Dec 132015

Doxy-SkittleWe’re so accustomed to being told what/who a sex toy is for that when a company makes an oddly-shaped vibrator for any gender….sometimes we kinda hold it in our hands and go “Okay, yeah, but….how do I USE this thing?”. With the Doxy Skittle there’s really no one right or wrong way and for that reason it may not be everyone’s cup of tea. In fact, there are a few factors that may make this a “no” for quite a number of people. But if you, like me, have a deep love affair with strong, rumbling, earth-shaking vibrations? Well, let me tell you about the Doxy Skittle.

Ok, But…How Do You Use It??

At first glance you’d think “oh, it’s a dual stimulator1” and yeah but nah (not for me). The only part that really vibrates is the pin. The external nub gets a fraction of the vibrations, a small fraction, and so it really serves more as a flare to allow you to use this toy anally if you wish.  The problem, for me, with using it internally is that the pin is fairly short (2.5″ long, 1.25″ wide). My g-spot is very shallow but this didn’t reach it. It DID provide EXCELLENT vibrations to my internal clitoris and it sang from across the alley to my g-spot but this wasn’t how I would fall for the Skittle.

I love using it externally. The problem is that it’s kinda big and kinda bulky and kinda weird; I don’t expect something that isn’t a wand to be tethered to the wall. I can’t really use the Doxy Skittle very well in my preferred position – sitting in my desk chair. The Skittle works best for me if I’m laying down and I bring my feet and knees closer to my body so that my thighs can be the support bridge for the Skittle. This keeps it in place nicely so that I don’t have to hold it 2. If I were thin and limber this position would allow me to reach behind my thighs to do dildo action…but I’m not. I kinda think that a dildo and the Skittle could actually work out well in a Liberator Pulse, but I can’t say for sure.  Maybe you’d just need a different Liberator Shape to hold the dildo for you. Yes, it seems like more work than some are willing to go through just to use a vibrator but for me, these vibrations are worth it. And I am sure there are other ways to hold it that would leave room for dildo’ing, but not for me. I have to position it this way, and I love to use it despite it’s oddities and limitations because hey, it feels good.  And yes, you’re seeing correctly, the control buttons are not on the vibrator itself. It’s a handpack, which transports me back to 2009. This handpack control thing might be a deal breaker for some because depending on how you use it you may need a hand for the Skittle, a hand for the controller and a hand for the….wait, no, you’re out of hands. We’re back to having something else hold the dildo for you, if that’s an ingredient you’re adding to the recipe. But for me, for the way I prefer to use the Skittle, this remote handpack deal works pretty damn well since I’m not holding the Skittle itself.

Oh, The Vibrations…

Doxy Skittle has the type of vibrations I love. I mean, I pretty much swooned over them in my video.

Are they the strongest on the planet? No – but they’re pretty strong. Are they strong enough for me? Yes. For me this is one of few vibrators (the Tango is another) that I use on lower speeds at first just because I don’t want to come too soon and I want to enjoy the feeling of the vibrations for longer. Like eating your dessert ever so slowly to stretch out the pleasure of the exquisite taste3, I need to stretch out the sensations of the Doxy Skittle.  It took me awhile to try and compare the vibrations of the Skittle to something else because they’re really not like most other vibrators. And on high it’s a LOT like using the spot attachment on the Wahl, but more gentle (because the Skittle is silicone and the Wahl attachments are….I don’t even know…hard something). It can be really intense directly on your clitoris, but also really nice laid out lengthwise between the labia. The shape isn’t perfect for a penis, in our opinion there are better options for a vibrator for the penis, but this could be awesome for someone with a smaller penis or larger clitoris. I still think that something like the Pulse for average-to-above-average penises is better than the Skittle, or even a wand like Mystic Wand.

