Mar 182014
 
Deciphering the Results of the Flame Test

Disclaimer: I am explaining things in the best way I know how. I’m dealing here in many “facts” that I can’t tell you are all 100% accurate – we lack the ability to be super scientific about this. I don’t have a chemist by my side, I don’t have a lab. I’m sharing with you what we think, what we are inferring from results thus far, and what our reason and logic is filling in. The information here may change as we learn more–in fact this post is all about how the information is changing because we’ve learned more because I’m sharing more nuanced result facets than I could with the first flame test post. So understand that nothing is 100% certain but I’m doing my best. Myth #1 – Silicone can’t “burn” A couple years ago I created a big post with videos talking all about how you can flame test sex toys to

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Mar 072014
 
How Porous is Your Sex Toy? Why Does it Matter?

Safety of sex toy materials is not exactly a black and white thing. People really focus on phthalates an awful lot; and while I absolutely agree that they’re terrible, they’re not the only thing about a sex toy that can harm you. There are many nasty chemicals. Heavy metals like cadmium can be present. The issue with VOCs can exist without phthalates coming in to question. And then there’s all these thousands and thousands of porous sex toys saturating the market. But people just don’t seem to understand or care much about porosity outside of our little sex educator/reviewer bubble.  Why? Because they don’t know it is even a thing. We’ve been told that materials like TPR/TPE and ‘Elastomer’ are “not as porous” as PVC/jelly/rubber/vinyl/cyberskin. The latter is heavily linked to phthalates and other toxic chemicals, while the former is usually regarded as a middle ground – it’s usually accompanied by descriptions such as “body-safe”

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Mar 022014
 
#Accessibility

I’m definitely not an expert on this topic, I just wanted to share what little I’ve learned in case it might help others. Accessibility. If you have all your limbs, if you can walk and run with ease, if you can see relatively well with or without glasses, if you can speak without assistance, if you can hear without major problems…..you probably don’t think about accessibility as often as you should. It’s easy to have those blinders on. Easier still if you do not know anyone deaf, blind, handicapped.  At my first conferences it was a little tough for me to remember to face certain people when I spoke to them, and I screwed up sometimes. Luckily they’re not afraid to speak up and remind me to look at them, and then repeat myself. If you’re able-bodied and don’t know anyone who isn’t, it’s sadly too easy to forget about accessibility.  I try, I do,

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Feb 192014
 
Homemade Sex Toy Wipes to Help Keep Silicone Toys Clean

If you’re a fan of silicone sex toys (and if you’re a reader of this site, you’d better be!) you know that many toys, especially the plugs and dildos, attract lint/dust/fur better than your average Swiffer cloth. If you are a cat owner then you will find that you’ve got cat furs on your clean toy within minutes. A reader of mine was asking for advice on which of the existing sex toy wipes would be safe enough to use on the toy without rinsing it off before use. They were in a shared living situation where a trip to the bathroom in the middle of foreplay wasn’t a possibility. Since I wasn’t a fan of some ingredients in commercial wipes, plus they are awfully expensive, I did a little brainstorming. A family member used to make their own baby wipes and I remember doing this for a number of baby shower gifts. It’s pretty

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 Posted by at 4:31 pm
Dec 082013
 
The Best (and worst) Sex Toys of 2013

Welcome to the 2013 “Best Sex Toys” list from The Pickiest Sex Toy Reviewer, Ever.  And because I really want to make sure you always get your dose of reality, we have a list of the Worst Sex Toys. If the sex toy is on this list, then I have some Very Strong Feelings about it. Be it good or bad! This year’s list was a little harder to make; I had to take a hiatus and my reviewing was cut back all around this year. I wrote a mere 22 reviews this year; about 2/3 of those reviews were for products that debuted this year. That’s it! Add in the fact that I truly disliked half of what I did review and I was honestly thinking that I would have a tiny list this year, with no vibrators. Thankfully for all, a few newbies snuck in at the 11th hour.  In order to keep

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Oct 132013
 
Dear Lelo: I Quit

There is always a proverbial straw that breaks the camel’s back; This straw is named Ida.   In 2008 when I first started reviewing sex toys, I got to review a couple of Lelo toys pretty early on in my career. Back then, “luxury” vibes were not as prevalent and seemed so….posh. So fancy. So very, very different from the garish, neon dreams of CalExotics and Doc Johnson, at 5-10 times the price. And with a price tag like that, surely they’re better, right?? So I felt let down when I didn’t love my first Lelo toys. They weren’t quite powerful enough for me. But I thought it was my fault. I was the problem, not Lelo. They were trying so hard, you see.  And so, I kept making excuses–trying to be objective, and state that just because it wasn’t perfect for me, Ms. Picky Clit-o-Steel, didn’t mean they weren’t great sex toys. After all,

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