Lilly

May 082016
 

JimmyJane Intro 4 and 6 with the Form 4 in the backgroundYou know how I feel about JimmyJane so you’re wondering right now why on earth I’m reviewing part of the new JimmyJane Intro line, yes? Well it was suggested by a trusted friend that I check them out, especially because of the price point – which has always been a sticking point with me when it comes to JimmyJane. I just don’t feel that the Form line is worth their price tag. So when JJ came out with these new Intro vibrators I felt that I just had to give them a chance. At $391 for the most expensive version – a battery-powered Form 2 (which they’ve so originally called the Intro 2) – the line is affordable and “simple”. But so many vibrators right at (or under) the $35 mark can have lackluster vibrations or flaws I can’t overlook, so we already know that this will be a tough battle. However with a clean slate – past grievances momentarily forgotten – I ripped the JimmyJane Intro 4 and Intro 6 from their packages and hastily turned them on. I tried brand-new name brand oomphy batteries as well as the nonames included in the box.

Here’s Me Trying to be Objective and Nice

JimmyJane is certainly not the first “luxury” sex toy company to come out with a more affordable line. Lelo did it first with Picobong; with one exception I remained largely unimpressed – Picobong is kinda overpriced and has horribly placed controls and terrible cap-handles. Despite the fact that I hate the design flaws of Picobong, and their price points, the Picobong Moka is stronger than the JimmyJane Intro 4 or 6. Picobong Moka also takes 2 AAA batteries like the JimmyJane Intro 4 and 6 do, so it’s not the batteries holding back such a motor.

The JimmyJane Intro 4 has a weird shape, much like the JimmyJane Form 4 but the Intro 4 is even more weird for my body. It’s straight with an hourglass-like shape that doesn’t do anything for me. The shape of the JimmyJane Intro 6 is much better, and much more universal. So I wanted to like it, honest to Pete I wanted to like it. And in hand the vibrations aren’t BAD. I’ve felt worse. They seem to come pretty close to the Boom Olive and the OVO K2 Rabbit‘s internal arm is a bit more powerful and rumbly.  I was definitely kinda disappointed and underwhelmed when I first turned on the Intro 6 but I’d been expecting more rumbly vibrations. I also wish that both the Intro 4 and Intro 6 were a little longer. However these are waterproof, and able to be submerged a little bit (1 meter).  So if you want a cheap, bathtime vibe and don’t need power, this is a decent option – especially since bathtime is the only time the silicone will be clean.

The cap on the Intro 4 or 6 doesn’t come off easily during use, and the single button is in a good place. I have enough room to rest a finger on the end for added grip and leverage while trusting without turning the vibe on or off.  This is good. Nothing horrid, so far, right? I mean I could totally do without it existing, but this isn’t the hate-filled tear-down I’ve given them numerous times in the past.

This Fucking Silicone Though

OVO is around the same price for battery-powered pieces and their silicone covering is so much better.  Smooth and silky, it doesn’t attract dust, dirt or fur. The same can be said for the Boom line, or Picobong (which is even silkier than the Ovo K2). But Jimmyjane Intro is covered in that grabby-draggy sort of silicone that manages to attract more dust and fur than a Swiffer. Lube is fairly necessary for most people to comfortably use the Intro line.

I love the navy blue and wine colors, but they don’t make up for a silicone that cannot be used without cleaning first. The picture below shows the Picobong Moka and the Intro 4. I’d recently washed off the Intros for their photoshoot but after a mere 15 minutes any dust in the air landed on the Intros and any cat fur on me ran for the Intros like metal shavings to a magnet.

JimmyJaneIntroDUST

Let’s Not Get Too Excited

I’ve been told on good authority that the JimmyJane Intro 1 should be passed over – weaker than the 4 and 6, it’s kinda useless. Having avoided the polarizing Form 2, I didn’t ask for the Intro 2 so I can’t comment on how the Intro 2 compares. Unless you prefer a straight vibrator, I think that the only one in this line that I could half-heartedly recommend is the Intro 6. I think that the Picobong Moka has much nicer vibrations, but it’s also $20 more for no damn good reason. I think that the Ovo F3 has a sorta-similar shape to the Intro 6, same price point, with ever-so-slightly better vibrations, plus nicer feeling/cleaner material. 

