Jan 272010

I plan to write more on this, for this blog, but for now this is just a quick meta-post. The post before this one detailed how I finally care enough about me, for myself, to want to look and feel better.

But my husband felt that some commenters might have missed that point. By saying that perhaps women who appear polished and well-dressed are really hiding flaws and fears might have some merit with some women, but it certainly isn’t a standard. I feel that many of those women appear that way because they *care about themselves* and how they look. The old adage of “look better to feel better” is really so much more true than some of us can realize. I feel sexier when I dress sexier. I feel more attractive when I put on my make-up and dress smartly. I feel it, so therefore I exude it, and therefore…I AM. For years, I did this all for the benefit of others above myself. But now, it’s for me above and beyond all else. It’s going to extend past wearing smarter clothes and into eating healthier and exercising more. I don’t know how, but I’m going to do it. He was more proud of me than I expected, upon reading that post. He was more moved than I expected, as well. I guess because you don’t see the changes in yourself as easily as the ones closest to you.

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I feel like you all are going to think we have a sploshy food fetish, but I swear we do not. We got messy with some food again the other day, but this time it was purely for the camera and I ran for the washcloth right after. Why for the camera? Well let’s just say inspiration struck when eating something, providing us with photos and a mental image for him that normally wouldn’t occur. You’ll see soon enough!

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Over there in the sidebar, up top,  I put a new textbox to alert you whenever I see a really good you-can’t-miss-this sale on a fabulous sex toy that I love. I’ve got alerts set for a number of toys but this first one is near and dear to my cunt heart – the Njoy Pure Wand. Right now Edenfantasys has a deal where you get a free $50 giftcard towards your next purchase, if you buy the Pure Wand (and buying the Pure Wand gets you free overnight shipping). If you buy sex toys even on a semi-regular basis, that’s kinda like getting the Pure Wand for nearly half off. In a roundabout $50-worth-of-free-sex-toys way. Which is awesome in my book :)

Sep 012009

“I SQUIRTED!!!!!!!!! HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!!!!!!!!”

I’ve only squirted with one toy, only one.

“The final frenzied build-up took a good minute or two…..this was truly a roller-coaster ride and the climb up to the top was better than most orgasms felt as I was coming. Yes, that good. When I felt orgasm approaching I pushed a bit, like I’ve read to do, and the orgasm was literally the strongest I’ve had on my own in a long LONG while. I curled into myself, holding my breath while my mouth gaped open in a silent scream. Between the strong orgasm and how hard I was pushing, I eventually pushed the damn thing out of me (not easy to do given the weight and large ball).  And it was different, in a good way. I managed to have a simultaneous orgasm from both my clit and my G-spot. The inundation of extreme pleasure didn’t stop until I let go of the toys.”

Only one sex toy gives me strong orgasms, multiple orgasms, “no way I won’t come” orgasms when all else seems to fail. If I had to own just one toy I would choose this one. Yes, even over a vibrating toy.


It’s such a great sex toy that I’m  not alone in loving it, it won an award!

If I could, I’d make this play the “ahhhhh!!” angels singing midi to further
drive home the fact that the Njoy Pure Wand is THAT FRIGGIN AWESOME


I am having a contest and I am giving away one Njoy Pure Wand, courtesy of EdenFantasys.com. It’s a simple contest, really. Three ways to enter into the random drawing. One for bloggers, one for commenters who are not bloggers, and one for anybody with a Twitter account.

To be clear, you can have two entries into this contest: Your blog post OR your comment about the perfect sex toy design, plus Twitter.

Entry Method One: For Bloggers:

Post the following on your blog, including the links and the photo. I need you to then come here and comment to tell me that you entered, and include the link to your post in your comment. Repost everything between the lines! If you’re reposting this to a tumblr, please make sure that the embedded links carry over.


Lilly, of DangerousLilly.com, is giving away an Njoy Pure Wand courtesy of EdenFantasys! The Pure Wand is a high-quality stainless steel double-ended dildo for either G-spot stimulation or prostate stimulation. It is 24 ounces of solid medical grade stainless steel, and polished to a mirror shine. Lilly loves her Pure Wand and wants to spread the love to one lucky winner!

To enter the contest just visit her blog to find out the rules and entry methods. You can enter even if you don’t have a blog, it’s easy! The contest deadline is September 16th, 2009, at Midnight Eastern Standard Time.


Entry Method Two: For Non Bloggers:

Leave me a comment on this post and tell me the design the perfect sex toy for you, if a sex toy manufacturer gave you complete design control! Tell me the size, the color and shape, if it vibrates or not, or simply tell me how you would change a toy that’s already on the market that you almost love and how you would make it perfect.


