National Sexual Freedom Day
A lot of people in this country live in their own bubble and don’t even know or care about sexual freedom – not to be down-putting but they are usually very religious, heterosexual and “vanilla” (i.e. non-kinky). Sexual freedom does not affect them. But yet, it does. Do you realize that we have the freedom to read and write these sex blogs? To buy sex toys? Actually, there are still some places even in the US where sex toys are illegal, I believe Alabama is still holding onto that rule.
For those of you who love your vibrator/dildo/masturbator – can you imagine that being illegal??
There are still some states where sodomy is illegal – it’s not as enforced anymore but it was at one point. Yes, there are/were laws about the kind of sex you could enjoy in your own home.
Think about that.
Think about the bigger issues, like the fact that is most places in our country, gays/lesbians cannot get married and enjoy the same rights as hetero couples. They are people, who are in love. When you strip aside the gender and what you think your god says is “ok”? It’s all just love and support and happiness.
But you know….to me, sexual freedom isn’t just about the laws and law-makers. It should be a mindset for everyone. No one is throwing Christians in jail for being Christian so why personally persecute the kinky, the non-hetero non-gender-conforming people? We fight and rally for equal rights for female vs male, black vs white…but not sexual freedom. Who the hell am I to judge you as a person based on your sexual preference?
Watch the following video made by Tiye Massey, daughter of Woodhull Freedom Foundation advisory council members Dan Massey and Alison Gardner. She interviewed a lot of people in NYC about what sexual freedom means to them. Some answers are insightful, and others make me a little sad.
I encourage you to weigh in here with what sexual freedom means to you. If you are reading this blog, then you have more sexual freedoms than some people. I haven’t even touched on all of the issues in this topic, so add yours if you want in comments.
“I am a free lover. I have an inalienable, constitutional and natural right to love whom I may, to love as long or short a period as I can; to change that love every day if I please.”
—Victoria Woodhull
Some other good posts for the day, I’ll add them as I find them:
The Examiner: How are you celebrating Sexual Freedom Day
EssinEm: Sexual Freedom Day
Sex in the Public Square: Sexual Freedom and Higher Education – Why Sex Weeks are a Good Idea
I am so glad that I live in Canada. That being said, we as Canadians still have a long way to go. I watch my Gay BF struggle with who he is, who he wants to love and about coming out and it breaks my heart over and over. He legally has the right to marry and adopt children but he is terrified that coming out may negatively affect his career.
Sexual freedom is not only the legal right to express our sexuality in anyway we choose but also to not feel shamed or afraid that we will be discriminated against for it.
My god, I cannot believe that sex toys are illegal in some parts of the US!!! Lucky for us in the UK that they are totally legal, although I do suppose it depends on what you are using!