle has said that some women in their studies continued to “wear” the Fiera Arouser past the “pre-game” session and through PIV sex4. I think that the ability to do that will depend greatly on how you both position yourselves to fuck, how large his penis is and how much space there is between your clitoris and your vaginal opening. I apparently have less space because the edge of the SofSense ring was very very close to my vaginal opening and even taking care with dildo thrusting I knocked into the Fiera and knocked it off course. 

Where the Fiera Arouser for Her Goes wrong

It shuts off after 10 minutes on high – yes, you read that right. They recommend anywhere from 5-15 minutes of use “pre-game”. But what if you need MORE? More time, more vibration? You won’t get it if you need more vibration. When put on the highest vibration setting the Fiera Arouser for Her will overheat and shut off. You will need to turn it off and leave it off for 5 minutes, effectively killing the “mood”. This is in competition for the dumbest thing about the Fiera. Why even have a high setting if it’s going to shut off and not allow you to turn it back on for 5 minutes?? This feels like a way to control the usage of Fiera to forcibly keep it in the category they want it to be; a way to get away from the “icky” connotations of the term “sex toy”. Either don’t have that setting, or fix the overheating -> shutoff situation.

The SofSense Rings need to be constantly replaced – Nuelle tried many versions of the ring and the one that worked best unfortunately has such delicate silicone that they say it’s only good for 2-3 uses. Or 3-5. I’m not sure. The manual says 2-3, the website says 3-5. I don’t know if they’re being very conservative or I was extra careful but I know I got more like 8 uses out of each head.The reason is because the silicone is so delicate and there will be micro-tears occurring (where? I don’t know) that will compromise the ability to suction and stay put on your genitals. I can confirm that that starts to happen. I know that I got way more than 5 uses out of each ring before finally my preferred ring stopped working quite as well.  Here’s the biggest problem, h/t to Thor for pointing this out to me – Nuelle is a newer company. They, for now, make just one thing: the Fiera. What happens when they go out of business? The product that is actually working for you is now a hunk of junk because you can’t buy any more rings. This might lead some people to just buy up 100 rings to stockpile like Elaine and her sponges. “Is tonight Ring-worthy?” will be a thing people will wonder. They will start to carve hashmarks in their nightstand to keep track of how many times their rings have been used and every 5th hash gets a new ring. It will spawn Lords of the Rings joke in the more geeky of couples.

In the manual they insist you cannot share the device or rings with another person. What if both you and your partner have vulvas and wanted to share? Well. I don’t know what to tell you. I don’t know why they say this. Is it because the silicone in the middle of the ring is nearly condom-thin? At first I worried that they say this because it’s not really silicone but it passed my flame test5.

It’s $250 and for now is only available buying directly from Nuelle‘s website or Amazon for $260 because they don’t want sex toy retailers carrying it because it’s “not a sex toy”. For $250 you get a small fabric pouch and 1 each of 2 styles of SofSense rings6. Available separately is a hard-sided case that will do a much better job of holding your extra heads safely + all the accouterments, and the case reminds me a lot of the Womanizer case which was, by the way, included with the Womanizer W100. Nuelle is selling the case for $15 – for fucks sake just make it standard! And for that matter, they should either include 2 of each Sofsense ring OR a voucher for a completely free first refill kit of rings. Each pack of 3 rings will run you $20 including shipping which is astounding – however if you buy more at a time, you’ll save because the shipping remains $5. This means that if you like the Fiera Arouser and use it often enough to go through 3 rings a month, let’s say, you’re going to invest at least $200 a year in rings if you buy them two 3-packs at a time.

Sometimes they have a $50 off coupon for the unit itself, sometimes $25 off, but a great many people are going to balk at even $200 for something that may or may not work, that you may or may not end up having to abandon due to inability to buy more SofSense heads, etc etc.

How does the Nuelle Fiera Arouser compare to the Womanizer? 

The Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her and the epi24 Womanizer W100 (or W500) are nothing alike. The only similarity is that they both work on the clitoris. I think it’s the “suction” aspect that is making people form this connection between the two but they couldn’t be any less alike. I’ve maintained that the Womanizer isn’t using true suction – it’s pulses of air and it can form a slight suction seal when it’s properly placed on the clitoris, but that’s about it. The Womanizer also doesn’t really vibrate in the traditional sense – the air pulses may mimic vibration but I’ve never felt vibration that could be accounted for from any other source. If there were a motor for vibrations I’d have felt it on the nose of the Womanizer but you don’t.  Also the Womanizer focuses rather pin-pointedly on the clitoris and the Womanizer is guaranteed to make you orgasm or your money back. When it works for you it usually works well and will give you a strong orgasm. For some people the build-up to orgasm with the Womanizer is very quick; for others it is slow and that slow climb is either boring and bland or (for me) a really nice, arousing build-up that feels quite a bit like oral sex.

Are there better methods for increasing arousal?

While the Nuelle Fiera Arouser can provide suction that most other sex toys cannot7 I do believe that a “regular sex toy” may provide similar benefits. But I don’t have trials and studies to back me up, like Nuelle does.

Suction is not the only thing that can increase blood flow: “stimulating” arousal balms 8 and cannabis treatments work for some people. These balms and topicals are probably the best place to start, since they are the cheapest. 

You know what else also increases blood flow? Heat. I’ve used the Rosa Rouge for that exact purpose in the past with success by applying the length of the Rosa along my vulva. Of course the Rosa Rouge may be even pricier than the Nuelle Fiera (but at least with the Rosa Rouge you’ll have a super-powered vibrator that can help you orgasm if you have sensitivity problems or other reasons for finding manual orgasms difficult). The also-expensive Afterglow Vibe supposedly uses infrared light which can (in addition to claiming to produce stronger orgasms) build arousal. A much more affordable option is the old-school Berman Aphrodite wand which has an infrared panel on it that warms and can be held to the genitals (I’m unsure though of how warm it really gets).  Moderately priced is the umpteen-in-one Wahl Heated Massager.

If you’re looking for a vibrator to wake things up just by using it on low I’d recommend going with one that at least starts off gentle but definitely has rumbling vibrations – surface-buzzy vibes can just numb and irritate. The Crave Vesper, We-Vibe Touch, Je Joue Mimi Soft or even Eroscillator are some that I’d recommend in addition to the Rosa Rouge. A cheap option is the Doc Johnson Black Magic Bullet – if this works for you, then invest in a nicer vibrator. For a softer vibration intensity and softer vibrator overall, consider the Tenga Iroha Yuki, or maybe the Tori for a version with some more intensity.

DOES Physical Arousal Create Desire? Is the Fiera Arouser a “cure” for low libido?

In my experiences, no. But I think that that was because the Fiera didn’t really create physical arousal for me except for one time. I stress “physical” arousal because it did not lead to desire for sex. In the past, for me, things that have more consistently created desire were things that stimulated my BRAIN – erotic images and graphic gifs on Tumblr, or erotic short stories. If I care enough to try out the Fiera for purposes of increasing my overall libido then I should care enough to try out other methods that are less costly, first. I should browse my Tumblr dashboard, but not masturbate for a quick fix – I should transfer that over to my partner when possible. Due to my low libido I’ve often used sex toys in recent months out of duty and not desire – a good toy and some good Tumblr porn can get me to orgasm even though I started off feeling absolutely nothing sexual; meaning I didn’t reach for the vibrator because I was aroused, I just used it for the review purposes. Arousal and the desire to keep using the toy through to orgasm has definitely happened though, even with the shitty toys that won’t ever bring me to orgasm. I simply reach for another sex toy.

Are people with low libido due to mental illness or mental health drugs different from women with arousal issues due to hormonal changes from menopause? I wish I had the answer. I’d like to see someone with the experience of a sex toy reviewer review the Fiera from Nuelle’s stated target demographic – menopausal women aged 40-65. Why do I make the distinction of it being someone with experience in sex toys? Because those who have reviewed dozen and hundreds of sex toys tend to learn their body and genitals a bit better than a good portion of the population – especially when you consider that some people in this age group may not have ever really masturbated.

Further reading on the subject of arousal, desire and more: Emily Nagoski who wrote Come As You Are.

