Feb 212012
 

When your first line of communication is text-based, you  really should try to make a good first impression. I don’t mean that you need to hire Cyrano to ghost-write your profile, or be insincere or embellish anything. Be yourself. However, be yourself with decent spelling, grammar and punctuation. We’re not grading here (unless you message a teacher) but it speaks louder than your words: It says “I don’t care”.  For reference, Case File #267: His first message: Hey how are you I am Shane I would like to talk and get to know you I saw you and I have a bit in common and seem to be looking 1for the same things let me know ifi ts possible shane My response: #1. I do not know what the hell this means: “you are defiantly raland honest then i look foward to getting to know you” 2 #2. You live more than an hour from

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Sep 102010
 
I haven’t done one of these in awhile…..

“Oh, he made my blood just burn I flipped so far, I thought that I would not return” ~”Get him back”, Fiona Apple   I sat here yesterday typing out the beginning half to an erotica story but I just haven’t been able to finish it. I have a post about the TLC series “Strange Sex” nearly done, but haven’t finished it. This rant? Feels soooo good and is just flying off my fingertips. In fact the keyboard would yell “ow!” if it could. It might just have there a second or two ago. Sorry, keyboard.   In order to get back into the erotica groove, I joined Lushstories.com recently. I went back to some of my earlier work here on the blog to post over there. I chose the Taxi Cab Confessional posts, and at first tried to submit them in two parts. Part 1 was soundly Rejected with a litany of sins, mainly

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Jun 212010
 
OKCupid: You fail. BIG time.

So not too long ago I got this email from OkCupid. I haven’t logged on there in a good long while, (read: months) and so I was confused to see an email from them. I’d turned off all other ones, so was curious why the fuck they were bugging me. What did this email tell me? Here, you can see for yourself: *blinks* They’re now segregating based on perceived attractiveness. I’ll let that sink in a mo’. No, I’ll just let it sit there on it’s own, because I’m just too damn flabbergasted about it to say much more right now. Related Posts:How (not) to Impress and Woo on Okcupid: Message Dos and… When your first line of communication is text-based, you  really should try to make a…Dating Pool: OkCupid and their Questions I wouldn’t say I’m using Okcupid for dates, per se, right now. I’m just not…The Dirty Little Secret I’ll keep you my

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Apr 182010
 

So the other week I wake up to an email notification in my inbox from the kinky social networking site I belong to. I’m not very active there, so I don’t get a lot of messages. I’ve had a few recently……dominant men who make me snarl and snap, but they’re not worth mentioning. Everybody gets those sort. But this morning in question I was fresh into my self-imposed hiatus and easily irritated. When I read the message in my email I had no clue who the sender was other than their name but could see that the subject line was “hi honey” and the message was merely: “nice titties sexy girl”. I logged into the site with guns a’blazin’ and was all ready to fire off a “fuck you” email for the offensive and assumptive content (I told you I was feeling cranky and pissy! I’d normally brush it off) but wait. It’s not from

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Feb 052010
 

You know how sometimes you don’t realize something as being true until it comes falling out of your mouth with no premeditated thought? Writing is like that, for me. It can be how I work shit out. So I handed in a few posts to Edencafe recently and they decided to run with my little theme and post them all on the same day. It’s Dangerous Lilly Day! Baby steps this week, one day for lunch I chose a green salad with a half cup of tuna salad on top, and a cup of light yogurt. Two months ago would have found me having the reuben. Was the tunasalad the best choice, when you consider the mayo? Probably not but I didn’t use dressing, and I just can’t eat naked greens. I’m sorry, I can’t make drastic changes and expect it to stick. I bought myself another gelato pint last night at the store. Combine

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Dec 042009
 

Moving on. It’s not an easy thing to do. And encountering douchetards of the “I am Dom, bow before me, bitch” variety makes it more difficult. Mz. Impy reminded me a few days ago why I left CollarMe. The other kink social site I belong to isn’t anywhere near as bad but there are the occasional dickheads there. I have a profile on these two forums – posting sexy things, pics, etc and on the one the messages are usually more respectful and complimenting and such. Usually. I had only mentioned my BDSM past here and there in little bites in various threads, but it was always always “that’s my past and I’m not interested in going there anymore, I’m not looking for a Dom”. But they don’t listen, do they. I think I held back quite a bit here, don’t you? Subject: The First Thing… Message: that I would insist on is that you

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