I’d say about once a week I am asked by my readers to recommend sex toys. Men, women, couples…..specific queries or newbie general “I just want a sex toy” questions, I get them all.

And you know what? I genuinely like doing it. Unless of course the asker gets too personal and creepy – I’m basically your sales associate….not your sex surrogate. Overall though most are nice and respectful requests. I don’t just rattle off a few typical suggestions, though. I gather the data about the person/couple using the items and I  go digging. I love doing this for people, because I like helping and sharing what I’ve learned, but it’s not a quick process so it’s really nice when they go buy the products I recommended via my affiliate links.

Today’s Ask Lilly segment is a recommendation list for a couple who have never used toys before.

The Details:

She: doesn’t orgasm clitorally very well from fingers or tongue and (much like I used to be) tends to have her hubby go for g-spot play during sex. Is probably curious about vibrators for both area

He: is also looking for a toy to initiate himself with. What good is finding your prostate if you don’t have the right tools to make it happy?

They: are looking for items that can be used together, or for just her on her own. Willing to try a few things out in the first go and spend a little more for better products, but without buying only luxury items. They are trying to increase her pleasure level overall and get away from the frustration they both feel when she doesn’t orgasm.

G-Spot Recommendations:

Normally I recommend my beloved Pure Wand to everyone, but if you’ve never owned any toys, I think you should learn the new adventures of you + sex toys with something a little more forgiving than metal. I also find that the Pure Wand is more about solo play than him using it on her.

1. Lelo Ella – I never tried this one because I already loved my Pure Wand, plus I had already figured out that I need the shape of the Pure Wand to work with my arms & body. But Ella is rated very highly by many of my peers.

2. Jollie - Since he has a girth a little above average, at 1.5″, I felt that she would be able to handle the Jollie. Some women who are accustomed to a slimmer cock might not be as receptive to a filling toy like this right out of the gate. I like the Jollie because of that odd handle which can massage the clit, or have a bullet vibe stuck in.

3. Lelo Elise – I recommended this as a G-spot vibe if they’d like to give vibrations a go. It’s not overly powerful like putting a Gee Whizzard hat on the Hitachi, and the vibrator will be a nice addition to play.

Clitoral Recommendations:

It’s hard to tell if her preference for g-spot play and inability to have a clit orgasm is because she needs a level of clit stim that fingers and tongues can’t provide, or she’s so overly-sensitive that their attempts are sensory-overload for her. Either way, I’m going for the lower-pitched vibrators because they’re more universally liked. Unless it’s known that she does indeed have a clit o’steel like me, I’m not going to recommend the powerhouse vibes like Hitachi or Climax Twist or Acuvibe.

1. Fun Factory Layaspot – This is in case she can’t handle the more powerful vibrations. It has the right pitch and many levels of vibration intensity. It can be intense enough, it’s gotten *me* off, but it’s a diffused sort of vibration, rather than the pinpoint that a bullet can be.

2. Doc Johnson Harmony Bullet – I think that this bullet has the right mixture of being nice to look at, fairly well made, and powerful at the right vibration pitch level.

Prostate Recommendations:

Prostate toys can be used solo or in couple play. Masturbation, blow jobs, even sex – having something in your butt pressing on your prostate will make your toes curl and your whole body sing.

1. Lelo Bob - it’s very simple and basic in it’s design. Non-threatening, good for beginners

2. Nexus Neo – really want to make a good go at prostate stimulation heaven? I’ll be properly reviewing this one soon, husband has been liking it! But it wasn’t his first, so the girth was good for him. Prostate toys with this weird blobby shape are on the right track – just like the vagina, the butt isn’t a straight canal. The Nexus Neo works with the natural contractions in anal muscles to massage the p-spot. It can be used for beginners to just enhance cock-centric orgasms, or by advanced players with time on their hands who can have p-spot only orgasms.