We’re all wondering how the vibrations compare to the JimmyJane Forms, right? I’ve hung on to my Form 4 and here’s how it breaks down: the Form 4 has 5 levels of intensity. Level 3 on the Form 4 is equal to high (level 3) on the Intro 4 and 6. Level 4 on the Form 4 is equal to OVO F line. Level 5 on the Form 5 is about the same as the Picobong Moka. If the motor on the Form 4 never went past 3 then I would swear to you that the motors in the Form 4 and Intro 4 and 6 are identical; the vibration “tone” and level of rumbly is identical.

I don’t hate the JimmyJane Intro 6, but I am far from loving it. How hard would it have been to get a motor that is rumbly or just a smidge more powerful? How hard would it have been to use a better silicone? A little extra rumble goes a long way and if JimmyJane really wants me to believe that this motor is the absolute best they could do for a $492 vibrator (bitch, please) then we need to have a chat. It can be done, I know it can be done. I’m sure that the motor on the Blush Nude Impressions isn’t what makes it cost $49, it’s the rechargeable aspect. The motor in the Picobong Moka is proof – it probably doesn’t cost more to include, it’s that Lelo likes to overcharge for everything. I just will not accept that at $49/35 THIS is the best we can do in terms of power and rumble. My Doc Johnson Black Magic Bullet is proof of that to me. It seems that I am destined to dislike the motor in every single JimmyJane item.

I would possibly recommend the Intro 6 as a first vibrator for someone only if they are apprehensive about vibrations in general – if they can already orgasm *fairly* easily from fingers or tongues, then this is perhaps enough. I very much dislike the notion that everybody’s first vibrator needs to be either the overrated Magic Wand (an 11 on the scale) or something mild / tame. Where are the simple, affordable vibrators that have rumbly-ish vibrations which go from mild to spicy? I guess it just depends on your level of affordability, but I won’t stop trying to find something under $40 that is great. I just don’t think the JimmyJane Intro 6, or Intro 4, are good enough. I don’t think that JimmyJane deserves the vast amount of praise and accolades I’ve read lately; this line isn’t groundbreaking. It is not unique. If I could compare it to something, it’s like this Michael Kors bag I got off of a tag sale group on Facebook that is a knockoff – the big logo plate on it is cheesy and clearly not real, especially when you compare it to a real Michael Kors bag. The knockoff is still leather and still a nice bag, don’t get me wrong. The Intro line doesn’t look bad, but it makes the Form line look downright posh.

 

Many thanks to SheVibe for indulging my whims and sending me these vibrators in exchange for my brutally honest review, and especially for not sending me the day-glo pink variety. Also, gratitude to Shevibe for pricing the Intro line at a reasonable amount, rather than following JimmyJane’s grabby-hands prices as listed on their homepage.

  1. Keep in mind I’m quoting the very-reasonable SheVibe prices here – the prices at JJ’s site are an appalling $59 for the Intro 2, $49 for the Intro 6 which is just fucking insulting
  2. The Jimmyjane price because if I’m gonna rant here, I might as well go hard
 Posted by at 10:00 pm
Apr 292016
 

Fiera Arouser for HerArouser, “pre-hancer”, “before-play” whatever you want to call the Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her – Don’t call it a sex toy

That’s the first thing I learned about the Fiera Arouser. From their uncomfortable presence at SHE NYC1 to their interactions with review bloggers who genuinely wanted to work with the company. So despite me writing about my issues lately with mental health and low libido I wasn’t sure how I’d be received by them when I contacted them to review the Fiera. So far I’ve only seen some questionable (at best) magazine “reviews” and I knew that it needed some input from a professional sex toy critic because at the end of the day, it’s still a sex toy. I know that the word “toy” cheapens it and “sex toy” (according to Nuelle) means that people will expect it to deliver an orgasm, but that’s what things are called in this industry. It’s a catch-all term, it’s generic. Is it something you use to make your sex life better? Then it’s going to be called a sex toy in some way or another. A cock ring doesn’t necessarily give you an orgasm, but they’re a “sex toy”, right? 