Entry Method Three: For Twitterers:

All you have to do is tweet this ONCE and only once – not once a day, just one time between now and the contest deadline. I’ll find all the entries by searching for the hashtag; however if your Twitter updates are locked (protected) and I do not follow you, you’ll need to comment here with a link directly to your contest entry tweet and I will request to follow you so that I can verify your entry.

Tweet this:

Win an Njoy Pure Wand from @Dangerous_Lilly – contest rules here: http://bit.ly/3gcPuf Ends 9-16-09 @ 12am EST #DangerousLillyPureWand

UPDATE: Restating this because it needs to be said again: If I didn’t already follow you and your tweets are locked, please include a link to the tweet. For some reason if you tweet it first and then I request to follow, it doesn’t show up in my “Mentions” column. By the time I might see your comment here telling me about it, it could be hours later (and many tweets later on your part).

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September 16th (a Wednesday), 2009 at Midnight EST

Who is eligible:


It’s really important to give a valid email address when you’re filling out the comment form here (emails are only seen by me). I’ll notify the winner via email or DM through Twitter. You’ll have 5 days to get back to me so that I know you’re there, before I pick a new winner. I’ll then pass your email address to my contact at Edenfantsys and you will give them your mailing address.


Perhaps someday if every person owns an Njoy Pure Wand, we will achieve world peace :)



May 072009

Pictures of Lily made my life so wonderful
Pictures of Lily helped me sleep at night

For me and Lily are together in my dreams
And I ask you, “Hey mister, have you ever seen”
“Pictures of Lily?”

~The Who, “Pictures of Lily”

How could I resist using this song title for a post about, and containing photos of, my cunt? Especially since the song is about masturbation in a roundabout way and a “picture of lily” is well…..yeah. you get it. I don’t need to explain all the points, right? You’re smart people.

Lilly / Lily


for Rated X, click through

Now, where were we? Ah yes. You know how I do it. But now….it is time for me to attempt to explain the wordless, to put text to something I feel and see. See? yeah…you’ll understand it soon.

Let us use the scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the lowest. I rarely start out at a level of 1, unless I am idly playing with my cunt as I am reading mild erotica. Using my fingers only, it is a slow climb up the rungs….achingly slow.

At 2, I’m getting wet…spreading the silkiness around…

At 3 my clit is solid…

At 4 my middle finger right hand is pressing and circling and rubbing my clit. At 4 I am moderately wet. At 4 I am fully aroused and will find it quite difficult to stop the boat there.

At this point I employ toys. If this is a clitoral-only session, then a vibrator is on the menu. In some regards I am more male than female; masturbation seems to be one of those areas. I am not like the porn actresses…..I do not spend time languidly touching my body. My goal is to get off and if I want to prolong the experience then I go for more orgasms. The only time I prolong the ride to orgasm is when my body is being uncooperative or I have to keep stopping (such as being at work). As I touch the vibrator to my clit, we shoot up the scale.



7 ……are all rushing by. I tense my muscles, almost…..pulling them inwards, sort of. My lower abs, back, ass, thighs, PC muscles…I am tense and writhing and working for my orgasm. I continue my pattern of pressure and tight circles around my clit.

8….my breathing is quicker my heart rate increased and my chest feels a little tight. My pelvis is moving of its own accord.

….9, here we go, we’re almost there. I know when 9 has hit and I know that 10 is just around the bend and no matter what I am NOT stopping now…..I can feel my body getting warm. My face and chest. If the ride up the scale was prolonged than you can bet that my chest and neck are splotchy and red like I had an allergic reaction, almost.

Aannnnddd 10.


10 means the tingles and bubbles hit (think of the effervescence of a carbonated beverage). They began forming in my cunt and the first step of orgasm is that the tingles spread throughout my body. Down my legs, up my belly and my chest and my face and then my eyes….yes, my eyes. There is concentrated tingling behind my eyes and I usually cannot keep them open during that long second. And then….

one beat…..calm before the storm….

and the tingles all rush back to my cunt in a fury and my whole cunt from asshole to clit is contracting and pulsing and the pleasure is intense.

The intensity varies, it is increased three-fold if I employed a dildo and ten-fold if I am using the Pure Wand. The orgasms with the Pure Wand can sometimes actually cause me chest pain, they are so intense, partially because I am bearing down so hard because it is with the Pure Wand that I have the opportunity for squirting. I have the ability to remain silent when I need to, but I prefer being able to be free. I am not a “screamer” but I can get very vocal.

I generally stop all movement when the pulsing starts, but I leave the vibrator on my clit until the biggest quakes pass. I lay there to catch my breath and let my heart stop pounding. The little aftershock mini-quakes make my cunt twitch. I once had a guy tell me he could feel it – right after orgasm he was on his back and I on my side, I curled into him…head on his chest and my legs wrapped around his thigh, my cunt was pressing to his hip.

