That’s Me Trying
One day before the start of my sophomore year of high school I went horseback riding with two friends. With an experienced guide, you and a small group would ride through their many acres...
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This is a Call
CN: mental health, grief, weight/loss and physical health issues “This is a call to all my past resignations, it’s been far too long.” Every time I draft a post like this I wonder “Should...
Depression, 45, 40: Time For Some Honesty
Depression and #45 I never used to be very political; when I finally registered to vote in my home state, I registered as Independent because I had no real care either direction. I think...
The Sex Blogger’s Curse: Low Libido
Buy a house. Get sick. Have untreated depression. Have a partner who is on mood stabilizers and is getting a tune-up on such. Have undiagnosed injuries. Compound with typical depression/anxiety issues of self-care and personal hygiene and you’ve got low libido + no sex. Unfortunately for me having orgasms and masturbating is a bit necessary! So this is a little story about what happens when a sex blogger’s libido takes a dive. And a post in solidarity for everyone else going through something similar.
1 Month Countdown
Everybody told me, “Buying a house is really stressful” but like the other awful club I’m part of, there’s the First-Time-Buying-a-House Club and you can’t be in it til you’re in it and other...
Vibrators, Sex, and Depression
I need to preface this post. You won’t learn anything from this. I have no answers, no treatment plan, no quest. I have uncertainties and questions. It isn’t an eloquent post. If you need...
Fluid Sexuality -or- I’m not Kinky Anymore
A lot has happened in my 6 years here, and a lot has happened with me, sexually, over the last ten years. 6 years ago when I started this blog, I considered myself to...
A lovely 5 years…
This post has taken me weeks to write, and has seen more drafts than hockey did this week1. Most people write big, sappy posts for a blogaversary as grand as 5 whole years. 5...
Oy With The Poodles Already!
I wouldn’t quite say that I have Obsessive-Compulsive Planning Disorder but it’s close. I got it from my mother, who also passed on her compulsive over-packing syndrome. Toss in a case of Chronic List...
Not in Kansas anymore…
Oh, life. What a fuckin pain in the ass it can be. And confusing. It shows that I’m not keeping good tabs on my site when it takes a potential advertiser to point out...
Street Harassment: It’s everywhere, all the time
Inspired by Stoya’s story over at Jezebel, I’m speaking up along with all the other women. This paragraph, after talking about how men treat her on the street, “They say I have a sweet...
Wake The Neighbors….
When I recently visited my longtime friend, the topic turned of course to sex at one or two points. Clinical, theoretical, opinionated talks. One topic, after numerous drinks by the couple, turned to how...
Sex Toy Reviewer Meets the Real World
A few weeks ago I spent some time with a childhood friend that I hadn’t seen in years. She was the first person from the “real world” that I’ve known for years that I...
A Very Merry Un-Birthday….to Me
Today was my birthday. Yet it was also an un-birthday. What I mean is that it really wasn’t celebrated in any traditional sense. And you know what? It was pretty damn good. I lounged...
I’ve found a new secret to my G-spot
Or rather….my husband has. For the first decade of our sex life his penis alone managed to hit my g-spot over and over during sex to varying degrees of bliss. In more recent years...