I’d also like to point out that this general concept isn’t actually as new and unique as I thought. Mandy pointed out that this sounds quite similar to something called the NuGyn Eros. Mary Roach interviewed some people, asking the same basic question I’m asking – what’s so special about the suction? The device? Couldn’t someone just masturbate and achieve the same end which is increased blood flow? Couldn’t someone just get the stimulation from their vibrator? Experts surmised that perhaps one could but there hadn’t been any studies done on that. You can get the Eros but you need a prescription.

My Personal Trial Period With the Fiera Arouser for Her

For 9 days I played with the Fiera Arouser, before losing interest in continuing use. I tried it with little vibration; I tried it on the almost-highest setting. I tried it for 10 minutes, 15 minutes, 20 minutes. One day in the first 9 days I used it on high (and that’s when it overheated and shut off) and that was the day I felt the most aroused9.  I took a break for a week and then, with renewed insistence on giving this thing the very most fairest of shakes, I went back to using it. Out of the times I have tried it (maybe 13 times total on my vulva) only about 3 times led to clitoral engorgement and some increase in vaginal fluids. Of those 3 times only one time led to a slight increase in arousal – otherwise there was a big brain/body disconnect and frankly I started to wonder if I was broken.  There is one thing I did in my trials that I am betting the company will use to say that my testing was inaccurate: I did not schedule sex with my husband and then use the Fiera right before sex. I used the Fiera to get me in the mood for sex and if I was in the mood then I would have said “Honey, let’s fuck”.  It didn’t work out that way for me.  But maybe it could have. Maybe using the Fiera is a different thing altogether for situations like mine, where my low libido is due to mental health issues. Maybe it requires more patience, more days of using it and it not working and just being okay with that. Maybe. But I’ll never know, because my trial period was heavily limited because the rings wore out.

Here’s the thing: I like sex toys. I’m not adverse to having them feature prominently in my sex life. My husband isn’t adverse, either. Our sex has gotten so much better for us both ever since we brought good toys into the equation. I see absolutely no reason for me to use the Fiera instead of a vibrator on a setting that won’t make me come just yet, used during “foreplay” until I decide I want an orgasm. Is my way of doing things the right way for everybody? Of course not. But a great clitoral orgasm pre-PIV-sex is just the ticket for me, and us. It ramps up my arousal and it makes my body produce a ton of natural lubrication plus it wakes up my g-spot to the point where I’m in near-constant ecstasy during penetrative sex. It takes the pressure off him to “give me” an orgasm (since we’ve already established that I’m not an easy-comer and have issues with sensitivity) and it also takes pressure off of him to last longer during PIV sex. I’m not trying to orgasm during penetration so then the penetration is all about making my g-spot continue to feel good and making him feel good and orgasm if he can. And if things are so good for him that PIV sex only lasts a few minutes….that’s fine! We’ve both already reached a mutually agreeable and wonderful conclusion to our fun!



I was provided the Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her at no charge in exchange for my honest review. I wanted to try it out because of my long-term issues with low libido due to brain chemistry / depression. Links contained within are affiliate links. 




