Mar 282013

UPDATE:  The funds were raised successfully, and the test happened (results here). While waiting on the results, something else happened… was founded in order to keep testing more sex toys and create a positive change in the sex toy industry. A third-party neutral watchdog organization, non-profit and running on donations. If you came to this post looking to donate a little something for this test, please consider donating to fund more tests, so that you will begin to know the truth about what’s in your sex toys.


For the time being, the flame test is the at-home sex toy owner’s only tool for testing to see if an advertised sex toy is truly 100% pure silicone. Thus far it seems to have served me quite well. I do know that it isn’t perfect and I try to keep that in mind.

But so far now I’ve happened upon two products from two major thought-to-be-safe companies and have been brushed off to a degree. As I said in the Toxic Toys post, I learned that it is very possible that the Chinese manufacturing plants decide on their own to cut corners and pennies, and these cuts are not usually cleared with the company. Adding in some elastomer to a pure silicone product will reduce the cost. And hey, we’re just consumers. We’re just concerned with shoving these things in our holes and feeling good and how the fuck will WE ever know the difference, right??

Enter, Me. You. Us. The reviewers and our fucking lighters. The fact that we’re doing THAT much is a start. We’re getting the ball rolling. We have a platform and some of us are not afraid to challenge the status quo and speak up.

I’d like to dedicate an entire post to the JimmyJane Hello Touch saga, so I won’t be going into detail just yet about their response to me (yes, they finally responded). Suffice to say, their response lit a fire under me. There’s something you need to know about me….when I get told that I’m basically full of shit and/or lying, I get pissed. Furious. When I am reciting nothing but a common sense fact and I am told “sorry, I’m seeing something very different and I’m right, you’re wrong” I get irate. I go out of my way to prove them wrong. Now, JimmyJane didn’t exactly outright say I’m wrong, but they basically did. They ignored a major fact in my laying-out of the logic and it negates their whole argument. If this were a company who truly cared about the material quality of their products, they would listen and give my words weight and would genuinely look into it at the plant level. I do believe there exists some companies who would do that.

I feel that the only way to get recognition on this is to present them with proof. Will I create a change at JimmyJane? Likely not. But will I create SOME CHANGE? Yes. I think that this will, if I’m right. The fact is: Myself and another reviewer have flame-tested our Hello Touch silicone, and they both failed. A store owner and another person who shall for now remain unnamed (unless she raises her hand) both flame tested and it passed. How is it that 2 people could hold a flame to it and in 5 seconds it goes up in flames (not smoldering, not a singe, FLAMES) and then two others can hold a lighter to  it for minutes on end with no ill results? Something isn’t right.

My plan is to get the certified test done by the same lab that CATT used, and check for material composition. They will tell me if it is pure silicone or not. What I would really like to do is also send them one from someone who flame tested and it passed, to see what the material difference is, but I doubt I’d raise enough money for that. Either way, this process will be well-documented and written up. I plan to do my best through connections to get this story published somewhere besides just my blog (especially if the lab test shows that it isn’t pure silicone). While the recognition from the media may not get an actual change happening from JimmyJane on this product, it will lead to bigger things. For one, the flame test won’t be blown off like it has been in the past. Two, manufacturers will know that people are becoming smarter, and caring more, about the materials. Three, I’m hoping it will also highlight to manufacturers that they need to send off random samples to a quality lab to make sure that the plant isn’t making secret changes.

All I have is my drive and my desire and my words, to enact a change. And while the change may be small…..a small change begets another small change which begets, eventually a big change. Hey, the industry has made great strides in the last 10 years. We can push it harder and faster.

So the test costs $200. Yep, that’s a lot. If anybody with the means who is as concerned as me and is as interested in starting a change as me would like to contribute, I would really appreciate that. I’ve had 2 people so far tell me they’ll chip in to the pot. I love those two people. If you can’t help, you can’t help. I get it. Most of us are poor. Most days I’m poor, lol. When I get paid next month I’ll be a little less poor.  If you have the ability to help, send me an email.  If you’re on ToySwap you can help by buying one of the sex toys I have up for swap/sell; that would get you something and get me help.

If you’d like to comment on this matter publicly and you’re in the industry, please feel free to comment with a different name and even put my email address in the comment form below. I know that many people can only talk to me about this privately and I respect that.  If you’d like to just tell me I’ve got ridiculous pie-in-the-sky daydreams and I’m wasting everyone’s time and my money, tell me that too.

But I’m tired of reviewing and writing and nothing happening.

I need to TRY.

 Posted by at 6:57 pm

  9 Responses to “I just have to know…is this silicone, or not?”

  1. You already knew that I completely agree with you on this one. I’ll write up a post on my blog about this; I don’t have as many readers as you do, but I support what you’re doing and want that to be known. Things are tight over here, but I’ll check out toy swap and see if I can afford to splurge on something. Might as well help out monetarily if I can get something I’ve been eyeing!

  2. Well, I for one would like to contribute. After all chemical testing is what turned me around from Jelly. Do you remember what Jennifer Pritchet talked about in her video’s: that she had the top 10 most sold toys tested and they came out with ridiculous percentages of pthalates (up to 60%)?

