Nov 12, 2010

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e[lust] #21

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #22? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

Important e[lust] update: e[lust] will be going on hiatus for the holidays. The editions for November and December would both occur around the holidays and I know I’ll be short on both submissions and judges as well as personal time. e[lust] #22 will return in January, with ample advance warning, so please make sure you’re subscribed for updates!

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

D/s Without the D/s? – This is one of those situations in a real time D/s relationship where much of the “fun” aspects of the D/s needs to be stuffed in the closet for a bit. And for us, it’s not a great time to be either a masochist or a sadist. We can deal with that.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Yes, Jelly Sex Toys Can be Dangerous – Even if a jelly rubber toy says “phthalate-free”, it still can contain toxic chemicals that can cause skin reactions in some people. These toys are still non-porous and can harbor dirt and bacteria because they cannot be sanitized.

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Unfortunately, this edition has no Top Three picks as I didn’t have enough volunteer judges. If you’d like to volunteer to help, visit this page to find out more info and ensure that the Top Three picks continue.

See also: Pleasurists #101 and #100 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Sep 12, 2010

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e[lust] #19

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #20? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

The Rules – She squirmed in her chair as if impaled there by my finger slowly pushing in and out. “But I can tell you that on our third date, I want something a lot bigger than your finger in me.”

Consensual Nonconsent - He told me he was going to do whatever he wanted to me, and he wanted me to not give consent. He wanted to take it from me. He wanted me to say no, and the less l liked something the harder it would make him.

Love and light – So I move on, not as a submissive, but as the smart mature strong woman that I know that I am. I will credit him with changing me. Changing the way I see myself.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Confessional: Annual Reminder – In the dark, in the car, in the parking lot of a somewhat posh store, he got a fantastic blowjob as uptight conservatives drove past us.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

What’s Been Eating Emmy - A yearly test is good for most, but if you find you are playing with a larger than usual number of people, go get retested. Put yourself and your future partners mind at ease.

See also: Pleasurists #92 and #93 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Jun 13, 2010

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e[lust] #15

Photo courtesy of Sexy Tiger X

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #16? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Evolution – Open Marriage, Swinging, & Polyamory – Do we REALLY believe that there is one love for us? Do we really believe there’s one cock or pussy to fuck for the rest of our life?

Sweet To Taste – “I’m dinner tonight,” she breathes. “So don’t let me get cold before you start feasting.”

Having a boyfriend makes me feel fat - I know my worth as a person isn’t devalued by my weight – but I can’t get past the notion that my worth as a partner is.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Fucked by a Stranger – For as long as I can remember, I’ve had this bizarre, twisted fantasy. The roads leading to it were different, but the end result the same: a stranger fucking a very willing me in my bed in the dead of night.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

At Her Mercy – “You have been such a good boy today. Where do you want me to put your cock next?” she said with a wink.

See also: Pleasurists #78 and #79 for all your sex toy review needs.

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

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May 15, 2010

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e[lust] #13

photo courtesy of Ms Scarlett

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #14? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Stuck – Since I first saw the picture he sent me I have had this visual stuck in my head, like a sweet thing lingering in the mouth…. wrists bound, tied to headboard–ankles bound, tied to baseboard– naked, exposed

Animalistic – I grabbed the back of your ponytail like I owned you. No protest. Only a moan. Fuck, how aroused were you? Even your kiss was desperate, wet, passionate; your body was on fire and it showed.

A Hot Afternoon – She took Grady’s hand and guided it between her legs. Grady’s instinct kicked in as soon as she touched Hatty’s tender clit and felt the wetness gathered there.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Confessional: Fixation/Addiction – In porn, both video and photo, I have little interest in the men. It’s the women who get my full attention, who arouse me. I seek them out. I flick past hetero couplings, bored. Blow jobs? Meh. Oh wait, close-up of her pussy? Her coming? Ok I’ll watch now.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Thanks for the mansplanation, but I greatly prefer my vibrator – His views on female masturbation (derived, clearly, from absolutely nothing legitimate) are so fucked up, so irritating, and so detrimental, that I want to punch him in the face. It is, truly, mansplaining at its finest.

See also: Pleasurists #75 and #76 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Mar 30, 2010

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e[lust] #10

HNT Courtesy of Babe Lincoln

Welcome to e[lust] - The 10th edition! Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #11? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Negotiation – Not Nearly As Awkward As Having a Breakdown in Public – All the worries about getting to know a new person (“Am I dressed ok? Are they gonna like my stories about my grandma?”) get exaggerated when you’re talking about sex and desire…

Dollar Store Domme – He definitely can’t elude the dollops of toothpaste I dab onto his nipples. It takes a delicious second before he feels the cool burn penetrate his flesh. By that time I’m already up and selecting a plastic spatula from the credenza.

