Jun 302011

I have a great deal with you. Why not earn generous recurring commission with your blog? I believe you will make a great affiliate partner when you promote sex toys and “safe for work” products. You can help us promote our websites and we can help you make some money! :-) I’m exclusively inviting you 1 to join our affiliate program. By becoming our affiliate partner, you will enjoy these amazing benefits….

Are you looking for a well converting website which really can help you in making good money? If so, the HeartlessScammer.com affiliate program is an opportunity you are looking for 2.

There’s two times when, as a blogger, you’ll be offered a spot in someone’s affiliate program: If you are a reviewer of their products, or, if they’re just trying to get free advertising from you.

I’m betting a number of you are going to think that the second reason sounds pretty harsh, right? I’ll share my opinion on this and ask other experienced review bloggers to chime in with comments.

Yes, I do belong to a few affiliate programs but only for places that I review for (or once reviewed for). The only one that makes me any amount of money worth mentioning is from EdenFantasys, and that’s primarily because I review the most often for them (plus, personal feelings from anyone aside, you have to admit that they walk the line between overstocking worthless crap like Sextoy . com and not carrying many options like VibeReview . com, all while offering pretty decent prices. Options + prices + lack of total sleaze = most like to be bought from).  By actively reviewing for a company I am an affiliate of, I’m putting my affiliate links “out there” in numerous posts. I might make the occasional (VERY occasional) sale with places I reviewed for years ago but kept my affiliate account (VibeReview, Babeland) but it’s rare.

I once belonged to an affiliate program that I was NOT a reviewer for and I only did it because I already genuinely liked the site – Kink.com. I had a rotating banner widget to show their various sites to appeal to various readers, I occasionally wrote about them (ok, twice) but never once did I make an affiliate sale.

So try to imagine the star-aligning moment that would have to occur for you to make any sales on an affiliate program that merely resides as a banner in your sidebar. A reader would have to notice it, and then click on it, and then purchase something from the click from your site. I touched on this topic briefly when I wrote up the Basics of Paid Advertising on the Sex Blogger Education section of e[lust], but given the deluge of affiliate program offers that I (and undoubtedly many other bloggers like me) have received in the last month I just had to write more about this.

Bottom Line:

Their numbers might sound dazzling. 10-20% of every sale? A percentage of those affiliates who sign up under me?? Free to join??? (wait, this smells a little like an MLM scheme, or is that just me?) But trust me on this: They’re going to get a lot more from this largely-one-sided relationship than you are just in free advertising alone. They want their name out there in Google land, that’s what it boils down to, and they don’t want to pay for it.

You’re worth more than a one-sided relationship that just uses your good heart and lies to you, aren’t you?

Added 7-11-11: A special caution regarding International companies:

I’m prompted to add this because of an email I received today from a retailer and a follow-up question from another blogger who received a email from the same retailer.  I strongly caution against joining an affiliate program when they are based in another country than you, unless you know that most of your readers are from that other country. If you’re a US-based blogger, most of your traffic is also probably US visitors.  If I look at my primary stat counter site, it tells me that 52% of my visitors are from the US, 24% are “unknown”, and only 5% are from the UK. My secondary stat site (which doesn’t log as many visitors as the first, 5000 vs 500, respectively) says that 60% of my visitors are from the US and 16% are from the UK. The second site tends to do a little better capturing IP-location data than the first.

So unless you are actively reviewing for a company that is not in your own country, odds are that you won’t ever make much by just being in their affiliate program. And even if you did review for them, you’d have to be really good at SEO tactics to get in UK dwellers to read your review and purchase from your affiliate links.

So yet again…..it’s free advertising for them.

  1. Exclusively? Ooooo let me be flattered until I remember that you’ve also invited 25 other bloggers
  2. Seriously? I could write a better pitch than this shit, and so could a used car salesman
Dec 022009

You can’t please everyone all the time.

A platitude that is true and one that bears repeating.

When I started e[lust] it was equally meant to be a replacement for the extinct Sugasm, but also an evolved sister of it. Sugasm had many participants that I didn’t agree with – non-writers, commercial sites, etc. So when setting up my guidelines, I tried to move away from that.

Perhaps by naming it “elust” I shot myself in the foot? While the project has indeed taken off well, and I have many happy sexy bloggers participating….I also know of a number of bloggers that shy away from joining because they feel it sends the wrong message. They feel it doesn’t belong on their blog, because their blog isn’t about “smut”. Their blog is the thinking sex blog. Or the personal diary sex blog.

I’m not sure how to get through to bloggers like this that I don’t want primarily erotic writing. I want an equal mix. Educational, informative, thought-provoking, cathartic personal posts, and yes of course – smut. Mildly evocative of arousal or hard-core sex on paper. I want it all. *laughs* Is that too much to ask?? In my grand scheme, e[lust] is equally about exposure/traffic as it is exposure/broadening your horizons. I want humorous sex posts because if you can’t laugh during sex then you’re not with the right partner. I want to spread the word about how anti-depressants affect your libido and all the encompassing experiences and opinions.

I just today put out the second edition, so I know there’s room to grow and change and expand. The question is–how? I don’t want this to be a secret club. I want it to be a gateway.

Lofty goals?

As an aside, any html gurus out there care to mentor me on the formatting and re-posting of the code from blog to blog and why the FUCK I’m having issues with it?

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Nov 212009


HNT Courtesy of Coy Pink


Welcome to the first edition of e[lust]! Below is your source for inspirations of lust and sexual intelligence from a wide range of sex bloggers. Want to be included in the next edition? Submission period opens for e[lust] # 2 on November 20th – subscribe to the RSS feed and Twitter for all updates! Check out the submission guidelines and rules of general conduct here.


This week’s top three picks as chosen by fellow e[lust] participants:

At Your Service – His hand pushes on my thigh and I turn away from him, allowing him to inspect my ass. His hands spread my ass cheeks and again I flood with wetness.


Cinderella – “‘I want to fuck you…’ he growled, nipping at her neck and kissing down over her breasts, biting at her nipples through the fabric, making her cry out.

Anal Sex Pt 2: The Ins and Outs of Butt Sex – Butt sex is what you make of it. Enjoy yourselves, be careful, and try everything that looks interesting.

Editor’s Pick:

The Slut Chronicles #5 – The Flight Delay – “When her eye caught his blatantly checking her out, he only grinned wider, with no remorse at all and it was she who blushed furiously.”


A note from the editor: And so it begins…


See also: Pleasurist’s #54 for your sex toy review needs.


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Nov 172009

It’s done, it’s finished, it’s up.

The first edition of e[lust] is finally out the door. Whew!

I had great helpers but I still had a lot of work to do – hopefuly by edition #3 I’ll have worked out the kinks and it’ll go more smoothly. As usual it was the theme that gave me the biggest headache – finding one with a simple design, with columns the way I wanted AND that would look right on all browsers? Harder than you think. {as I am sitting here writing this, I realize I left out a link before I posted the first edition. So typical of me!! At least I added it within a few hours of the post going live so not too many people will have missed out on it}

Even if you didn’t participate in this edition, I’d appreciate it if you check it out and especially this post – I’d like to see some opinions and votes! I’ll be posting the digest on this blog over the weekend, but for now you can check it out here.

I’ve got an HNT for this week that I think most of you will enjoy, and then on Thursday a post about one of the new, amazing friends I made in NYC and her site.

‘Scuse me while I go collapse now.