  1. Where they actually said out loud that they didn’t belong there because their product wasn’t a sex toy
  2. Their website mentions “relationship fatigue” and talks about “sex after the baby” but in discussions with them they are saying that their biggest target is ages 45-65. Also, please note that for this review I will be using the term “woman” and being less gender-inclusive than I normally am. This is probably a product that really is meant for cis women. If you are a trans man and your clitoris is larger, then I don’t think this will fit. The Nuelle Fiera site is very focused on using the term “woman” to refer to someone who has a vulva and for the sake of continuity and understanding who most of the readers of this review will be, I’m just going to use “woman” when I need to
  3. By that point I’d outright said that I wanted to be sure that it’s not a case of it not working for me on the given days I tried it and really wanted to see if the 4-week trial could do something for me, but was told: “The purpose of our testing was not to claim that repeated use leads to better results (or that you have to use it for a specified period of time in order to feel the results). Once you get the hang of using the product, you should feel the results immediately. It often takes women a few tries to get proper placement and the sense of what level of intensity and which pattern they prefer, but the results are immediate. It’s the physical arousal that creates the desire.”
  4. And that those women feel that the Fiera was then instrumental in their orgasm
  5. I had to be super careful – the silicone is very soft and very thin, I would have had the entire thing go up in flames easily if I let it go but that would be normal since the silicone is so delicate and thin. NOT a sign of it not being silicone. The telltale grey ash was present after smoldering.
  6. Only one of them will really work for you – the difference is the depth. I needed the white ring which has more depth because of my chubby vulva and tiny clitoris
  7. I have yet to find a silicone clitoris/vulva pump, or really a clitoris pump that walks the line between hard-core serious suction with glass tubes and cheesy, tacky likely-not-to-work hand pumps in glittery purple TPR by the various Big 5 companies
  8.  It’s pretty evenly split between people who try the toxic ones that contain irritating ingredients and experience a bad, burning sensation, people who try it and like it, and people for whom it does absolutely nothing. I have found two items which Smitten Kitten carries that may work and do not contain toxic ingredients (but DO contain natural ingredients that some people may find irritating) – ON Natural Arousal Balm and Southern Butter Enhance Stimulating Butter.
  9. However, this wasn’t an arousal that led to my brain wanting sex – it simply led to my genitals having the equivalent experience of my mouth being allowed a small taste of a sugary treat and wanting more more more. I just wanted an orgasm. I didn’t want the “hassle” of sex. So I grabbed a vibrator
 Posted by at 11:16 am
Apr 212016

DIY setup for making my own vaginal THC suppositories like Foria Relief. Photo shows finished domed nuggets of pea-green cocoa butter, a mini ice cube mold, mixing bowl, jar of cocoa butter and syringe of medical THC oil.Foria became known to the sex toy world when they created a THC-enhanced lube that has gotten a range of reactions; but I’m not talking about any of that today. I’m talking about Foria’s latest product which is sadly not available to most of the US – the Foria Relief vaginal suppositories.  Yeah, I know, this isn’t my usual topic but it still involves Lilly being a geek, doing experiments.

Not long after Foria released Relief my Twitter timeline was buzzing with reactions and opinions – from “Cool” (mixed with damn, I wish I could have this) to some really infuriating, uneducated judgment and misconceptions. I expected better from the people I follow because they’re mostly pretty open-minded folks. No, you’re not “shoving weed up your vagina”, you’re not going to get high and yes, it’s perfectly fucking healthy. Let me assure you that using any Foria product or any topical THC item (or really any form of cannabis that isn’t burning the flower to ashes) is a whole lot healthier than drinking alcohol – which is quite easily socially accepted. It is certainly healthier than taking prescription or OTC pain relievers.

I live in Connecticut and have a medical marijuana card. I officially received it to help me deal with anxiety related to PTSD and I also unofficially use it for pain relief and all of the health benefits that come from CBD (the non-psychotropic other beneficial component to marijuana). Here’s something that most people do not know: Using THC topically will not get you stoned. It will work quickly, and safely, to relieve pain wherever it is applied.

A few days before my experiment I started having bad menstrual cramps – uncommonly bad. Nearly always my cramps are silenced with 3 Advil, but not this time. My mind immediately went to the Foria Relief suppositories but I, of course, didn’t have them and can’t get them. I do, however, have concentrated THC oil in syringes which I use to make my own medibles and my own topical pain relief. Nothing else on the planet has given me pain relief in my feet (I suffer from severe, incurable plantar fasciitis or something else that they have yet to diagnose) and I easily get to the point now where I am in agony just to hobble around after moderate activity but a home-made foot spray gives me short-lived relief. At one point in my life I was getting expensive (painful, useless, unhealthy-for-me) corticosteroid shots in my back. I relied on patches that I would plaster all over my lower back – one for pain relief, one to relax the muscles. These methods barely worked. Topical THC in a coconut oil salve works nearly immediately and almost totally with zero side effects. It’s only drawback is that it tends to only last 1-3 hours. So I’m well-versed in how and why these Foria Relief suppositories work.