So despite my initial skepticism I started to have high hopes for the Fiera Arouser for Her. I wanted my sex life back! I wanted to WANT sex again! But I had to wonder….was I really their target audience? Nuelle seems to be firmly entrenched in their demographic being post-menopausal cis women in hetero relationships who have lost their sex drive2. I had pointed out in my conversations with them that plenty of younger people have low libido problems, too, due to mental health / brain chemistry imbalances or even the mental health drugs they’re being treated with. Often people who fall into either of those camps are much less sensitive and require more effort to orgasm. So again I had to wonder what the Nuelle Fiera could do for those of us who fit that bill. Since it’s not meant to make you orgasm – it’s meant to make you aroused -could it still be a beneficial tool? 

In the website/manual, Nuelle states that it’s going to take you 3-4 attempts to really get the hang of using the Fiera Arouser for Her – figuring out placement, which of the two included SofSense heads are right for you, etc. But they do stress that once properly positioned it should work for you within 5-15 minutes of use. It says right on their site that a study was done that showed that after using Fiera for 4 weeks many saw increases in arousal, etc. Yet when I asked for more SofSense rings to continue my trial and be as thorough as possible in my review, I was smoothly and subtly denied3. I’ve never had a sex toy testing session cut short like this.

Because I may be the only sex toy reviewer to write about the Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her I wanted to be certain I’d answer every question that people had about it. You can read the answers to the most-asked questions below but I also recommend the video because you’ll learn more about the Fiera, how it works, what it does and get a closer look at this mystifying SofSense ring.

This review is so lengthy because I wanted to cover everything, yet at the same time I still feel very unhelpful. I’m just one person. I checked out the reviews on the Fiera website and, to their credit, it appears they have not removed the negative reviews. There are a lot of “reviews” and it clearly doesn’t work for everyone – it seems to be rated well by most, though. But it seems that they have so many reviews because they gave a lot of units away for free with this House Party thing. Many of the reviews noted that they received theirs for free this way. Now that Nuelle is also selling the Fiera Arouser on Amazon, it seems that some people who also posted a review on the Nuelle site are posting the same review on Amazon.

What You Should Know

The Nuelle Fiera is, first and foremost, not going to give you an orgasm. They do say (on the site and in the manual) that in their studies some people preferred to leave the Fiera on and “wear” it during sex and feel that they were able to have a clitoral orgasm with its aid. The Fiera also uses true suction, as you’ve seen in the video. It’s strong enough to leave marks on my skin (hand, cheek) but I’ve not consistently seen my clitoris become engorged like I would expect from something with suction. And really, that’s the primary way it’s supposed to work as far as I understand it – to bring in blood flow. Aroused genitals have a rush of blood flow so if you work backwards then the theory is you’ll be aroused from extra, encouraged blood flow. Fiera is not intended to be used like a vibrator (Fiera feels subtle and is meant to encourage blood flow and create interest). Because Fiera utilizes gentle suction and stimulation, it does not feel like a vibrator and you are not meant to achieve an orgasm while using it.

They talk a lot about “figuring out” which SofSense ring is right for you, without ever telling you what the differences are. They will only say that most women prefer the “clear” ring. It turns out that one is deeper than the other. I’d say that if you have minimal labia / more exposed clitoris, you’ll want the clear ring. If you have large labia, a chubby vulva and/or a buried clitoris, you may need the white ring. What if neither work? How will you know if it’s a case of the Fiera not working for you, or the ring not working for you? I don’t have an answer. I wish I did. For all I know my problems with the Fiera could be that the white ring is not deep enough. Perhaps they did not prototype test their rings on overweight women?

 

How the Fiera Arouser Feels In Use

I can never feel the suction on my vulva/clitoris. Ever. And if I don’t turn up the vibrations, then I’m not really feeling anything and it’s not doing anything. I can lay there for 15 minutes on a very low vibration, relying on the “suction” to bring in bloodflow but it’s just really suctioning to my labia. I don’t feel that my clitoris is in on that action, certainly not like when I apply it to the fleshy pad under my thumb on the palm of my hand. Then I feel suction, and can see the lines on my skin where it’s clear suction was happening. I do not feel confident that that is happening with the plush, wavy landscape of my vulva. When I’ve experimented and finally really felt something GOOD it’s been the vibration. On the almost-high setting you can use the patterns and there’s one that hits the three vibrating lumps in succession so that it feels a bit like something is touching your clitoris in circles around it. That felt nice. But the setting that feels the nicest to me is the very high vibration setting – it’s a rapid pulse of all three vibrating nubs (the patterns aren’t accessible here) and it feels …. thuddy in the most gentle way that thuddy could feel. It is not buzzy, I wouldn’t maybe go so far as to say it’s rumbly but it’s NICE. I like it. If I then grab the body of the Fiera and, taking care, press down a little more to get more clitoral contact and move it around ever-so-slightly I almost feel like, given some time and some porn, I could come. Almost. That will never happen though because it is on this setting that they’ve installed a fail-safe; a clit-block, if you will. It will overheat and abruptly shut off and refuse to work for 5-10 minutes by which time you’ve moved on to something else – since the Fiera is not designed to give an orgasm, I suppose this makes sense…somehow. But this brings me right back around to this – if what I’m primarily feeling is the vibrations, then why won’t a standard vibrator work just fine?