The Best of Both Worlds or Lost in Limbo? – Whether intentional or unthinking, bisexual denial is a frustrating thing for bisexual, pansexual or ‘fluid’ people to have to deal with.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Navigating Genderqueer in Suburbia – But pray tell how do the rest of us navigate it? How the hell am I supposed to know if you identify as male or just like dressing like one?

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

The Daddy Issue: Sexualizing Abuse – I needed to walk through this fear, and turn it into pleasure. I needed to prove to myself that he hadn’t broken me. That he hadn’t changed who I was to become. That I was not affected by what he did. That he didn’t abuse me.

See also: Pleasurists #69 and #70 for all your sex toy review needs.

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Mar 25, 2010

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Projects Abound

When I started e[lust], it wasn’t a completely altruistic venture. Sure it helps out any blogger who joins but I knew that my own traffic numbers were going to start declining once Sugasm died and then especially Fleshbot sex blog round-ups. And as Luka pointed out recently (somewhere, I forget where, but she did) a decent chunk of the traffic we might get from Fleshbot/Sugasm/e[lust] mentions results in a numbers boost but not a tangible readership boost (i.e. comments) it still helps in the end. Maybe the post featured in those places didn’t get extra comments, but I’d bet you gained a new reader or two. For me personally, having decent traffic and ratings means I get to keep my advertisers who help keep the site paid for, as well as my blogger-related trips. Fun trips that I won’t go out begging others to help fund. I depend on me. But that’s a rant for another day, folks.

This post is to highlight my most recent project: the e[lust] Sex Blogger Co-Op network. It’s a private network I created at ning.com, so that sex bloggers can freely speak their mind to other sex bloggers and sex bloggy issues. One of the first reasons I created this was finding out how many sex bloggers know little to nothing about what to do when approached with an offer for paid advertising (or what their peers are doing about it). But there’s a lot of shit out there that we can all help each other with. So I might know a few things about advertising. Someone else knows more than me, and I wish they’d share it. Maybe someone else knows a lot about CSS and give tips. We all have *something* to contribute, even if its just asking questions so that answers are put forth for the benefit of others.

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You can read more about it over at e[lust]. (actually I took down the page once the network closed, so you can read most of that page’s content below) If you’re a reader and a blogger, I encourage you to join. The larger the community, the more information shared, the more we all benefit. Some things we’ve talked about recently include advertising basics; patents; post prompts; differences between blogpost and wordpress; what hotlinking is and why you should care about it; and some fun shit about sex toys and google search phrases. There’s a lot going on, a lot of information being shared that could be helpful to even the most casual of sex bloggers. I love for you to join us! Like I said, go read more about it over at e[lust], including how to snag an invite.

“A sanctuary of knowledge-sharing for all sex/adult bloggers”. Sex bloggers, IMO, have different bloggy needs than the day-to-day diarists or mommy/daddy bloggers. Namely, we’re various levels of “Not Safe for Work”. Which means that we have different issues and resources for blog directory listings, reader bases, advertising, contest giveaways, etc. I mean, no matter how much I might talk up XYZ makeup or something, I’m never going to be approached by the company or Sephora or whomever to do a review and a giveaway. They don’t want to be associated with adult bloggers. And, as example, back when I used Blogspot, I tried signing up for the google adsense….and got rejected. For awhile there I didn’t know that advertisers would ever want to affiliate with me.

This social networking site is hosted at Ning.com, and is a private, invite-only safe space for sex bloggers only. So who is considered to be a sex blogger?

If you’re on Blogspot and you have a Content Warning splashpage

If you put your own “Over 18!” warning in your blogs sidebar

If you talk about sex on your blog

If you blog but also post erotic/nude/pornographic photos

If you do adult product reviews on your own blog (if toy reviews are the only sex/adult part of your blog, you may find that the ToySwap Networkwould serve you better)

If you write and post erotica on your blog

And there’s more, I’m sure. And we’re all in various circles/cliques. But for the purposes of this site? We’re all just sex bloggers. Be it LGBTQ, kinky, perverted, affairs, dating, vanilla, educational….whatever your branch is, I don’t care – we all share a commonality. I hope to have members who are veteran bloggers as well as the newbies who just started last month. We all have something to give and something to learn.

Want an invite? Keep in mind this isn’t a place to garner more readers and/or blog hits from, this is information-sharing between sex bloggers and we’re looking for members who are willing to participate and be active.

Some recent discussions include:

tutorial on hotlinking of photos

tutorial on advertising

fun discussions like toy storage & care or google search phrases

post prompts, writing groups and more

blogger vs wordpress, free vs self-hosted