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I’m pretty fond of my clit vibrators and I harbor a special fondness for my old red pocket rocket. It was the first clit vibe that I bought and shockingly it ended up being the best as far as power and vibration frequency. Since it’s only a cheapie pocket rocket though (I bought it for less than $10), I know it’ll die so I’ve been trying to find a replacement. While that need isn’t as dire anymore thanks to my beloved bullet vibes, I’m still interested in finding inexpensive sex toys. I keep my eye trained on this category of vibes at Edenfantasys and picked this one out recently. It’s a little bit pricier than I personally think a pocket rocket vibe should be but there are more expensive ones out there. At least this one has functions and is more justified in being over $20. I see plenty of single-setting pocket rockets that are over $25 and for as simple as these things usually are….that’s unwarranted. If I was able to find a kick-ass simple one for under $10 and a damn respectable one with bells and whistles for under $25….those other manufacturers need to take a closer look at things.

One thing I always hated about my old red one was that if it was “off”, it was in two pieces. There was no happy medium there. Most of the newer pocket rockets I’ve reviewed, even the simplest ones, beat that out but they never had the same oomph as my good old standby. I chose to review the Ultimate Massager by Nasstoys because they’re the maker of my old red one.

This one is a little more than just a pocket. Although it does still look like one and frankly there’s nothing in the mainstream market resembling these so it’s not exactly discreet. It’s small (5″ long and about 1″ around), so I can’t say that it would ever pass as a massager of ones neck or shoulders. Unlike most pocket rocket vibes, this one has 3 different power settings and 7 other functions. These vibrator manufacturers sure like their pulsing functions, don’t they? I’ve personally never really bothered with them. Give me straight vibration any day. But since this one does offer up variety, it will appeal to a wider range of people. When this is in the “off” position, the two halves are still firmly together. The vibration intensity is really decent, and the frequency is nice and low. It’s not *quite* as powerful as old red, but it’s close. Yes, for my clit, that fraction extra of power makes a difference. I would rate this higher than a few other PR’s that I’ve owned (the one from Babeland, their branded one, sucked ass and the plain white Doc Johnson one was nearly as worthless) and recommend it.

There is one seeming constant in the world of pocket rocket vibrators. Those stupid little plastic caps that they include. At least this one included a domed, smooth one which I actually kinda liked (surprisingly). But they all like to include ones with nubs. Spikes, even. Listen – hard plastic tiny spikes that vibrate do NOT belong near my clit. There is only one use for that, in my opinion, and that is in S/M play because it ranges from itchy/irritating to OW. Since there is no pouch included with this (or most any) pocket rocket, you’re likely going to lose those silly caps. One of my 4 has already become a cat toy. I think the spikes massage her gums when she noms on it.

I’d recommend this, unless you’re looking for a very inexpensive one or unless you have a clit o’ steel like mine. While I am not disappointed in it, it’s not yet going to replace my bullet vibe or my old red one. Keep in mind though, as usual, that this will indeed work for most women. And I do mean most, especially since it has three power levels.

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Another sex toy, another quest. This time I continue on my quest to find a bullet vibrator that offers the intensity and vibration frequency that is ideal for me, while being good quality so that it’ll last longer than 6 months. This makes my 9th bullet vibe (the kind with the remote handpack) and my 5th in the “higher quality” style.

The higher quality bullet vibes have these features:

• Little plastic/rubber nubs where the wire goes into the handpack, the bullet or both. This protects and keeps the wire from being pulled away from the contacts inside
• Multi-functions – while I don’t give a hang about pulsing functions, some do
• An overall better design – lights on the handpack, interesting colors, etc. It’s not a plain silver bullet and generic handpack.

Usually I have found that the higher quality bullets lack one of two very important things (for me): Intensity of the power of vibrations, or the proper vibration frequency/pitch. Many women, myself included, will prefer the lower pitch vibrations as opposed to the higher pitch buzzy vibes. The Harmony bullet nails it on the vibration pitch, and with fresh batteries has the power I need. Yes, fresh batteries. The handpack takes 2 AAA batteries and really eats them up quickly.