Don’t get me wrong though – this isn’t strong, this isn’t going to make you orgasm if you need vibrators to orgasm. There’s a chance this could make you orgasm if you’re particularly sensitive, if you come easily, and you like pinpoint stimulation. If your genitals require a lot of sensation/time/effort to orgasm from anorgasmia or lack of sensitivity from meds or that’s just how your body is wired, you won’t find that the Fiera Arouser is helpful for building arousal through stimulation because you simply won’t feel very much.  Nuelle has said that some women in their studies continued to “wear” the Fiera Arouser past the “pre-game” session and through PIV sex4. I think that the ability to do that will depend greatly on how you both position yourselves to fuck, how large his penis is and how much space there is between your clitoris and your vaginal opening. I apparently have less space because the edge of the SofSense ring was very very close to my vaginal opening and even taking care with dildo thrusting I knocked into the Fiera and knocked it off course. 

Where the Fiera Arouser for Her Goes wrong

It shuts off after 10 minutes on high – yes, you read that right. They recommend anywhere from 5-15 minutes of use “pre-game”. But what if you need MORE? More time, more vibration? You won’t get it if you need more vibration. When put on the highest vibration setting the Fiera Arouser for Her will overheat and shut off. You will need to turn it off and leave it off for 5 minutes, effectively killing the “mood”. This is in competition for the dumbest thing about the Fiera. Why even have a high setting if it’s going to shut off and not allow you to turn it back on for 5 minutes?? This feels like a way to control the usage of Fiera to forcibly keep it in the category they want it to be; a way to get away from the “icky” connotations of the term “sex toy”. Either don’t have that setting, or fix the overheating -> shutoff situation.

The SofSense Rings need to be constantly replaced – Nuelle tried many versions of the ring and the one that worked best unfortunately has such delicate silicone that they say it’s only good for 2-3 uses. Or 3-5. I’m not sure. The manual says 2-3, the website says 3-5. I don’t know if they’re being very conservative or I was extra careful but I know I got more like 8 uses out of each head.The reason is because the silicone is so delicate and there will be micro-tears occurring (where? I don’t know) that will compromise the ability to suction and stay put on your genitals. I can confirm that that starts to happen. I know that I got way more than 5 uses out of each ring before finally my preferred ring stopped working quite as well.  Here’s the biggest problem, h/t to Thor for pointing this out to me – Nuelle is a newer company. They, for now, make just one thing: the Fiera. What happens when they go out of business? The product that is actually working for you is now a hunk of junk because you can’t buy any more rings. This might lead some people to just buy up 100 rings to stockpile like Elaine and her sponges. “Is tonight Ring-worthy?” will be a thing people will wonder. They will start to carve hashmarks in their nightstand to keep track of how many times their rings have been used and every 5th hash gets a new ring. It will spawn Lords of the Rings joke in the more geeky of couples.

In the manual they insist you cannot share the device or rings with another person. What if both you and your partner have vulvas and wanted to share? Well. I don’t know what to tell you. I don’t know why they say this. Is it because the silicone in the middle of the ring is nearly condom-thin? At first I worried that they say this because it’s not really silicone but it passed my flame test5.

