Feb 172010
 
When the Brain Doesn't Match the Body

(This post first appeared over at Edencafe.com) First let me explain my take on the “typical” brain of feminine vs masculine. I do realize that just by saying that I’ve already ruffled some feathers. The saying “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” DOE S have its valid points. I’m equally a logical and emotional person. It’s hell, lemme tell ya. I need to totally *understand* something, I need to know why. Why, why, why. I’m like a 2 year old. I cannot just do something “because”. If I at least know why I’m doing it and what comes next then I’m much better able to do my part. But I also act and react very emotionally, I’m very much an empath. Anyways, back to the logic. I have fibromyalgia which is a very misunderstood disease (but they do know that brain chemicals are either affected or a partial cause and I believe that

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Jan 242010
 

This originally appeared over at Edencafe.com, but I’m re-posting it here in hopes of some helpful comments and giving my thoughts more exposure. As a little kid I can remember being quite the tomboy. I disliked Barbie Dolls. I preferred my toy guns and make-believe horses to baby dolls and playing dress-up. I can remember being just as dirty as a boy, with just as poor hygiene habits. Shameful, but true. Eventually peer pressure and friends ahead of me in terms of femme influenced my behavior (in other words: Junior High). I can remember painting my nails. I can remember that it never lasted long, I picked even back then. I can remember owning numerous skirts and dresses. In fact, I had one year in High School where I wore little other than skirts and dresses to school. Why? No clue. I think perhaps I had just truly discovered that boys were attracted to my

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Jan 012010
 

I’m stealing this from Hubman who stole it from NY Diva IN THE YEAR TWO THOUSAND…(NINE) 1. What did you do that you’d never done before? A few exhibitionist/voyeuristic things that have been written about; saw a burlesque show; had a “street” hot dog in NYC 2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year? If I made any, I don’t recall. I probably made a few and didn’t keep them. I’ll make another one or two. 3. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009? More sex. A reliable car. A job I like. 4. What dates from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory? August 23rd; April 1st; November 6th 5. Did you suffer illness or injury? Ha! Oh boy did I ever. 6. What was the best thing you bought? Our laptop 7. Where did most of your money go?

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Dec 272009
 

If you’re on Twitter, I’m sure you’ve seen a bunch of your comrades doing the Formspring thing, and likely you are too. A couple people prodded me to do one, but rebel that I am, I haven’t linked it up with Twitter and I’ll be answering the questions here on my blog. This has led to very few questions, lol. The first one is from Nadia (Diary of a Kinky Librarian and @NadiaWest): Do you think that being a sex blogger has changed you in any way? How so? Yes, it really has. There’s the obvious in how it has changed my life and lifestyle, but it also has changed *me*. I am more educated on sex-related topics. I am more confident. I am more open in my discussions with my husband and prospective partners regarding sex. I have become more tolerant and accepting of kinks/fetishes that aren’t my thing; some I have even learned

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Dec 232009
 

A post by AAG earlier in the week reminded me of my first blowjob – and man was it awkward. And actually – quite regrettable. I must confess though that I’m not sure which year of high school this occurred, junior or senior year. I know that his name was John and he lived in another school district; we caught each others eye in the Small Town Friday Night Activity of Going To The Mall. LAME! I know. But I thought he was hot. We had something resembling a lame date and then a month or so later I saw him again for my Christmas formal. He was allowed to drive me to and from the dance, I think. But oddly we didn’t get frisky until he brought me home. He dropped me off and politely made small talk with my father and then I walked him to his car. I originally thought that my

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Sep 142009
 

When I dug deep into the blackness and confessed my flaws yesterday, I never expected the reaction that I got. I expected for people to read that post and think about how much of a deviation it is from what I show on this blog and be….disappointed? No, that’s not the word. I don’t know what word I’m looking for. But either way, I was surprised at what I got. And I cannot tell you all how touched I am. No, seriously, y’all made me cry. Like big, fat Hallmark-commercial tears when it’s that time of the month and you’ve just watched the episode of Grey’s Anatomy where Denny dies*. The sweet things, the supportive things, the “I feel that way too” things…..was just overwhelming. And it makes me sad that so many people feel that way; I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. Why does it have to be this way? What has

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