Dec 182012

Today, something quite unusual happened. I received a friend request on Facebook ~which was preceded by an introduction message~. I imagine some of you are cocking your head like “what’s that?”, right? I have two Facebook accounts, as many of us bloggers do – a “real life” or vanilla account where we use our real names and connect with family members and people from high school we’d like to forget; and then there’s our “blog-version” Facebook accounts where many of us do the majority of our social media networking and sharing albeit under a pseudonym. On my vanilla account, I tend to mostly play those stupid Zynga games because many are perfect ADD-fodder: your activity is limited to 5-minute bits, perfect for my waning attention span. So it’s not 100% uncommon for me to get friend requests from people I do not know simply because we have friends in common – for these goddamn addicting

[Click here to read more...]
Nov 192011
There's always one...

There will always be people who don’t like you or something you’re doing. After all, you can’t please everyone all the time. And because I am me – emotional, headstrong, attached, fucked up – I tend to hear frequently “Don’t take things so personally”. I can try but ultimately I fail at that often. Recently on Twitter Kit O’Connell shared his find of a WordPress plugin called Broken Link Checker and he mentioned that having a lot of broken links looks bad to Google. I paused for one moment when he mentioned that most of the links he was removing belonged to e[lust] and pleasurists but I quickly realized he was correct – there is absolutely no reason or need to continue to link to a blog that is gone or a post that is gone. It is gone! Logic prevails. And so I installed the plugin on both sites. When going through the broken

[Click here to read more...]
Jun 162011

No words My tears won’t make any room for ’em, oh And it don’t hurt Like anything I’ve ever felt before   This is no broken heart No familiar scars This territory goes uncharted   Just me In a room sunk down in a house in a town And I don’t breathe Though I never meant to let it get away from me   Now I have too much to hold Everybody has to get their hands on gold And I want uncharted   Stuck under the ceiling I made, I can’t help the feeling I’m going down Follow if you want, I won’t just hang around Like you’ll show me where to go   I’m already out Of foolproof ideas so don’t ask me how To get started It’s all uncharted   ……… ………   Jump start my kaleidoscope heart I love to watch the colors fade They may not make sense But they

[Click here to read more...]
Aug 032010

Blogger, as we all well know, encourages people who blog about “Adult Content” to willingly put up a warning splashpage. If you don’t, and they catch you, they’ll forcibly put one up that you can’t ever remove. Site owners who are not on Blogger frequently put a little “Over 18 Only” Warning text at the top of their sidebar. Of course, the little warning text doesn’t really do much. Children won’t see it and suddenly click away. Is it just there as a CYA move? I don’t know if Blogger’s warning pages actually interact with the Internet Content Rating Association or other means of Parental Controls, and thereby prevent kids from seeing those sites. At most they’re going to prevent people who are of age and offended by sex from seeing talk or photos about sex. Recently I stumbled across this site/organization called RTA (restricted to adults), a place to go to self-label your site

[Click here to read more...]
Jul 232010

e[lust] So you know that e[lust] has a modified summer schedule, right? Well it’s time for edition #18, submissions are open till Tuesday. I also am still looking for people to volunteer to be a (mostly) anonymous judge for the Top 3 on elust. If I don’t have enough judges, I can’t give you guys a Top 3. I don’t expect volunteers to be available every edition, don’t worry! Email if you’re interested. NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar You only have until August 1st to buy a day or 5 so get crackin! Please! See my post here for incentives from me. Blog Organization Due to boredom at work (read: refusal to do boring work) I made up a page of links to all the Ask Lilly posts. I also made an extensive sex toy care and maintenance guide page; Epiphora asked on Twitter yesterday what thing we hated reading in sex toy reviews, and my

[Click here to read more...]
Jul 062010
How quickly we forget

Very short post today, as my brain is fried and this sense of being overwhelmed just won’t quit. I’ve been reading a lot of things lately in the sex bloggosphere that make me shake my head in disgust. It’s adding to my writers block because I just don’t know what to say. Validating a ridiculous assertation or argument with a rebuttal seems pointless. So I’ll remind you all of this one point to keep in mind: There are always two (or even three) sides to every story.  If all you’re hearing is one side, one negative side, then perhaps you should step back before you jump on bandwagons and consider how many grains of truth lie in this one side. Jealousy, pettiness, anger, hurt, etc have ways of inflating drama and making half-truths feel real to the listener of tales of woe, betrayal or dismissal and vacuum-cleaner-salesman tales of caution, injury and how your life

[Click here to read more...]