It’s $250 and for now is only available buying directly from Nuelle‘s website or Amazon for $260 because they don’t want sex toy retailers carrying it because it’s “not a sex toy”. For $250 you get a small fabric pouch and 1 each of 2 styles of SofSense rings6. Available separately is a hard-sided case that will do a much better job of holding your extra heads safely + all the accouterments, and the case reminds me a lot of the Womanizer case which was, by the way, included with the Womanizer W100. Nuelle is selling the case for $15 – for fucks sake just make it standard! And for that matter, they should either include 2 of each Sofsense ring OR a voucher for a completely free first refill kit of rings. Each pack of 3 rings will run you $20 including shipping which is astounding – however if you buy more at a time, you’ll save because the shipping remains $5. This means that if you like the Fiera Arouser and use it often enough to go through 3 rings a month, let’s say, you’re going to invest at least $200 a year in rings if you buy them two 3-packs at a time.

Sometimes they have a $50 off coupon for the unit itself, sometimes $25 off, but a great many people are going to balk at even $200 for something that may or may not work, that you may or may not end up having to abandon due to inability to buy more SofSense heads, etc etc.

How does the Nuelle Fiera Arouser compare to the Womanizer? 

The Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her and the epi24 Womanizer W100 (or W500) are nothing alike. The only similarity is that they both work on the clitoris. I think it’s the “suction” aspect that is making people form this connection between the two but they couldn’t be any less alike. I’ve maintained that the Womanizer isn’t using true suction – it’s pulses of air and it can form a slight suction seal when it’s properly placed on the clitoris, but that’s about it. The Womanizer also doesn’t really vibrate in the traditional sense – the air pulses may mimic vibration but I’ve never felt vibration that could be accounted for from any other source. If there were a motor for vibrations I’d have felt it on the nose of the Womanizer but you don’t.  Also the Womanizer focuses rather pin-pointedly on the clitoris and the Womanizer is guaranteed to make you orgasm or your money back. When it works for you it usually works well and will give you a strong orgasm. For some people the build-up to orgasm with the Womanizer is very quick; for others it is slow and that slow climb is either boring and bland or (for me) a really nice, arousing build-up that feels quite a bit like oral sex.

Are there better methods for increasing arousal?

While the Nuelle Fiera Arouser can provide suction that most other sex toys cannot7 I do believe that a “regular sex toy” may provide similar benefits. But I don’t have trials and studies to back me up, like Nuelle does.

Suction is not the only thing that can increase blood flow: “stimulating” arousal balms 8 and cannabis treatments work for some people. These balms and topicals are probably the best place to start, since they are the cheapest. 

You know what else also increases blood flow? Heat. I’ve used the Rosa Rouge for that exact purpose in the past with success by applying the length of the Rosa along my vulva. Of course the Rosa Rouge may be even pricier than the Nuelle Fiera (but at least with the Rosa Rouge you’ll have a super-powered vibrator that can help you orgasm if you have sensitivity problems or other reasons for finding manual orgasms difficult). The also-expensive Afterglow Vibe supposedly uses infrared light which can (in addition to claiming to produce stronger orgasms) build arousal. A much more affordable option is the old-school Berman Aphrodite wand which has an infrared panel on it that warms and can be held to the genitals (I’m unsure though of how warm it really gets).  Moderately priced is the umpteen-in-one Wahl Heated Massager.

If you’re looking for a vibrator to wake things up just by using it on low I’d recommend going with one that at least starts off gentle but definitely has rumbling vibrations – surface-buzzy vibes can just numb and irritate. The Crave Vesper, We-Vibe Touch, Je Joue Mimi Soft or even Eroscillator are some that I’d recommend in addition to the Rosa Rouge. A cheap option is the Doc Johnson Black Magic Bullet – if this works for you, then invest in a nicer vibrator. For a softer vibration intensity and softer vibrator overall, consider the Tenga Iroha Yuki, or maybe the Tori for a version with some more intensity.

DOES Physical Arousal Create Desire? Is the Fiera Arouser a “cure” for low libido?

In my experiences, no. But I think that that was because the Fiera didn’t really create physical arousal for me except for one time. I stress “physical” arousal because it did not lead to desire for sex. In the past, for me, things that have more consistently created desire were things that stimulated my BRAIN – erotic images and graphic gifs on Tumblr, or erotic short stories. If I care enough to try out the Fiera for purposes of increasing my overall libido then I should care enough to try out other methods that are less costly, first. I should browse my Tumblr dashboard, but not masturbate for a quick fix – I should transfer that over to my partner when possible. Due to my low libido I’ve often used sex toys in recent months out of duty and not desire – a good toy and some good Tumblr porn can get me to orgasm even though I started off feeling absolutely nothing sexual; meaning I didn’t reach for the vibrator because I was aroused, I just used it for the review purposes. Arousal and the desire to keep using the toy through to orgasm has definitely happened though, even with the shitty toys that won’t ever bring me to orgasm. I simply reach for another sex toy.