Now, this isn’t a review specifically for Foria Relief since, as I said, I can’t get them. But after reading a few other reviews – one of which was super informative despite the irritating headline – I learned what the suppositories are made of and decided to create my own. My current syringe of oil doesn’t have much CBD in it so my version is 96% THC composition, 4% CBD. Mine are also an odd shade of green (from the yellowish hue of cocoa butter plus dirty-motor-oil-brown of the THC concentrated oil-goo) but that’s okay. At first I tried to just use the coconut oil salve I already had on hand, but I ended up with a mess as coconut oil quickly seeped out of me. I did shove a thumb-sized chunk of solid coconut oil in my vag, after all. I also temporarily had a sort of itchy vulva but I think it was just from the sensation of the oil slowly leaking out of me? It may also have been a tingling sensation from the THC since I’d never experienced topical THC on the sensitive mucous membranes. I’ve never had an itchy vulva from coconut oil before. I celebrated 4/20 by making my own more “proper” suppositories with cocoa butter. Even with the smaller amount of melty stuff in my DIY suppositories, oil still leaked out of me. I feel like this would pair best with a menstrual cup, perhaps, to help keep the melted oils in your vagina while you wait for the cannabis magic to happen – which incidentally happens pretty quick. I get much faster pain relief from topical THC than I do from swallowing a few Advil.

Whether it was the spur-of-the-moment low “dose” coconut oil or the homemade 60mg THC “pastille” shaped domes, I experienced something amazing. I can tell you more of how I made these if anybody wants to know but I think I know what you are really here to find out: Did it work?

Skeptics, marijuana critics, judgy-Judys and the ill-informed can shut the hell up because this was a godsend. Even my “back cramps” went away. I don’t think I really needed to make these as strong as I did and I will try out breaking a piece in half for the next time. The cost of the THC oil, for me, was $70 for 760 mg and I made 12 very strong suppositories. Is this affordable? Not for most. Is this available to everyone? Sadly no, but you’re more likely able to DIY a cannabis suppository than buy Foria Relief which is only available in California. If you suffer from debilitating menstrual cramps and currently take liver- and stomach-harming pain relievers that come with a host of unwanted side effects, this will be a welcome relief if you can find a way to get it.  I will be saving these for the bad days, when I can’t ignore the cramps and instead of reaching for Advil I’ll use my THC suppositories. The only thing that the cannabis suppositories don’t relieve is the phenomenon known as period poops and the nausea that many sometimes also have in the first few days. It was disheartening when my uterus cramps died off but my intestinal cramps did not. Still, something was better than nothing. I am currently writing this 4 hours after my last dose and am still pain-free from uterine cramps.

If you’re in Canada you can get Cannalife products but they don’t yet have a special suppository – they do have a Foria Pleasure-like genital oil. There’s the Salve1 which I can attest to working well as a pain relief salve but the odor is very musky and earthy and not really my favorite. It does indicate use for menstrual cramp pain relief, they’re just not outright saying “shove a thimblefull up your vag” so before you try that, consider asking the company first. The ingredients in the salve are all body-safe.


Author’s Note: I wasn’t compensated by anyone to write this post, and I’m not partnered with Foria or representing them here. I’m writing about this because I want to; it’s a product I needed and a product that many are skeptical about. If you want to know more about how cannabis and sex relate to each other, please go check out my friend Ashley’s site, Cannasexual.



  1. I used this stuff on my gallbladder removal surgery scars and my doctor was amazed at my 2-week followup on how well I’d healed in that time. It didn’t help the extreme itch from the healing but it made the wounds less painful, it made the muscles they cut into hurt a lot less and I didn’t need to use the Percocet they prescribed me.
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Nov 202014

L'amourose Mya BeadsThe L’Amourose Mya Beads certainly are pretty, I’ll give them that. While they look very faceted and gem-like on the L’amourose site, the faceted design in reality is under a smooth, clear plastic dome and can be hard to see. I imagine this is to make it easier to clean?  I received the Pro set for review, although I find the scarlet red of the Lite version to be more striking and gem-like.  There’s really not much difference between the Pro and Lite, which is odd. According to the site, both Pro and Lite weigh 76 grams for the duo beads. The single bead weighs 28 grams in the Lite version and 39 grams in the Pro version.

But do they work? And are they better than the contender to beat, Lelo Luna Beads Classic?

