Jun 102014
 
Coconut Oil for Lube? Yes!

Often, people complain that water-based lubes don’t last long enough. They dry up fast or get sticky or just aren’t cutting it for anal lube. Silicone lube solves all of those problems, but not all silicone lube is perfectly compatible with all silicone sex toys.  Plus, silicone lube is not at all natural, whereas coconut oil is. While coconut oil is not the perfect solution for all people, I think it’s pretty great and needs to be considered. Coconut Oil and Condoms Coconut oil also doesn’t seem to be compatible with latex condoms. Oil lubes in general are a no-no to mix with latex condoms. I’ve read casual at-home studies from fellow sex geeks that showed that other oils degraded a latex condom very quickly, while the coconut oil took longer to do so but it still did weaken the latex. Coconut oil will also degrade polyisoprene condoms. If you want to use it, then

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May 252014
 
Ask Lilly: My First Sex Toy edition

Over at Reddit I’ve been getting a lot of questions along the lines of “I/we want to try out sex toys, but have no idea where to start”. It can be hard sometimes to recommend things for someone’s first sex toy, since not even they really know what they want. And of course, they often are young or just reluctant to spend much money on the whole endeavor, since they have no clue how it’ll work out. Too often, people recommend cheap and *unsafe* sex toys, or cheap and half-ass quality sex toys, for a sex toy newbie. I’ve been there, and that’s mostly what filled my meager toy bag my first two years. It led me to wasting a decent chunk of money, but it also ultimately led to me creating this blog. I try to avoid recommending shoddy toys to the first-timers. So difficult, so very very difficult. They’re cheap for a reason!

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May 142014
 
Before You Ask to Review a Sex Toy....

Today I’m giving you some advice that I don’t tend to take for myself, at least not consistently. And I should. You see, I’m an anonymous blogger. I don’t show my face on the blog, I don’t go by real name. A bunch of other bloggers, and industry people, have met me and/or know my legal name but they still call me Lilly. It would be downright weird if any of them called me by my real name. *shrugs* I just AM Lilly. However….the connection between my legal name (and address) and Lilly / Dangerous Lilly is something that I expect these people to keep to themselves. My privacy on this matter is tantamount to my being able to do this. I have reasons, valid reasons, for keeping the two things completely separate. So do many people, who aren’t bloggers. Sex workers, porn performers, etc. I guess I mostly expected the sex toy companies to

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Apr 292014
 

While you’re waiting on me to finish up some reviews, and while I was procrastinating on everything I actually *should* be working on, I scrolled through some search terms that led people to my site. I’m not sure if these people found the answers they were looking for. In case they didn’t, though, let’s get started. “can u have sex with luna beads” Well a penis and two Luna beads are a bit crowded for the average vagina – even if you’re using the Mini Luna Beads. That’s the understatement of the year. Anal sex with Luna beads in the vag? Perhaps. Oral sex with Luna Beads in the vag? Ok, but I don’t see what that would do for ya. “fixsation v.s. we vibe4″ No contest, We-Vibe 4. We-vibe 4 is more powerful than the Fixsation, and works a lot better too. “dildo melted on other toy” THROW THEM BOTH OUT. NOW. “it is

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Apr 182014
 
Wood Sex Toys: An Introduction

WOOD SEX TOYS?!? But won’t I get SPLINTERS?!? When I encounter a wood sex toy newbie, the “splinters” bit is bound to come up right away. Either in an attempt at a joke or said in seriousness, I will admit it makes me roll my eyes a bit. Do you get splinters from the wood furniture you sit on? From the wood salad bowl you use? From the wood bedpost ? I’ve yet to run across a wood sex toys crafter on Etsy that didn’t make use of excessive sanding and a finish, because they’re all woodworkers. It wouldn’t make very much sense to just hand over an unfinished wood carving. Right? Why Wood? Made from a sustainable material, well-made and cared-for wooden dildos can last a lifetime. Wood is beautiful, it makes every dildo unique, and often can be made solely from scrap wood. , the first little company I heard about years ago,

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Apr 162014
 
Regretsy for Sex Toys: Clay and Wax Dildos

Subtitled: How to make a sex toy activist have a heart attackORStupid Human Tricks: Sex Toy EditionALSODon’t try this at home In research for my post about wood sex toys, I’ve been spending time on Etsy. There are some whackadoodles and many legit crafters on Etsy, and this of course applies to sex toys. Today, Naughty Reenie pointed me to a whackadoodle of the highest order. I’ll link to the shop at the end of the post, but I honestly don’t want to give this guy too much traffic. I’ve screencapped his wares for you, in case he does finally wise up.  You have to see this. It’s sort of like when something smells really bad, you know? We have this bizarre need to share it with someone else: “ewww man this smells funky! Here, smell this.” I shared my horror over this on Twitter but now I shall share this with the world 1.

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