The Harmony Bullet Vibrator is named as such just as a marketing gimmick. There’s nothing special about it.  The box calls it a “Balanced Bullet” but again it just seems to be a marketing term. They offer a black and a white one, the packaging calls them ying and yang but it’s not like there’s any difference between the two other than color. The control is a push-button style of sorts, as opposed to a slider or a wheel. There’s 4 levels of power with the lowest being very mild. No pulsing functions. I don’t like the lights, as it tends to light up the entire handpack (at least for the white one, I dont know what the black one is like). I also don’t like that it takes AAA batteries, as I don’t keep many on hand. It’s all one color, smooth/shiny plastic. I’ll update in a few months if this holds up better than all the “silver” tone bullets I’ve owned which tend to have the silver rub/chip off after some months of use.

Despite the lights (which I plan to cover with white electrical tape) and the use of AAA batteries, I quite like this one. It is not THE most powerful bullet that I own, but it’s got enough oomph to matter to me. Simple and not tacky. Added bonus of the rubber wire-keepers means it’ll hopefully last longer.

Thanks to Edenfantasys.com for providing this for me to review!

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Well, this is exciting! (so exciting that I ripped into the shipping box before I even made it into work) I’ve never gotten to review a *brand new* sex toy before! As of this writing, the Je Joue G-Ki isn’t even for sale quite yet, but when it is I’ll update this post. Edenfantasys.com is one of the few retailers that will be selling this sex toy for the time being. You may or may not recognize the maker of this toy, Je Joue. To date they only have one sex toy out on the market but the innovative wonderment of it all created many waves in the adult industry and amongst toy critiques and addicts – That toy is the SaSi. SaSi is a high-end luxury toy meant to simulate oral sex and “learn” which moves you like. I wanted one for the longest time until I learned enough about it to know that it wouldn’t work with my particular anatomy. But there is always that possibility with many sex toys.

So as not to leave out a vital part of a woman’s potential for orgasm, Je Joue created the G-Ki. It’s unique because it bends a bit. When I saw the manufacturer’s photos and could tell that it bent, I originally thought that perhaps this was accomplished with a bendable wire core but that isn’t at all the case. There are two joints that click through a few angles of bendiness. It can go from this gentle curve to a “J” shape. The purpose of bending it into the J-shape is in the hopes that while the tip is massaging your g-spot, the body is vibrating against your labia and clitoris. In order to make it bend you have to press on a button at the joint. This unlocks it from its current position. As you can see, the G-ki is not very big. The overall shape is more oval than round, so width is hard to measure. I would say it’s closer to 1 3/8″ at the tip. The neck is maybe an inch.

Another very cool feature that I’ve only seen in Je Joue toys is that it recharges via a magnetic connection, much like your average cordless computer mouse. While the SaSi came with a smart looking base, the G-Ki just has a cord with a fob that magnetically clicks over the power buttons and begins the charge. You’ll see a little red light glow from under the silicone skin to let you know it’s charging. It blinks while it’s charging. It takes 2 hours to charge it for 2 hours of play time. Although I didn’t let it run for 2 hours, I would imagine that the last 45 minutes or so the vibrations would be noticeably weaker.

I believe that most of the toy is hard plastic covered by a matte silicone – except for the g-spot tip. It’s pure silicone to the core for the 1/2″ or so, so there’s a little give. Just enough. Neither the manual nor the site specifically says how many positions each joint can click to. The bending of the tip is more subtle that the mid-section. To bend it you press on a raised button at each joint to unlock it. Up at the tip, that unlock button has three dots on it. The mid-section button has 5 dots. Deductive reasoning tells me that this signifies the number of positions, but I could be wrong. I would not recommend this toy for someone with arthritis in their hands – I have it a little and I found those buttons to be just a bit hard to push in to unlock the joints. It’s not a deterrent for me, but it could be for someone worse off.