Unlike the Luna Beads, the L’Amourose Mya beads aren’t interchangeable within the holster. You’ll get a single bead and a double bead in each set, so there’s a lot less gradual change in weight training. The Mya beads work on the same principle as all of these kegel  beads which is passive – a weighted inner ball knocks against the plastic outer bead which pings the PC muscles which causes a teeny contraction which is like lifting a teeny weeny barbell, each pinged contraction equaling a rep. In order to really work as best as they possibly can, the weighted ball inside really needs to ping a fair amount. I’ve never found any kegel bead set that works better than the Luna Beads Classic (their smaller versions do not work as well in my experience) due to the amount of space the weighted inner bead has to move around. Because of the oval shape of the Mya Beads though the rattle of the inner weighted bead is erratic at best. It has less room to move and if it’s hitting the short sides then it’s barely a whisper. Because of this, I wasn’t really able to feel anything happening when I wore them. I would sometimes feel it if the inner balls were rattling along the longer end of the oval but the feeling of movement just wasn’t as consistent as with the Luna Beads Classic.

The Mya Beads are encased in a thin silicone holster that is permanent. On the up side, the silicone retrieval band is not stretchy! No accidental rubber-band snaps to the vulva, yay! On the down side, the fact that the silicone holster can’t be removed is making is difficult to get these totally clean. I’ve pretty much resorted to a toothbrush for getting in between the double-beat set.

L'amourose Mya Beads cleaning issues - despite being washed well, there's still evidence of dried fluids where the silicone holster meets the beads L'amourose Mya Beads Case

As for the physical size, the single is 32mm x 37mm, compared to Luna Classic which is 35mm around, and the useless-in-my-opinion Luna Mini is 29mm around. So the double set is nothing small, and those who found Luna Classic uncomfortable won’t like the Mya Beads.

I’m sad that I can’t give these my stamp of approval. I think they’re the best-looking kegel beads around and the L’amourose warranty is great – 18 months.  They do come with a hard plastic carrying case (Luna Beads only come with a fabric pouch) which is also classy. The price (MSRP seems to be $65, but Lovehoney lists them at a whopping $80) reflects the classy design, the case and the warranty and if the inner beads rattled to my satisfaction I would feel better about recommending them despite the lack of interchangeable weights. Overall though, I’m impressed with L’amourose as a brand and am enjoying the hell out of two of their vibrators, which I’ll be reviewing soon and will be available from SheVibe very soon.  So while I can’t really recommend the Mya Beads, I can tell you to wait right here, something good is about to happen.

Jun 062014


Pleasure Purse - A sex toy storage bag

Update: I can’t recommend the Pleasure Purse anymore. I’ve ripped the lining on two of them now. It’s an acetate “satin” lining that is quite thin and when you have little or nothing in the bottom compartment, the weight of everything in the purse stresses on the seams of the lining in the main compartment. Since the lining is such a delicate material the tiny piercings from the needle and thread weaken it, and it rips. It took quite a bit of use to have this happen and each time mine was replaced; I’m not sure if this is because I’m a reviewer, or if the company is willing to do it for everyone. Until the Pleasure Purse lining is changed to something more sturdy, I can’t fully recommend this.

I’ll spill the beans early: The Pleasure Purse is the best sex toy storage option for travel that I’ve ever seen. I’ve reviewed various and sundry sex toy storage options in my time and have never really been impressed past first blush. My interest in the cutesy-kitsch of the Devine Playchest faded once the shitty quality came to light. Their earlier attempt at a travel bag also failed for me. For home use, the Toibocks was a let down for the price despite its unique nature.  Another travel option, the now-defunct For Your Nymphomation XL Toybox case was great at first, but again quality problems revealed themselves a few months down the line. Plus stuffing things into pouches became really annoying.

I kind of have a “thing” for specialized, pretty-lookin storage options beyond sex toys. So for those who scoff and say “just buy some affordable luggage or a duffel bag”……you’re not my people. I don’t understand you, you don’t understand me. That’s fine. For my people? Oh, listen up. You’re going to love this.