The Mystic Wand on high is about the same power level as the Doxy Skittle on medium, but the Doxy Skittle is a lot more rumbling, by far. As I said the sensations are best compared to the Wahl on high which is more like jackhammering than vibrating. I would actually say that the Doxy Skittle on high seems to be just about as powerful as the Doxy Die Cast on high but again…it’s more concentrated with the Skittle and way more thuddy/rumbly. The Die Cast (and therefore Magic Wand and Regular Doxy) might seem more intense because of the surface area, since their heads are so broad. I tried to compare the Doxy Skittle to the Tango and I couldn’t really compare it. Like, my beloved Tango suddenly feels …. weak, almost4. Yet still for me the Tango is preferable. It’s the Mama Bear to my Goldielocks. It’s neither too weak nor too powerful. 99% of the time I do not have any trouble coming within minutes with the Tango if I want. I would say my success rate of “minutes” with the Doxy Skittle is more like 85% and I suspect that it’s simply because I really do need the pinpoint accuracy of the Tango to hone in on that tiny little spot on the right side of my tiny little clitoral shaft.  How does it compare to the L’amourose Rosa? Well, I really dig Rosa Rouge’s heating aspect for external play so it gets a leg up there, even though the Skittle is way more thuddy/rumbly and feels stronger. And I find that Rosa is easier for me to hold vs the Doxy Skittle. Doxy Skittle will rattle your damn bones if you tried to grip it at the base; which is why I try to find ways to use it where I don’t have to hold it.  My Lelo Smart Wand Large holds a special place because it is so much more rumbly than any other wand vibrator and I’d found that when I combined it with an attachment like the Vixen Gee Whizzard it concentrated the rumbly vibrations and made it lovely for internal OR external play. It reminds me of the Doxy Skittle in that way. I didn’t put the attachment on for the video, and I probably should have. Although, yes, the Skittle is more thuddy. What about a smaller “wand” like the Palm Power? Skittle wins. I hate that Palm Power, though.

I didn’t use this anally, and we won’t be trying that out here. I had my husband look it over and tell me if he thought that this would reach his prostate and he doesn’t think it will. But for someone with or without a prostate who really enjoys vibrations in the first few inches of their rectum (which is where so many nerve endings are), this would be amazing.

All in all, I think the Doxy Skittle a fucking wonderful vibrator with sensations you don’t often find. The price is really great (I consider anything under $100 to be great these days because we can’t have the moon). The Doxy Customer Service is awesome. It’s not perfect, it’s not going to be the vibrator for everyone, but it’s a worthy contender. The Skittle might end up being one of those vibrators where everyone you know who owns it and uses it, uses it differently.


Thanks to SheVibe for sending me this! You can get it from them for $89.99, free US shipping!

  1. And SheVibe even has it in the dual stim category
  2. but it does preclude any dildo action – this would be one of those times where a lovely, full vaginal plug would work best to provide pressure via fullness to my g-spot without the need for any manipulation by me. In short, the lazy masturbation set-up
  3. Because you’re on a fecking diet and sadly can no longer eat half the cake of 6 cupcakes
  4. Ok no, not really but it’s being eclipsed in power!
Dec 232012

I thought that this recent question deserved to be highlighted more:

I want to buy my girlfriend an anal plug/toy. She’s new to anal; she tried the finger and now I believe she wants to pass to another level… I just want to give her a toy and let her experiment a little bit. Now, I am new also in the toy buying and I need your advice. Can you recommend something for beginners? I am aware about the materials but I still don’t know what to choose. I believe she needs something soft, something with a “natural feel”. Any advice will be appreciated.

My response1:

A plug is something you wear around for hours or you can also just use it for the occasion, while just a simple toy is used as-is. The most comfortable plugs have a definitive difference between the neck and the body, with a decent base. The neck is what sits at the sphincter level; the sphincter prefers to be closed so a plug that will feel the most natural and least like she’s about to poop will have a thin neck.

I would also caution against looking for something super-soft and cushy/squishy simply because you need something with a bit of “backbone” to be able to penetrate the ass. That first sphincter muscle, especially, can be quite stubborn for beginners on letting anything inside the ass. Biologically speaking, it’s not natural. Your rectum and sphincter are built for exit-only; when the sphincter is open, it wants to close. And when things come out it is much easier than putting something in. That’s not to say that anal play is bad or dangerous; not at all if done right. I’m just pointing out that it’s not the biological function de facto which is why things may seem a little tricky at first.

