Sep 202014
 

Earlier this year I ranted on a topic similar to this; many companies have no idea the sort of effort we put into our sex toy reviews. The testing, the photos, the writing, the editing, and even the promoting. For the cheap toys, we’re getting screwed in the conversion if the sex toy is seen as “payment” for the review.  But many of us spend at least half a day’s work time (if we’re comparing this to an hourly full-time job) if not a full day or even MORE than a full work day’s time on our reviews. So today I saw a post from a blogger, not a sex blogger, talking about fair pay for bloggers. We’re not the only ones doing reviews! During my short time as a food blogger, I was indeed doing some reviewing. Perhaps because I was new, perhaps because that’s how they do it, but I was never sent

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Sep 172014
 

I’ve spent the majority of my 6+ years not asking to be nominated; I felt it defeated the purpose (in my mind). That if anybody actually liked my work, they’d nominate it without prompt. I’ve since dropped all stubbornness and “pride” and have no fucks left to give about my previous stick-up-my-ass ways.  I am liberated! Or something. I’m cantankerous, I’m rough around the edges, I’m not all that universally liked. I’m okay with that! I’m proud of the work I do, and if I raise some hackles then I think it means I’m doing my job right. The private notes I receive keep me going, the thanks and tales of change.  And while I’m not a “sexy” blogger anymore and don’t really fit in now with any of these “sexy” sex blogger lists, there’s a new feature that I think I do fit in with. Rory has decided to highlight “posts of the year”

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Apr 022014
 
Lill'Bits - Vol. 1 Issue 1

Lill’Bits – The Dangerous Lilly Quarterly Review1 Reviews So if you’re new here, or have just been busy, let me fill you in on what I’ve been up to for these last three months.  I started off the year reviewing a few items from the new Lovelife line, Cuddle and Smile. I was happy to find that the one thing I hated about the original Je Joue Mimi (the buttons) has been fixed, and I loved the new Je Joue Mimi Soft.  Then I reviewed the Fun Factory Amorino, that weird one with the rubberband.  I didn’t have too many words to say about it, but I felt the need to review the Lelo Mia 2 finally.  I got my paws on one of Tantus’ NEW super-fancy-awesome harnesses, and holy pete it’s gorgeous. The Black Widow harness is superhero-worthy. And finally…..I re-reviewed my Holy Grail of clitoral vibrators, the “new & improved” We-Vibe Tango. I

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 Posted by at 7:48 pm
Mar 242014
 
A Brief History of Sex Blogging

Introduction I’m trying for as much brevity as I can get here which, admittedly, won’t be much. The world of blogs about sex (as a general umbrella term) were varied and niched and I can’t possibly cover everything. In fact, I might very well be unintentionally leaving out crucial stories. That’s where I hope you will fill things in in the comments section. Sex blogging as we know it seems to have gotten off the ground around 2002, 6 years before my start, which was 6 years ago in 2008. My point with this piece is to illustrate to my current niche how WE got to where we are now with sex toy reviews, sexuality conferences and this tumultuous but awesome community.  You’ll see  characterized by the dotted underline; clicking on it (mobile or regular) will provide more info without making this post seem to scroll on forever, so don’t overlook them! Also check out

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Feb 282014
 
In the weeds, but lookin pretty sharp!

I never managed to find the “perfect” theme for my blog. Sure, I loved most of them at the time I created them, but I grew/the blog changed/squirrel. I’ve never been sure of myself. I change my outfits and I change my mind so quick, your head spins. I can’t even fathom never changing up my look. I think this is my 4th or 5th theme since 2008. I had practical reasons for changing, too. The old theme had a huge flaw: I couldn’t update it automatically. I would have had to download the new theme files and reinstall a new theme….losing all the custom changes I made. And there were a LOT. Plus I’ve been wanting the dual sidebar thing for awhile now. So, what’s new besides the obvious? The blogroll finally got dusted off. And since I don’t read the blog of every person I know & like, that Twitter List serves as

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Jul 072013
 

This post has taken me weeks to write, and has seen more drafts than hockey did this week1. Most people write big, sappy posts for a blogaversary as grand as 5 whole years. 5 years! I’m older than internet dirt now! This also happens to be my 800th post2. I can’t say I’m proud of all 800 posts; in fact I’ve changed so much over these 5 years that I’m pretty mortified by many of my earlier posts and reviews.  Sadly, I’m marking off my 5 years with a quickly impending for-the-foreseeable-future-hiatus.  I’ve known for weeks now that my time here was limited, but I kept that to myself. I wanted to finish up the giveaways I planned and the first big fundraising push for Dildology. I wanted to help out with Dildology as much as I could, even though I feel like I didn’t do enough. Wait, what? I’m not sure if this is

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