If I had been using the Pure Wand, I don’t usually let up on my g-spot and I give my clit only a mere moments rest. I can go again and again; within minutes the next orgasm comes rolling in.

What does it feel like with the g-spot stimulation added in? Levels 6, 7, 8 go by so fast they’re not even acknowledged. The g-spot stimulation intensifies the clit stimulation and vice versa. I know I have the g-spot right when I get the “gotta pee, maybe” feeling but its not bad, it’s….good. It’s the mecca of pleasure. And when I come it is as one thing, it is neither a g-spot orgasm nor a clit orgasm it is…..a full cunt orgasm.

Sometimes my g-spot is my happy spot and after an intense session I will lay there in exhaustion and I giggle.

I am glowing, I am flushed, I am spent….and I am giggling and I am just thrilled with the world at that moment.


Until I discovered vibrations on my clit, I did orgasm from sex – but it was a g-spot orgasm, this I know now. And with a g-spot orgasm, for me, there are none of the telltale signs at level 9, there are no contractions of my cunt. So as you can imagine when I first experienced that type of orgasm I was enthralled. I actually got out my digital camera and took a close-up video so that I could watch what I was feeling. The female orgasm, watching the moment of orgasm and all that is happening……I am entranced and intrigued by it. When I watch porn it is that shot that I want to see. It is rare. Even just the sort that is a solo woman masturbating (which I love) they tend to focus the camera on her face. This is fine and beautiful but it’s not the best view, in my opinion.  This is probably why the highlight of all my experiences with other women was the time I photographed and video’d a friend while she masturbated.

Nov 102008

This weekend I had to go to my mother’s house; check in on the cat because my mom was out of town, and bring down all my childhood toys/mementos from the attic so that I could pack them up better (she’s moving to a new house in a few months, and needs help packing up 30 years of stuff). You just don’t ask a sentimental ADD gal to pack up her childhood toys. It wasn’t everything, it was things that over the years as I got older I decided I had had an attachment to. Some stuff I looked at now and thought WTF?? and pitched. Other stuff….I played with, lol. There’s more fun on this at my other blog, so take a trip down memory lane with me….complete with pictures and a video of Milky the Moo Cow. It’ll be fun, I promise.

Despite being young, my body isn’t. I went to bed at a decent hour, but woke up later. Since I had the house to myself of course I had brought along some toys and of -course- I brought along my Pure wand. I had another try at squirting – it didn’t happen, but all is not lost. No….I had another first. True multiple orgasms.

Usually, right after a clitoral orgasm, I’m so sensitive that I can’t keep the vibrator on me. A second orgasm will take a much longer build-up than the first. Not this night.

One of the things that I notice with the Pure wand is that either I’m a lot wetter than with any other toy, or the design/material of it just makes it seem that way. Perhaps because with other internal toys I am filled up, I choose ones with girth, so there isn’t a lot of “wiggle room”. The wet sloppy sounds as I work the ball against my G-spot are obscene. It has been the case that by orgasm 2, the wand is covered top to bottom in sticky juices. Another thing I have noticed is the ability of the wand to absorb the ambient temperature and hold on to it. If I pull the wand out of me during momentary breaks and rest it on my clit it is downright hot to the touch. It will stay very warm for quite some time after use.

Anyways. I found that I actually had to hold back a little with the vibrator on my clit for the first orgasm, or the build-up would have been short. After the first one, I moved the vibe off my clit but kept going with the wand and it felt so good….like I could come again….less than a minute later the Pocket Rocket is back on my clit and in a few minutes I am moaning and writhing with orgasm 2. Repeat. again. It was another amazing first, as the waves neevr really seemed to die down and I felt like I could just keep orgasming over and over…..but I tired out soon and fell into a deep sleep.

If you haven’t been convinced already, for the love of all you consider holy, go buy one of these!!!

  1. I’ve successfully found my G-spot, easily
  2. I’ve squirted for the first time
  3. I’ve had multiple orgasms for the first time
  4. The orgasms are -intense-

I can’t wait to meet Greg of Njoy at the party this Friday and thank him for creating this modern holy grail.

Speaking of the party, wee!!! in 4 days I’ll be in NYC!!! I finally figured out what I’m wearing, after a few clothing meltdowns (and boots that were a major fail). The shoes are up in the air because I’m trying to determine if I can do heels. I’m wobbly and unstable on them but that’s not my issue – it will be crowded and I’ll just make sure to lose my balance (cleavage first) into someone cute. My issue is whether or not I can tolerate what feels like 800psi being exerted on the balls of my feet.

Nov 022008
There is nothing like this. It’s that simple. The Njoy Pure Wand is, quite simply, the best sex toy for g-spot (or prostate) stimulation.


