Depression, 45, 40: Time For Some Honesty
Depression and #45 I never used to be very political; when I finally registered to vote in my home state, I registered as Independent because I had no real care either direction. I think...
Category: Blogging
Social Media for Adult Businesses: 5 Steps to Fix Your F*ck Up
The most popular session I attended at #SFS16 was #SFSMedia or ‘Navigating Social Media Practices for Adult Businesses’ and as you’ll see, this post is drawing heavily on the tidbits of wisdom dropped by...
Oh What a Year
Traditionally, a lot of the things in this post have been included in my Best & Worst Sex Toys lists but I decided that for 2016, I had a lot to say just about...
Thoughts on the Blog Squad
So this post is pretty much just for bloggers; I had to address a growing issue within our large community regarding feelings of exclusion, use of the term “blog squad”, etc. If you’re a blogger, I hope this post helps you feel a little less scared of the group.
Rankings and Community
Three things to know about me before we get on with it: I suck at accepting compliments I’m competitive in some aspects Yet I prefer fairness So today I found out I was named...
Lill’Bits: A Sex Toy Update, a Sex Toy Test, a Sex Toy Store
After a fun, short weekend in Philly I have some things to share – what it’s like when a bunch of bloggers go into sex toy shops, an important update on the new & improved Satisfyer Pro 2, and some words about my flame testing the Buck Off, Perfect Fit brand’s latest product made from “Silaskin”, a supposed TPR & silicone blend. Also gonna talk about getting that sucker tested, and I’ll need your help for that.
SFS16: Like Sex Blogger Christmas
It’s been (way) more than a month now since Sex Blogger Christmas aka Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit. I expected to write about this sooner but got hit hard with a cold-turned-infection the day I was driving home from the Summit; I missed a lot of work, have spent weeks exhausted and have had a lot of brain fog. The brain fog has clouded a lot of my memories, making writing about the weekend pretty difficult. I realized at one point during writing this (with its 14 edits) that I’ve been procrastinating on publishing this post because I’ve been afraid – afraid that it’s not good enough, that it’s missing important things, that I can’t do justice to my gratitude for Shevibe (my sponsor), Tantus, and Ricci Levy and the entire Woodhull Board. Because really, nothing short of a ticker tape parade would do justice to their greatness.
We-Vibe Nova
I side-eyed the We-Vibe Nova pretty hard when it came out, tbh. There’s a few sex toy styles that I roll my eyes at and reserve great skepticism for – shitty until proven otherwise: the “Rabbit” (or dual stimulator) and basically any remote-controlled vibrator. Both are usually expensive, with affordable options nearly always ending in deep disappointment. Both must meet a laundry list of requirements to be worthy of collecting, and most won’t meet your requirements. Most will merely sit in a drawer as an occasional reminder of that time you had high hopes. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard from someone who it using only one part of their rabbit vibe. It’s maybe all they’ve got, or that one part is better than the few other things they have – but if you’re using only one part of a dual-stimulation sex toy….what’s the point? I recommend very, very few of both styles so today I’m pretty pleased to tell you that I’ve found one that I enjoy almost as much as my current fa
Woodhull 2016 Preview – I need your help!
On August 4th I will be heading to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit thanks to my amazing sponsor, Shevibe.com. Help me decide which sessions to attend!
8 Fuckin Years
Last week, the 15th, was technically my blog anniversary but I felt that bitching about Lelo and Charlie Sheen took some priority. I started out this calendar year doing things different. I tried to...
Lelo Doesn’t Care
If you thought I disliked Lelo before, wait until you read about this blood-boiling new turn of events. Today’s post covers a lot – insider information from an industry person about how little Lelo gives a crap, some random thoughts on the shadiness of this Hex condom that can break without you easily seeing that it broke (yes, seriously), and some random thoughts about them partnering with Charlie Sheen, an abuser. If that’s all not enough, they want us to believe they still are/support feminist endeavors all while emblazoning their new condom with the word “Respect” at the base Respect who? Apparently, “respect the man who wears it”. I’M. SO. DONE.
The Sex Blogger’s Curse: Low Libido
Buy a house. Get sick. Have untreated depression. Have a partner who is on mood stabilizers and is getting a tune-up on such. Have undiagnosed injuries. Compound with typical depression/anxiety issues of self-care and personal hygiene and you’ve got low libido + no sex. Unfortunately for me having orgasms and masturbating is a bit necessary! So this is a little story about what happens when a sex blogger’s libido takes a dive. And a post in solidarity for everyone else going through something similar.
Never Shut Up: A Mantra for Changing The World One Sex Toy at a Time
Over the years we reviewers have grown more and more vocal about safe sex toy materials. We send a message when we refuse to give our time to porous and toxic sex toys. We are sending a message to the manufacturers who, in recent years, have exploded with under-$75 (even under $50!) sex toys made from truly body-safe materials. With our honest reviews we are giving some assurance to people that when they spend $100 or more on a sex toy, we’ve thoroughly vetted it as best as we can. When we review the affordable toys we are helping people find safe, decent sex toys that fit their budget – our role is not only to make sure the high-end sex toys are worth their price tag, but to make sure the affordable sex toys are still as decent as they can be. After all, what’s the point of buying any sex toy, no matter the cost, if it doesn’t perform well? And when we continually reassure our readers that their pleasure is important, their bodies matter and that yes they need to care about the materials of their sex toys and the ingredients of their lubes we are validating that these items are important. They are not just for the lonely, the celibate, the single. They are tools for every body. And every person deserves access to safe pleasure tools.
Best Women’s Erotica of the Year Volume 1 – Excerpt and Giveaway
One of my first erotica books was a Best Women’s Erotica of the Year. My local Barnes & Noble had two shelves for erotica books and BWE caught my eye immediately. Back then, BWE...
Sex Toy Copycats – Is it improvement or shitty business ethics?
When you see sex toy copycats – companies copying other companies designs or ideas – does it bother you? That’s what I’m talking about today! Weigh in!