Things I Love

The Pleasure Purse is intended to be used primarily for travel, but there’s no reason you can’t use it for stationary storage in your closet, either. Pleasure Purse looks like a posh, overnight bag – supple, slightly shiny garment leather with an embroidered logo on one side. It’s large enough to work as an overnighter bag for those who don’t overpack, unless your overnight trip also involves a lot of gear for bondage. You’ll see first in the video what I was able to fit in for use as an overnight bag. At this point, the bag was very full – it was a little too heavy for me to comfortably carry through an airport, yet okay for a trip from car to hotel room. My husband felt the weight was easily managed for an airport-length trek by using the included shoulder strap. But to really test the quality of the Pleasure Purse, I piled it with about 12-14 pounds (or the equivalent weight of my overweight cat in her vet carrier) of sex toys and hung it up by the straps for a few weeks to see how the stitching would hold up. I’m happy to report that everything looks just fine. This bag is REALLY well-made. When used as sex toy storage at home, you can really pack a lot into the Pleasure Purse. It’s like a freaking clown car. The second half of the video shows what I fit in for the “closet sex toy storage” – I should note, at the full point it was too heavy for me to lift and I did slightly fear damaging the bag with that much weight. If it’s just sitting in your closet you could really cram a lot in there.

I love the overall design, and the number of pockets. I adore the look of it because it’s unisex from the exterior and absolutely would not raise any eyebrows. The size is just great. I come from a long line of professional over-packers, intent on having any item I might possibly perhaps need; the size of the Pleasure Purse is big enough that I can fit in my weird things but manageable enough size that I feel the desire to reign myself in and contain my packing to just this bag – and can, with ease. And I really have to mention quality, again. I could not find one single flaw on this bag, one place where they cut corners. The bottom of the bag is sturdy, and there are little feet so the leather isn’t touching dirty floor. The zippers glide along easily, and the zipper pulls wont’ break off anytime soon. The way the zipper pulls meet up so that they can be locked is also well done. It’s probably the highest quality sex toy storage bag on the market.

Deconstructing the Pleasure Purse

On the outside, there are 3 pockets. Two deep side pockets provide easy access for your cell, keys and other things you’d like to keep at hand. There is also a bottom, zippered compartment that isn’t as useful as I assumed. It’s really best for books or things that you would put into a pouch. Leah told me that they originally intended for this bottom, zippered compartment to also lock, but had problems finding a way to get 2 locks that worked with one key.  Once the bag is filled up with items, the only thing separating the main contents from the bottom compartment is the satin liner fabric. Small objects would be hard to remove but even more difficult to put back in unless there’s a solid layer of clothing at the bottom of the main compartment inside. I think that for this bottom compartment to really work, the zipper needs to extend to the sides and the bottom of the main compartment needs to have a solid bottom. This way the bag could be unzipped and opened up more fully if needed, and items could be stored in the bottom without the worry of rooting around under the mass of stuff inside the bag.

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Pleasure Purse - A sex toy storage bag Pleasure Purse - A sex toy storage bag Pleasure Purse - A sex toy storage bag

On the inside, one side has a large, zippered pocket while the other side has 1 zippered mesh compartment and 1 elastic-banded mesh compartment. The mesh compartments are great for holding accessories, chargers, etc. The zippered pocket inside would be great for lingerie, undies, smaller sex toys like cock rings and bullet vibes or even a blindfold. I highly recommend that toiletries, lubes and massage oils be double-bagged in leak-proof plastic bags – if anything should leak, there is no waterproof lining to prevent the leather from staining. If the satin liner stains, you’ll only be able to very carefully handwash.

Things I Dislike

PPlockCurrently the Pleasure Purse is only available in the color option shown in these photos – black leather and a leopard print interior. I can’t say I like the leopard print interior, it feels like it’s trying too hard to be sexy. I prefer more subtle, sophisticated color pairings. I’d love to see a white/cream leather with an ocean blue lining, or a brown leather with a cream lining. I’d love to see the black leather paired with a silvery-gray lining or even just a different print like colored polka dots on black, or black on white paisley/abstract.

