UPDATE: Since this post, We-Vibe has revamped their design, come out with a different remote and an app, while Lelo has also revamped the Tiani. Review to come soon for the Tiani 3.

UPDATE 2: Nothing here is relevant anymore. We-Vibe is continuously revamping their couples vibrator and their latest and best version (as of Jan 2018) is the Sync. It is more powerful than the Tiani 3, more likely to fit you, etc. Ignore this entire damn post.

In the last few months we’ve seen two very similar, yet very different, “couples vibrator” on the sex toy market. While the We Vibe has been around for years, it lacked a remote control. When Lelo created the Sensemotion remotes for the latest Insignia line they introduced the Tiani which many have compared to the We Vibe because it is meant to be worn by the woman during penetrative sex with a guy and claims to provide hands-free clitoral stimulation. The shape is similar and comparisons can’t help but be made. Please note: This post has been updated from the original to showcase the changes in the Lelo Tiani with the “Design” Edition, or Tiani 2.

Lelo marketed the entire Sensemotion line with dual purposes – the other reason for the remote was for someone else to control the vibrator. In public? Maybe, if you’re discreet about it and manage to set it up properly. Lelo drastically improved the range and reliability of the remote control connection from the original Tiani to the Tiani 2 – the signal will transmit across a room, through most clothing, etc. Their remote requires a couple of regular batteries while the vibrator itself is rechargeable. The remote can get confusing with all the various settings and functions and if it loses connection with the vibrator, the person holding the remote doesn’t actually know it – because the remote keeps on vibrating. With the original Tiani, the vibrator would stop working if the remote dropped a signal. Now, the vibrator will continue to work, you just will not be able to change settings until you are back in signal range. You won’t know this is happening unless you communicate with your partner.  The Tiani 2’s internal arm is much smaller than the We-Vibe 3, so this is best for women who cannot tolerate much more girth than the penis inside of them. The Tiani 2 offers two different internal arms to choose best for your comfort level.

We Vibe just came out with the We-Vibe 3 and they included a remote this time because a common complaint was that the placement of the button coupled with it’s size and the fact that the shiny silicone would quickly become slippery when wet made it damn near impossible for many to change the speed or pattern during sex. We Vibe is not marketing this remote control for any use other than to control it more easily during sex – they do not mention at all that you could use it while she wears the vibrator and you control it without sex being in the mix. Because the We Vibe has always been about enhancing hetero-coupled sex. And the remote isn’t designed for the controller to not be right there – it doesn’t light up, it doesn’t do anything to tell you what setting it is on. However, the We Vibe 3 WILL still work if you lose the remote because there is a button on the vibrator. And the remote does not require any batteries or recharging, it is a permanent 5-7 year lifespan battery.

The We Vibe, any of the models, is actually for both clitoral and g-spot stimulation during sex.
The Lelo Tiani 2 has vibrations on the clitoris, with the arm for placement or slight g-spot pressure.

Both claim though to provide clitoral stimulation that doesn’t get in the way during sex and requires little effort. Except, for some couples, it’s simply a basic fact that a cock pumping in and out of a very lubricated vagina is going to provide friction and movement to the toy and it will move. It just will. Either one also may not be enough stimulation for you –  neither is truly all that powerful as a vibrator but they can be useful to some.

Price is certainly a decision maker for some, but the Lelo Tiani is priced higher than the We Vibe 3, for two reasons: 1) Lelo is cashing in harder every year on the reputation/hype that’s built up around the company and every line that they come out with is increasingly more expensive and more disappointing 2)  Sensemotion technology is a reason for the $20-30 price increase of the Lelo Tiani over the We-Vibe 3.

Who will actually like either of these? Both Tiani and We Vibe 3 are best meant for women who do not need a lot of power in the vibrations of their sex toy to get off. Women who will be able to use either one successfully are those who need just a little help during sex. If your male partner is already pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone with the size of his cock, then the We Vibe will be added girth that you may not tolerate. While the Tiani would excel there due to the small arm it also will not add anything to the party for g-spot stimulation during sex.

Wondering how I rank vibrators in intensity? There’s a guide on my sex toy reviews page. Not everyone will agree with how I rank the vibrators listed, I’m sure, but I try to be as accurate and fair as possible while still acknowledging that I’m not a scientist and my opinions are skewed a bit towards my preferences.

We Vibe 3 vs Lelo Tiani Sensemotion
We Vibe vs Lelo Tiani