Are people with low libido due to mental illness or mental health drugs different from women with arousal issues due to hormonal changes from menopause? I wish I had the answer. I’d like to see someone with the experience of a sex toy reviewer review the Fiera from Nuelle’s stated target demographic – menopausal women aged 40-65. Why do I make the distinction of it being someone with experience in sex toys? Because those who have reviewed dozen and hundreds of sex toys tend to learn their body and genitals a bit better than a good portion of the population – especially when you consider that some people in this age group may not have ever really masturbated.

Further reading on the subject of arousal, desire and more: Emily Nagoski who wrote Come As You Are.

I’d also like to point out that this general concept isn’t actually as new and unique as I thought. Mandy pointed out that this sounds quite similar to something called the NuGyn Eros. Mary Roach interviewed some people, asking the same basic question I’m asking – what’s so special about the suction? The device? Couldn’t someone just masturbate and achieve the same end which is increased blood flow? Couldn’t someone just get the stimulation from their vibrator? Experts surmised that perhaps one could but there hadn’t been any studies done on that. You can get the Eros but you need a prescription.

My Personal Trial Period With the Fiera Arouser for Her

For 9 days I played with the Fiera Arouser, before losing interest in continuing use. I tried it with little vibration; I tried it on the almost-highest setting. I tried it for 10 minutes, 15 minutes, 20 minutes. One day in the first 9 days I used it on high (and that’s when it overheated and shut off) and that was the day I felt the most aroused9.  I took a break for a week and then, with renewed insistence on giving this thing the very most fairest of shakes, I went back to using it. Out of the times I have tried it (maybe 13 times total on my vulva) only about 3 times led to clitoral engorgement and some increase in vaginal fluids. Of those 3 times only one time led to a slight increase in arousal – otherwise there was a big brain/body disconnect and frankly I started to wonder if I was broken.  There is one thing I did in my trials that I am betting the company will use to say that my testing was inaccurate: I did not schedule sex with my husband and then use the Fiera right before sex. I used the Fiera to get me in the mood for sex and if I was in the mood then I would have said “Honey, let’s fuck”.  It didn’t work out that way for me.  But maybe it could have. Maybe using the Fiera is a different thing altogether for situations like mine, where my low libido is due to mental health issues. Maybe it requires more patience, more days of using it and it not working and just being okay with that. Maybe. But I’ll never know, because my trial period was heavily limited because the rings wore out.

Here’s the thing: I like sex toys. I’m not adverse to having them feature prominently in my sex life. My husband isn’t adverse, either. Our sex has gotten so much better for us both ever since we brought good toys into the equation. I see absolutely no reason for me to use the Fiera instead of a vibrator on a setting that won’t make me come just yet, used during “foreplay” until I decide I want an orgasm. Is my way of doing things the right way for everybody? Of course not. But a great clitoral orgasm pre-PIV-sex is just the ticket for me, and us. It ramps up my arousal and it makes my body produce a ton of natural lubrication plus it wakes up my g-spot to the point where I’m in near-constant ecstasy during penetrative sex. It takes the pressure off him to “give me” an orgasm (since we’ve already established that I’m not an easy-comer and have issues with sensitivity) and it also takes pressure off of him to last longer during PIV sex. I’m not trying to orgasm during penetration so then the penetration is all about making my g-spot continue to feel good and making him feel good and orgasm if he can. And if things are so good for him that PIV sex only lasts a few minutes….that’s fine! We’ve both already reached a mutually agreeable and wonderful conclusion to our fun!

 

 

I was provided the Nuelle Fiera Arouser for Her at no charge in exchange for my honest review. I wanted to try it out because of my long-term issues with low libido due to brain chemistry / depression. Links contained within are affiliate links. 