If she’s taken nothing other than a single finger, I would highly suggest that no matter what else you get, you get her a warm-up dildo or two. Preferably two. The Tantus Silks are the absolute best. I have them both and in my opinion you cannot just jump to the medium if you’re brand new to anal.  I was steered towards the Silk Small as a warm-up and introductory toy to my Crystal Delights plug; despite the fact that I chose their smaller plug, it was still a little too big for me to just jump right to. The Silk Small was amazing. Only after sufficient play with the Silk Small would I graduate up to the Silk Medium. Even after numerous play sessions, to get used to the “weird feeling”, I would still start off each time with the Silk Small as a warm-up before moving on to the Silk Medium.  These are smooth, plain and great for getting the anus and sphincter used to having something there. Other small, silicone options include plugs like the Tantus Little Flirt which if you get from their “Grab Bag” section, is under $20. The same can be said for the Ripple Small from Grab Bag. Tantus Meteorite is slightly bigger than the Little Flirt, but the fun colors demand a higher price tag.  Tantus Warm Up dildo is a newer design, and is another small 1″ option. This would actually be great for prostate play introduction. If you’re looking for something a bit more realistic in design, consider the Vixen Small Bent. They make one in standard Vixen silicone, and then the Spur is the soft, Vixskin option. That will give you a little cushion and comfort.

Plugs that receive rave reviews from everyone are the Njoy Pure Plugs. I know that stainless steel can seem intimidating to a first-timer, which is why warm-up toys are imperative. The Pure Plug Medium though has a max diameter of 1.25″ and a nice, long thin neck. It’s built for comfort and to wear around for hours and hours. The steel might be cold at first, but you can warm it up in a bowl of *semi-warm* (not hot) tap water if you want.

If you’re already ready to move past the 1″ and under set, the Fun Factory Bootie is highly recommended for something under $50. The Tantus Ryder is also a good pick.

Make sure you use plenty of lube! Thicker gel-like lubes work best for anal play. While many companies will tell you that you should avoid silicone-based lubes with silicone toys, the higher quality silicone of Tantus can tolerate certain higher-quality silicone-based lubes. Hybrid lubes are great as they have a small amount of silicone so they don’t interact, but Tantus have recommended brands like Sliquid as having high compatibility even if it’s just straight silicone lube. As always though, you have to do lube research – too low of a pH for lube for the butt can lead to a stinging sensation which is not good! Use the Lube Guide to find a lube that is a good pH and devoid of irritating chemicals.

Random Important Anal Play Information:

  • Please AVOID anal numbing  / desensitizing creams, gels and sprays. I can understand that newbies will be nervous about it feeling weird or hurting, but the anus is very special – if you do not use enough lube and you use a toy that is too big, too soon, you can create tiny tears in the skin called fissures. This is bad because then you are at a high risk for getting fecal matter into the open skin; you’re also at a higher risk for transmitting diseases of all types through broken skin.
  • When you’re using fingers, it’s really best to put on a nitrile glove. This is a safety trick for both the receiver (fingernails!!) and the giver (broken skin? fecal matter under the fingernail?)
  • Never, ever ever ever share anything between the ass and the mouth or the ass and the vagina. Never. Ever. Have I made my point clear? Ignore what they do in porn. Those butts have been cleaned out better than your average endoscopy requires, and there is no fecal matter that might transfer. You or your partner could become very sick if you don’t heed this warning. This also applies to sex toys. The only toys that should ever be used in both holes are non-porous ones that can be properly sanitized  – silicone, glass, metal. And you absolutely must sanitize in between orifices.
  • There will sometimes be a little poop. It’s a fact of life, it’s going to happen. Just have warm, wet washclothes or baby wipes right near by.  If your partner cannot handle this, then you need to rethink anal play with them. Consider buying black sex toys, too, as they won’t show fecal matter like a pastel pink dildo would.
  • Anal play, when done right, can be very pleasurable – for women and men. Men have the added bonus of a prostate to enjoy, but that’s for another guide. Many women have experienced g-spot stimulation via anal play (the wall inside between the vagina and rectum is very thin).
  1. My response is directed to the asker, who has a female partner. However, my information is the same for all genders – I just am focusing on the butt, not the prostate this time