Jan 172009
 

 


As soon as I received the first bondage rope to review from Sextoy.com, I realized that…..I don’t quite know what to do with it. The proper way, I mean. And there IS a proper way. You have to make a few passes with the rope, make sure the band of ropes is flat, etc so that the pressure from the ropes is distributed over a larger area than just the width of the single strand of rope. It’ll hurt less and be more safe – less chance of cutting off circulation and so on.

The first book I picked to review is Bondage for Sex, Vol. 1. It’s soft-cover but the cover is thick and protection. The pages are heavy and glossy. Every tie is shown in color photos of models that seem…um well, awfully hairless. I mean, everywhere except their head, lol. Just an oddity I picked up on.

How well you’re going to master or even understand a tie depends on you, mostly. I did find myself getting confused at times with this book, either in their explanation or the fact that the next photo skipped a bunch of steps. That’s not always the case with the photos, sometimes there are more than others. I guess they can’t show a photo for each major step, or it would be too much.

There’s a range of ties shown in the book from the basics to things moderately advanced. The models are all pretty thin, and so the length of rope required for the tie will vary. There were one or two male-centric ties shown, but most were either done on female or specifically for females. I personally would want to see more done on male models, ones that are specific to men, greater variety.

All in all, it’s a really nice, pretty book. The high-quality color photos is a big help when you compare them to a book that might use cheaper matte paper and black and white photos.

 

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Dec 132008
 

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Double Slapper

I wanted something to deliver a smack, a slap, that was travel-size. Many paddles that I’ve seen so far on sextoy.com were bigger than my current toy storage bag could handle (hopefully this will be changing soon – the bag). I liked the idea of the two pieces of leather for an “extra audible sound”

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Dec 062008
 


Black Suede Flogger |

When I chose the flogger, I chose it because it is simple. Kinda small, easily could fit into my current toy storage bags. It’s not big and bad, and it’s a material of flogger that I’ve not tried before.

When I first received it, I was a bit underwhelmed. It’s -really- simple. But then I used it. And I looked it over more, and felt it and fell in love with it. Seriously? This is a really great quality flogger.

It is basically 5 strands of 1/2″ wide black suede, folded over a metal O-ring and then the handle is made by the top ummm 10″ I think (lost my ruler) being wrapped spiral-like and then there is a plastic/rubber/ I don’t know “sleeve” over that wrapped portion that is shrink-wrapped I guess, to protect the wrapped end and make for a nice handle. Since the strips are continuous up over that metal ring…they’re not going to ever fall out. This flogger appears to be able to withstand many years of use. It’s affordable, too. I’ve looked at other, more fancy, floggers. They appear to have a handle that is pretty, and the flogger strands are likely glued into that. To ME that seems like it could come apart eventually with heavy use or accidental improper storage. This flogger won’t do that.

I like this flogger. Perhaps a bit too much. I have only tried it out on one partner and while his pain tolerance is certainly more than mine…..well, perhaps it’s not his pain tolerance at fault but my seriously sadistic streak. I really get off on flogging/whipping. Perhaps it’s the fact that my body can really get into it – with the suede flogger I can hit a little  harder. This flogger fueled this fantasy, and if things go my way….it won’t stay fantasy for very much longer. Yes, boys and girls…..my dominant side is rising up more and needs to be sated.

It’s funny….flogging and whipping and paddling are things that I really get into, being on the delivery end. But many other sadistic treasures I just cannot dish out. Why? I’m terribly squeamish. Really bad. Seeing the skin all purple-red while trapped in tight rope bondage and in suspension…gah. Nipple clamps? Can’t look. I won’t even get into the more extreme things like needle play and other skin things. *shudders* But oh….oh my can I get into flogging.

 

 