According to the site/manual, women should start out with the toy at it’s most “relaxed” position and play with the tip settings first. The instructions are very much geared towards women who are not experienced with toys or their g-spot. Not me, I bent the tip right away and even tried to make it into the J-shape right away until I learned that insertion wasn’t very easy that way! I have short arms so it was a little tricky to press hard enough on the button to unlock the midjoint with the toy inside of me, but it was do-able.

As for the vibrations, there’s two buttons, plus and minus. From any setting at all the toy can be shut off by holding the minus button for 2 seconds. You can click through 5 levels of vibrations and 5 different pulsing patterns. I don’t think that the different levels of vibration are anything past a subtle variance, but the first level is not powerful enough to be a hindrance to more sensitive women. (after I made the video, I played with the vibrations more and found there is a more obvious difference if you go through the 5 levels in *reverse*. This makes the lowest somehow seem lower than when you first turn it on) The frequency/pitch of the vibration is a very pleasing low and rumbly sort. The motor is in the handle but the vibrations travel quite well throughout the entire toy. The focal point of the vibrations should be the point in the handle where it is closest to your clit. Since the vibrations are more diffuse than pinpoint, it’s not a quick and easy O – it’s more of a build-up. Which is a great way to go about it when combining clit and g-spot play because for many women a g-spot orgasm takes longer than clitoral.

I personally found that if I wanted both clit and g-spot stimulation at once from this toy, my best bet was pushing on the very tip of the hand in a sort of rocking-circular-rubbing motion. This amplified the vibrations a bit as it pushed against my pubic bone. I would say that this is comparable to the Layaspot in both frequency, intensity and noise level. The Onye bullet vibrator is louder, the frequency is the same, but doesn’t feel much more powerful. The power level of the vibrations feels less intense because the vibrations are spread out in the handle, more diffuse than say a remote-handpack bullet vibe. I would still say though that my bullet vibes are stronger than the G-Ki. However, that’s comparing apples to oranges. I no longer have my Lelo Elise but I think that the G-Ki would also line up in comparison quite similarly. This wasn’t as powerful of a dual-sensation as a rabbit vibrator but this toy worked my g-spot much much better than any rabbit vibe could.

All in all, the G-Ki by Je Joue is an enjoyable, innovative toy. If I were to make changes, the first would be to add a few inches to the handle portion. But that’s just because I have short arms and a big belly, so most other women won’t need the handle to be longer. I’d also (of course) up the vibration intensity just a tad but again….that’s me (hi….clit o’steel here…). The intensity is probably enough for most women. It won’t be a dual-stimulation toy for every woman, but that is to be expected due to variances in anatomy. My clitoris is smaller and doesn’t protrude much and is nestled down between very full outer labia. If that does not describe you, then you would enjoy it even more than I have. If you’d like to read about the technical specs such as exact size and a list of the vibration functions, see my review on edenfantasys.

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I’m a sucker for funky design and so when I saw the Climax Twist rechargeable massager in edenfantasys.com “New Arrivals” list, I knew I wanted to review it. The 90 degree angle is really what got me moreso than the rechargeable factor. In fact, the rechargeable factor was nearly a deterrent simply because I don’t often get a rechargeable sex toy that packs the power or type of vibration that I like.

I’ve read a few other reviews of this vibrator that seemed a bit over-the-top when describing the power and noise level and the girth of the G-spot end. Such dramatic description is only meant for the Hitachi, in my opinion. The Climax Twist vibrator is actually considerably more quiet than the Hitachi on low and *nearly* as powerful but not as deep of a vibration as the Hitachi on low. The Climax Twist is not equivalent to the Hitachi in power. But how does it compare to the Acuvibe? The Acuvibe on high is more powerful, deep and noisy than the Climax Twist, but the Climax beats out the Acuvibe on low. There’s one caveat to the Acuvibe, at least the one I own, that when you apply a decent amount of pressure to it it visibly slows down in power. The Climax Twist doesn’t do that.