    That, coupled with education about what phtalates do was what made me follow her advice to “throw out my jelly toys and get some safe, sexy ones”

    This shit DOES make a difference if the information is put out there. It did for me and I’m hardly the only one, and anyone can see in the blogosphere.

    I assume you can see my E-mail Lily, please send me a note and tell me on which PayPal I can help out.

  3. By the way, beside contributing it might help to spread this information if you have anything resembling a platform, like a blog or a forum/community of people who might be interested in helping.

  4. You should probably know that thanks to your efforts (and others like you) I, as a sex toy noob, know what materials I will demand in a toy and which ones I will vehemently oppose.
    A lot of people don’t have a clue about the sort of issues you bring to light. I for one am grateful to you (and the others) for educating us. Nobody else will, right?
    Your energy is inspiring. All I can say is: RAWR! GO GET EM!

  5. For what it’s worth, you may have to pay to have several of the same toy tested to get the big picture (buy them from different places if you do). Alan & I ran into this issue with a company who sent us a “silicone” toy that turned out to be PVC. Oh at first the owner poo-pooed the flame test we did too, certain that we were wrong. But dammit, you know as well as I do that when you handle hundreds of toys a year you do NOT mistake silicone for sticky, stenching PVC.

    Well, as it turns out the guy had no idea what the hell the Chinese manufacturing plant had done, but he finally admitted that the “last few batches” he received of that toy were not silicone after all. He sent us one from an earlier batch, and yeah it was silicone.

    I think as long as toy companies are willing to relinquish control of the actual manufacturing process, we’ll never have any guarantees batch-to-batch of what we’re getting from their toy lines.

  6. I love, love, LOVE that you are spearheading this effort. I received a “silicone” vibrator recently from CalEx’s Couture Collection, the Liberte 2, and I had my suspicions when it had a scent to it that was just like a TPR-silicone toy I own, AND nothing on the package says “non-porous”, “100% silicone”, or “pure silicone”–just “silicone” and “ABS”. Since I can no longer return it (it was purchased with points earned on EdenFantasys, which are now essentially worthless, I’ll be performing my first flame test!

  7. I love that your doing something so I hardly think you’re wasting anyone’s time. :)

    Just some feedback on the site since I believe you might have a say in things. (Please, correct me if I’m wrong. ^^)

    I’ve checked out Dildology but are finding myself at a bit of a blank when it comes to hunting down what they’ve tested and the results. In my mind that should be under the ‘Results’, ‘Failed Products’ and ‘Verified Products’ tabs.

    Also I find the site a bit sparse, I think it would be difficult for some just going to the site to figure out what was the big deal about it. Perhaps if you had something about the dangers of toxic sex toys etc. at the beginning to reel people in and give them an idea of what it’s about? Something like RubyRyder’s post on reddit

    also your posts of ‘Is you’re toy toxic’, ‘How Porous is Your Sex Toy? Why Does it Matter?’ etc.

    I think giving people a way of obtaining key information from the actual site and perhaps links to key blogs etc. could help them not only understand the seriousness of the issue better but better educate people and make them more interested. This may already be what the ‘Press’ section is already doing (I didn’t really read it). However I think having a catchy post like ‘Is you’re toy toxic’ as the front page introducing people to the issue of toxic toys _then_ introducing Dildology and their mission would be good. Of course the page could then link people to more educational blogs or educational pages on the site once their interested.

    Also like I said I didn’t spend much time in the ‘Press’ section however I think a more viewer friendly approach to the articles would be good. I feel that the links would be more appealing if they were shown ‘name of post’ by ‘writers user name’ rather than just plain pictures. Of course I don’t recognize the blog sites and names hence why that layout likely doesn’t do it for me. You could also use a ‘picture’, ‘name of post’ by ‘writers user name’ if you wanted to encourage the more familiar blog reader.

    I also feel like the site could use a splash of colour, even a bordering colour, coloured icon (background) or something, while still looking professional. (Perhaps not such a big thing as educational but I feel full white is a bit to much for me personally.)

    I may sound picky but getting people in the door, keeping them interested (and motivated to help!) as well as educating them seems to be the big thing at the moment. Hence I think the site may benefit from being slightly more visitor friendly and mostly educational. What is it? why is it important? why should I care? Are going to be the big questions if you not only want the old experienced sex toy users but also the newbies acknowledging the site. Hopefully these questions will then lead on to ‘How do I learn more about this?’ ‘What can I do about this?’ ‘How do I avoid these issues’ ‘What’s safe?’ Hopefully once people are interested they can start asking all this and more.

    Even if people don’t donate, they can still ‘vote with their feet’ by being informed by blogs, asking the right questions and eventually buying the right toys to help them live a happy lifestyle. Blogging and posting to raise awareness has already started something. :)

  8. I actually had to step down from Dildology last summer, and so they’re totally separate from me personally. :)

  9. Pity (they get to miss out on my massive ramble), ah well I hope things still go well for them. ^^

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