Nov 292008
 
Well folks I am not going to be getting the promotion, I will not be moving to the other office. Due to the current hiring freeze and the merging of all similar offices in 6 months, HR put the kibotz on that higher position being filled since it was vacated by my now-supervisor. So no extra money. No change in scenery.
I worry about the merger because I can’t say for sure that I’ll get to keep my internet access privileges. I’ll have to find another route, something I can afford, when the time comes. I have quite a few “friendships” that are online only, and only during the workday. Some are casual and a select few are very meaningful to me. If I weren’t able to chat during the workday I think I would lose those people. And for SURE I would be bored to death. I’ve grown terribly accustomed to this “way of life” in the past 6 months.
I am to the point where, no matter what, when I find out I’ll be in that downstairs office all alone for awhile I make it a point to take advantage of the fact. So determined that despite my 3 regular guys being AWOL (One left work early for T-day preparations, S has been in hiding lately and I’m not sure he’s coming back out, and the new guy who’s delighting in bringing out my Toppy side apparently had an impromptu office meeting), I pulled out my bullet anyways and thanks to a few of my Twitter guys, I got off quite nicely. I also took things a little farther than before. The bombardment of arousal from numerous angles left me with a need for penetration. I looked around, I thought….my eyes alighted on the half-empty Coke Zero bottle. 30 seconds later I decided to lock the glass door as it was the day before Thanksgiving, everyone was leaving early and I had plausible deniability if anyone tried to get in (damn door, I can never figure out that weird lock!). After a few brief moments of dropped pants and Coke Bottle attempts, I realized that someone could glance in and see my bare ass. So I moved in to my supervisor’s office…heh heh. Her lights off but the office lights meant that I was still barely visible should anyone look in her huge windows. The moment I inserted (some, couldn’t handle most of it) the bottle, and applied the bullet again to my clit, my orgasm began. I think this means that I need a slightly bigger case for my bag so that I can bring my wooden dildo with me along with the bullet.
Shame to waste nearly half a bottle of coke, but I wasn’t in the mood for a creamy Coke ;) The bottle was a bit of a mess, especially under that ridge for the cap.
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How To Make Lilly Blush:  A little like when S first floored me when he pointedly said in the comments of one of his posts that I was the cause of his recent highly-aroused state and subsequent amazing release, someone else caught me quite off-guard today by including me (me?) in his “hit it” list of sexy blogger ladies. I am the one of the four that he has met in person (at the party) and still I’m on that list.
Sometimes flattery will get you far ;)
If I were to make a list of blogger men on my own similar list…..well, I couldn’t narrow it down to just four, lol, but I think he might find he has a spot on my list, as well.
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You all rock, you know that? I got amazing support and “you tell him sister!” comments on my post about the Craigslist douchebag. It took him a few days, presumably took that long to write this all out and think it up, but he responded. I knew he would. Again, I present this to you in all its unedited glory:
well im glad u didnt respond to me cause i can see ur a very kind woman too..and yes i am a very nice man i just know how to find out who the nice women are and who is the jerks on here too so yes i am learning how this thing works on here thank you very much..and maybe some people have responded to u ok thats fine big whoop..lol..but it just seemed to me like you were being picky and im only sayin that cause you said in ur ad about looking for good lookin guys well i can see that but if u want that you should be able to give them somethin nice too right..im not trying to be mean and didnt mean any offense and i am sorry..i was just stating a point..maybe i took ur ad the wrong way then
He can have his last words, I really cannot bear to drag out this conversation, risk hearing more drivel from him again. Nor do I give a shit. He doesn’t register on my radar anymore. But it does jade me against Pennsylvania men, in general. He’s not uncommon here I’m afraid.

Also, my CL ad was flagged and deleted, oddly enough, the day I posted about this guy. I doubt the timing is related. But still…..

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I’ve got more toy reviews for the future than I know what to do with….but I have to say, I feel bad for the other dildos. Really. Unless it’s a suction-cup dildo or an oversized one, it’s not going to have a place in my bag. I have found my Holy Grail and there is no besting it. Just not gonna happen. So from now on I’m not going to review any more dildos that are not suction-cup or oversized. I received a very pretty Glass one to review and I feel bad that I can’t really love it, because Mr. Pure has stolen my heart. He’s ruined me for all others.

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I have become afraid of speaking too soon regarding men, but I really do have to just mention this – there is someone new who is really dragging out the “toppy” side of me and I’m liking it more and more. He inspired this post, and if things go well, you’ll be reading more about the situation.
Also, to any of the women who read my blog who have experience topping…please email me. I need to pick a few brains about a couple of topics.
Nov 242008
 


He is naked, standing, legs shoulder-width apart. I have his wrists bound together, his arms extended above his head just in front of him, the rope tied up to a hook in the ceiling. I have his hips back slightly so that he is leaning forward just a bit. Just enough. I swing the flogger very gently towards his hard cock, so that the soft suede gently teases him. He is vulnerable but trusting. He tries to push his hips toward the flogger to feel more caresses to his cock, despite the fact that this is really an instrument of pain and could become one at any moment. The cool weight of the suede plays on him like tendrils. Fingers.

I move behind him and any gentleness is gone. With a figure-8 motion and most of my strength I work the flogger on his back and ass, leaving delicious red marks that appear in short order. He is strong. Were it not for the angry red marks on his back, I might not know I was having an effect. Were it not for his straining cock, shiny and dripping, I might think he was immune. I think I like the feel of this flogger in my hand entirely too much for his own good.



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Nov 232008
 

The first thing I received to review for sextoy.com is some bondage rope. I have to point out that on the site, there seems to be two different “japanese silk love rope”, but they are both indeed the same even though the photos differ. They are both Topco brand. One thing that wasn’t mentioned by the manufacturer and therefore couldn’t be included on the site is the width of the rope. If you study up at Twisted Monk’s site, width means a lot. 6mm is pretty ideal and standard, 8mm is wide and results in bulky knots.

The upside to 8mm, which this rope is, is that it’s wider and requires fewer passes over the area. You want the area of pressure to be wider so that it’s not damaging and cutting off circulation or otherwise too painful.

I’m going to assume this rope is nylon, it doesn’t say. It is quite soft and “silky”, but since I am a rope beginner I’m not sure that that’s -great- for rope bondage….wouldn’t there be less friction there, friction needed to maintain the knots? But if the person you’re tying up is sensitive to scratchy things, this would be good. If you’re new to rope bondage, the 8mm would be good also so that you ensure safety and comfort. This is the 16-foot length, and pretty versatile. Hopefully soon I’ll try out more techniques and maybe get photos.

Sex Toys

TLC Japanese Silk Love Rope (16 feet, black)