I’m also not a fan of the lock. I don’t love the heart motif but mostly I don’t like these little keys. They are too easily lost. I much prefer having a smaller combination lock or even one of these new “keycard” luggage locks (which was what I purchased for myself to use with this bag). So long as the lock could be all black, I don’t think it needs to have a design to it. Something low-key would be better.

Would I Recommend The Pleasure Purse?

No contest, yes I absolutely recommend it. The few things I dislike are a matter of style preference and are not deal-breakers to me. The Pleasure Purse is a bit of a spend, retailing for $120, but I feel it’s worth every penny for what it is. I also find it quite laughable that the Pleasure Purse only costs a few more dollars than the Devine Playchest, yet is infinitely more useful.  We often go visit family for the weekend, at least 5 times a year. We also plan to travel more on our own, taking short overnight trips here and there. I’ll absolutely being getting a lot of use out of the Pleasure Purse.  It is really very nice looking, comfortable to carry, extremely well-made, and very versatile.

Now available at Shevibe.com!!!


I was sent the Pleasure Purse in exchange for my very honest review.

Apr 242014

DevinePlaychestA little over four years ago I reviewed the Devine Playchest. Back then, they made it very clear everywhere you looked that this was a “limited edition” item (the item, NOT the color) and if you wanted one you should hurry up and get one.  At the EF forums, reviewers questioned just HOW “Limited Edition” this was, how many were made, and if the current “out of stock” status meant it was already gone for good. Like any slippery politician worth their salt, Devine reps were vaguebooking like champs.

*slow clap*

Brilliant marketing scheme, Devine. I fell for it, spending my points at EF to buy one. At first, I was mostly happy with the case, despite the flaws in quality and design with the lock. But within the year…. the problems began. And I stopped using it. It became a doorstop, a beast lurking in the closet, a shiny mocking lump.

In the beginning….

I originally bought the Devine Playchest not so much for toy storage, but as something neat for travel. Back then I was taking yearly trips into NYC/DC for sex bloggery events, and foresaw a need for something cute like this. But the Playchest is quite heavy all on it’s own–when you fill it up? Overwhelming. I tried filling it with sex toys to see how much it would hold, but then I literally could not lift the sucker. This was the main reason I stopped using it. I would toss toys in there because in 2010 we lived in a small-ish apartment and I didn’t have the room I do now for sex toys. But it stayed in the closet.

The Honeymoon Ended

The lock was always my biggest complaint – for such a pricey storage option, that lock was maddeningly cheap. One key bent not long after I bought it and the “lock” could be picked with a bobby pin and patience. And the spring-loaded locking latch soon stopped popping out enough after pushing it below the latching mechanism’s bar, meaning that the flap would pop up with some pressure (like during transport). After a little while, I also grew to hate the interior design. There were pockets inside the lid, but they were just mesh with elastic at the openings. Stuff would fall out. The inside was a box with a wibbly cardboard divider held in place by velcro. Stuff could only be piled haphazardly.  Another problem is with the fake patent leather.  It scuffed and tore easily, and this case never left the apartment, it wasn’t handled with anything but care. The light pink section of the lock flap and the handles started absorbing color from the black.

Then, a rep from Devine got a little condescending-bunny on me in the comments of my on-site review. Thanks for that, really. But hey, here we are — 4 years later, and not only are the cases still around but they keep coming out with new colors. Sure, the new colors look snazzy. All black; dark purple with black accents or blood red with black accents. And sadly, the cases seem good for the first few months and that’s when reviews get written.  I can’t go back and edit my reviews at EF, or I would. I’ll have to settle for updating it here.  Since it’s still readily available and still costs a bomb ($115 at Shevibe), I have got to tell you that it is not worth the investment. At all. Not unless you regularly drop $100+ on kitschy items for the sake of the looks and not the quality/function. Was it large? Yes. Was it sturdy in build? Sure. Was it relatively pretty (albeit in a certain overtly femme way)? Yes. That’s not enough to save it though, for me. For that kind of money, I’m going to be really picky.

Where Are They Now?

Currently living at Crista‘s house. Not as sex toy storage. I said “it’s pink and black and cute, but please take this puppy off my hands” and she said “awesome! The kids will love to play pirate!” and then she pirated it for herself. The end.