And when it all goes to hell…
After a lot of consideration – this weekend and this past year – and careful examination I’m requesting that my affiliate account with Tantus be closed immediately. There is no one reason, or one...
Category: Rants
Bloggers and Businesses: Is it Time to Give Up on Facebook?
As a blogger, and especially as a sexuality blogger, I’m forever frustrated with Facebook. We all are. From their “real names” policy which wasn’t just about threatened the safety of trans folx, drag performers,...
How to Ethically Use Images Online
It’s “just social media” so ethics, copyright and Intellectual Property don’t apply, right? If it’s on Google, it’s free, right? Nope, wrong. Just like you wouldn’t take a photo from a book and pass it off as yours, you cannot take someone else’s photo from the Internet without following the rules.
Sex, Lies and Video: Why I Don’t Support, or Trust, The Screaming O
Last week The Screaming O put out a factually-incorrect press release to pat themselves on the back for an imaginary job well done with regards to a panel session at Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit...
Is the Womanizer +Size a Plus Size Sex Toy?
A topic that I’ve been really up front and vocal about for ages is my weight and how that factors into sex toy use. It can’t be overlooked (but boy can it be mocked)...
There’s No Best Sex Toy
Cadillac of Vibrators. Top of the heap. One to rule them all. Everybody needs one! If you spend enough time on Reddit boards, Buzzfeed or other online mags that talk about sex/sexuality you will...
I Gave Up Vibrators for 4 Weeks
Despite this being 2016; despite the enormity of the sex toy industry; despite the amount of tech, pomp and circumstance that is being shoved into all manner of vibrators… for many people, vibrators are “naughty”. They’re inferior to “natural ways”. They offend teh menz who think that, thanks to porn, people with vaginas can come easily, often, and loudly with just some vigorous thrusting of objects into the vagina. Some people can. I envy them! Many can’t, and for that we have the work of many many scientific things and people and polls to thank: It’s a much-trotted out fact that most people with a vagina actually need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.
So what might happen to me if I give up vibrators for 4 weeks? Can my clitoris be “reformed”?
Lelo Doesn’t Care
If you thought I disliked Lelo before, wait until you read about this blood-boiling new turn of events. Today’s post covers a lot – insider information from an industry person about how little Lelo gives a crap, some random thoughts on the shadiness of this Hex condom that can break without you easily seeing that it broke (yes, seriously), and some random thoughts about them partnering with Charlie Sheen, an abuser. If that’s all not enough, they want us to believe they still are/support feminist endeavors all while emblazoning their new condom with the word “Respect” at the base Respect who? Apparently, “respect the man who wears it”. I’M. SO. DONE.
Dear Sex Toy Shops: Sex Toys are Gender Neutral. Really!
I started a bit of a rant on Twitter but I really had to go beyond 140 characters. I’ve seen a lot of great sex toy shops and a lot of crap sex toy...
Will Screaming O Finally Drop the “SEBS Silicone” Claim?
Update: This post has been edited with information I’ve been given that completely changes the narrative; information that hadn’t been made as public as their lab tests. It changes the story from one of...
Can’t Buy My Love
It took 6 years for me to be accused of being bought off. Also, I’m officially notorious. Perhaps I should change my handle to Notorious L.I.L? SheVibe is All That Some people, even other bloggers,...
Should we be paid for our reviews?
Earlier this year I ranted on a topic similar to this; many companies have no idea the sort of effort we put into our sex toy reviews. The testing, the photos, the writing, the...
The Posh Life of a Sex Toy Reviewer?
Disclaimers: This post is emo and ranty. Wibbly math and fuzzy logic and a fuck ton of rough estimating is involved. Sure it’s a really rough estimate, but I’m not looking to be precise here...
Who Should Decide if a Sex Toy is Worth its Price?
When you review a sex toy, do you talk price? Is it just me? I feel that it’s an important point to cover, one that my readers would want to know. If I were...
Why I’m Not OK With Companies Publishing My Review
Many sex toy review bloggers, especially right now, got their start at EdenFantasys, a place that handles on-site reviews very differently than any other site. I actually like that aspect (it’s one of the...