Njoy Pure Wand Njoy Pure Wand

The Njoy Pure Wand

24 ounces of pure solid (316, for the nerds) medical-grade stainless steel doesn’t *sound* sexy, but once you touch it and hold it, you’ll know. It is shiny in a mirror-finish; this material is hypoallergenic, easily cleaned or sterilized and won’t ever corrode or degrade. It ain’t goin anywhere, that’s for sure. I know it’s pricey at first glance for something that doesn’t even vibrate but….if you purchase -any- G-spot toy it should be this one.The ball for G-spot is 1.5″ and because one ball is bigger than the other, the G-spot side is heavier. You’ll see why this matters soon. It is obviously compatible with all lubes but the women most likely will not need any, or more than a drop.

This toy isn’t just for women – the other end is smaller for prostate stimulation, 1″ wide.

It took me hours after receiving this before I actually used it as intended. Why? I couldn’t stop touching it. Fondling, even. Looking at it in utter awe. Because of ~%#@!% UPS, I had to go there to pick it up the other evening. Waited in a tiny guard shack with other people for over 30 minutes and I was just in general miserable but I knew it would be worth it. It had been really cold that day, and so even an hour after I left UPS the Pure Wand was still very cold. Which was very intriguing. Once inserted though it didn’t take long to warm up.

If you measure “as the crow flies”, it is 8″ long. But measure along the curve from ball to ball and it is 10″. More than enough to get the job done.

This toy ….. I just can’t say enough about it. It is a toy that, at first, will be the companion on slower sessions. You need time to explore it and there is a learning curve simply because you’ve never experienced anything like it. Unless of course you’re already an expert at finding your G-spot (I am not, on my own). When I first inserted it, I just slipped the large ball past my opening and I let it slide on its own. Gravity took it slowly down deeper into me until the arch was resting on my slit. With the end you use as a handle, pointing up at you like a hard cock would, it is much easier to use than a straighter dildo. Especially for women who have short arms, like me.

Earlier this evening I started this post. Then I went to play with the toy some more (why? Because I read other reviews elsewhere about all these women squirting for the first time with it and I wanted to try more. Also, writing about the toy made me horny and wet. No, I’m not kidding). I had an hour long session (at least an hour). I kept hitting my g-spot, something that wasn’t done by me very often before, but then my hand/thumb would start hurting. This fucker is heavy, for me, a girl with weak wrists and tender muscles (fibromyalgia). And my G-spot likes a LOT of pressure. Each time I would make delicious contact I nearly lost my breath. Each push/pull, each pumping stroke, each rock of the wand echoed the sounds of a very wet pussy. So I played with my Layaspot and the wand for awhile, building to a nice slooww orgasm (albeit clitoral only) and the G-spot stimulation felt great. I have heard that the G-spot is more swollen and “receptive” after a clitoral orgasm, so I laid there for a bit with the wand still in me, idly playing. Soon, playing in earnest. And then I brought out the Hitachi.

Despite the wand slipping a bit in my hands, I pulled straight up on the smaller ball, bringing the inside ball firmly up against my G-spot. And I held it there with all my strength, while Hitachi buzzed away. I kept alternating in short bursts of holding the wand firmly in place while I ground the Hitachi to my clit, and backing off on the Hitachi while feverishly fucking myself with the wand. The final frenzied build-up took a good minute or two…..this was truly a roller-coaster ride and the climb up to the top was better than most orgasms felt as I was coming. Yes, that good. When I felt orgasm approaching I pushed a bit, like I’ve read to do, and the orgasm was literally the strongest I’ve had on my own in a long LONG while. I curled into myself, holding my breath while my mouth gaped open in a silent scream. Between the strong orgasm and how hard I was pushing, I eventually pushed the damn thing out of me (not easy to do given the weight and large ball).  And it was different, in a good way. I managed to have a simultaneous orgasm from both my clit and my G-spot. The inundation of extreme pleasure didn’t stop until I let go of the toys. And then I pulled back my hand (I was under my comforter, in bed) to find that it was wet. I pulled back the comforter…and there’s a big wet spot on it. Bed, too.


I SQUIRTED!!!!!!!!! HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!!!!!!!! That’s never happened before!


I used this toy in all manner of positions on my bed. On my back. On my side. On my stomach. You can pull upwards on it for constant firm pressure. You can push the outer ball away from you. You can….well…you can do just about anything with this, and you’ll hit your G-spot. Really if you buy any G-spot toy at all, it should be this one. I promise.

I think I’m in love, this toy is Pure heaven.


Updated after 5 years of reviewing sex toys: I still think its my Holy Grail sex toy. Nothing else, hands down, gives me better orgasms. More Pure Wand love to be found elsewhere on this blog. I could be happy with only owning two sex toys now – my We-Vibe Tango and my Njoy Pure Wand. And pretty much, those are the two I use 85% of the time.