One thing that I like about this rechargeable vibrator is that it is more of a low-pitch deep-resonating vibration than many others I have tried. So many rechargeable vibrators, to me, are more of a high-pitch buzzy (which doesn’t get me off).

CLARIFICATION: The above power/noise/etc comparisons are being made against the “massager” portion of this vibrator. I’m not yet talking about the G-spot end, because that’s another story altogether.

Another thing that I really liked about the Climax, as I mentioned before, is the ability for it to be either straight or at a 90 degree angle. This twist makes it much easier to transport and store unlike the Ideal massager, who’s quirky handle takes up more space. If your partner uses the G-spot tip on you, then you can keep this vibrator straight. If you are using the massager on yourself, the 90 degree angle is ideal. For using the G-spot end on yourself though, I’m not loving the 90 angle as much as I thought I would but that’s partially due to the placement of the controls. They’re not in a good spot if you want to change up the vibration pattern. Close-up photos farther down there show the buttons and the odd (and useless) light purple ribbing. One reason that I don’t like using the G-spot tip as it’s intended is because of that ribbing – there’s no way you’ll use it internally without those ribbings getting filled with lube/bodily fluids/etc. That seems like it would be REALLY hard to clean properly.

Now, on to the G-spot portion of this toy. The girth is good. If you prefer slim insertables, then this isn’t the toy for you. However, I did not find this to be as filling as my big blue toy. The specs claim that it is only 1 5/8 inch wide on the EF site, but Topco’s site claims it is 2.25″ at it’s widest. I’m not sure I believe either number, to be honest. But I don’t have a ruler handy. You can see it below in comparison to my big blue dildo, which is supposed to be 2″ wide. Because of the angle of penetration, the manner and angle in which G-spot tips are meant to be used, I doubt that you would find this toy as intense as my 2″ wide dildo. But that’s my opinion.

As for the vibrations of the G-spot end – meh. I can’t pinpoint where the motor actually is, but the vibration is a pitch higher than the massager end and more diffuse. It’s a little louder, too. I wasn’t thrilled with the vibrations for that end, to be honest. I would say that if your clit is still in the stages of arousal where you’re more sensitive, start off with the G-spot end.

The box claims you can turn both motors on at once for more power or something, but that happened was akin to your washing machine getting off balance – the motor in the G-spot end seemed to go a bit wonky they didn’t resonate at the exact same rate nor did either motor make either end more powerful. And it’s certainly not like this toy is large enough or designed to be used by two vaginas simultaneously.

A few more points to tick off that don’t need further explanation:

• There is no battery light, you don’t know for sure it’s charging other than the fact that it won’t turn on.
• The charge seems to last longer at full power than Acuvibe, before it starts waning
• The massager head is very small, so you cannot use any Hitachi or similar attachments
• Topco says that the materials are pthalates-free, but yet it’s rubber. On EF’s safety scale, it’s only a 3. Not for sharing unless it’s be-condomed.
• Despite it being rubber, there was very little offensive odor to it, what was there faded very quickly
• There is only one speed to this vibrator, but 7 “functions” (which includes straight vibration). Typical “multi-function” variety of patterns/pulses/etc. I don’t need to explain them.
• It’s not waterproof, likely because they can’t seal off the twist joint. But then again, the other massager-style vibes aren’t either.

At the end of the day, would I recommend this toy? If you can get it on sale, then yes, most definitely yes. Currently it’s priced higher than the Acuvibe and of course higher than the Hitachi BUT it does have those unique features and options. However I still think it’s just a wee bit too high given the manufacturer and the material. If it were silicone, that might justify it. It’s priced like a luxury toy, but it’s not.

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