 

 

 

  1. Where they actually said out loud that they didn’t belong there because their product wasn’t a sex toy
  2. Their website mentions “relationship fatigue” and talks about “sex after the baby” but in discussions with them they are saying that their biggest target is ages 45-65. Also, please note that for this review I will be using the term “woman” and being less gender-inclusive than I normally am. This is probably a product that really is meant for cis women. If you are a trans man and your clitoris is larger, then I don’t think this will fit. The Nuelle Fiera site is very focused on using the term “woman” to refer to someone who has a vulva and for the sake of continuity and understanding who most of the readers of this review will be, I’m just going to use “woman” when I need to
  3. By that point I’d outright said that I wanted to be sure that it’s not a case of it not working for me on the given days I tried it and really wanted to see if the 4-week trial could do something for me, but was told: “The purpose of our testing was not to claim that repeated use leads to better results (or that you have to use it for a specified period of time in order to feel the results). Once you get the hang of using the product, you should feel the results immediately. It often takes women a few tries to get proper placement and the sense of what level of intensity and which pattern they prefer, but the results are immediate. It’s the physical arousal that creates the desire.”
  4. And that those women feel that the Fiera was then instrumental in their orgasm
  5. I had to be super careful – the silicone is very soft and very thin, I would have had the entire thing go up in flames easily if I let it go but that would be normal since the silicone is so delicate and thin. NOT a sign of it not being silicone. The telltale grey ash was present after smoldering.
  6. Only one of them will really work for you – the difference is the depth. I needed the white ring which has more depth because of my chubby vulva and tiny clitoris
  7. I have yet to find a silicone clitoris/vulva pump, or really a clitoris pump that walks the line between hard-core serious suction with glass tubes and cheesy, tacky likely-not-to-work hand pumps in glittery purple TPR by the various Big 5 companies
  8.  It’s pretty evenly split between people who try the toxic ones that contain irritating ingredients and experience a bad, burning sensation, people who try it and like it, and people for whom it does absolutely nothing. I have found two items which Smitten Kitten carries that may work and do not contain toxic ingredients (but DO contain natural ingredients that some people may find irritating) – ON Natural Arousal Balm and Southern Butter Enhance Stimulating Butter.
  9. However, this wasn’t an arousal that led to my brain wanting sex – it simply led to my genitals having the equivalent experience of my mouth being allowed a small taste of a sugary treat and wanting more more more. I just wanted an orgasm. I didn’t want the “hassle” of sex. So I grabbed a vibrator
 Posted by at 11:16 am
Apr 212016
 

DIY setup for making my own vaginal THC suppositories like Foria Relief. Photo shows finished domed nuggets of pea-green cocoa butter, a mini ice cube mold, mixing bowl, jar of cocoa butter and syringe of medical THC oil.Foria became known to the sex toy world when they created a THC-enhanced lube that has gotten a range of reactions; but I’m not talking about any of that today. I’m talking about Foria’s latest product which is sadly not available to most of the US – the Foria Relief vaginal suppositories.  Yeah, I know, this isn’t my usual topic but it still involves Lilly being a geek, doing experiments.

Not long after Foria released Relief my Twitter timeline was buzzing with reactions and opinions – from “Cool” (mixed with damn, I wish I could have this) to some really infuriating, uneducated judgment and misconceptions. I expected better from the people I follow because they’re mostly pretty open-minded folks. No, you’re not “shoving weed up your vagina”, you’re not going to get high and yes, it’s perfectly fucking healthy. Let me assure you that using any Foria product or any topical THC item (or really any form of cannabis that isn’t burning the flower to ashes) is a whole lot healthier than drinking alcohol – which is quite easily socially accepted. It is certainly healthier than taking prescription or OTC pain relievers.

I live in Connecticut and have a medical marijuana card. I officially received it to help me deal with anxiety related to PTSD and I also unofficially use it for pain relief and all of the health benefits that come from CBD (the non-psychotropic other beneficial component to marijuana). Here’s something that most people do not know: Using THC topically will not get you stoned. It will work quickly, and safely, to relieve pain wherever it is applied.

A few days before my experiment I started having bad menstrual cramps – uncommonly bad. Nearly always my cramps are silenced with 3 Advil, but not this time. My mind immediately went to the Foria Relief suppositories but I, of course, didn’t have them and can’t get them. I do, however, have concentrated THC oil in syringes which I use to make my own medibles and my own topical pain relief. Nothing else on the planet has given me pain relief in my feet (I suffer from severe, incurable plantar fasciitis or something else that they have yet to diagnose) and I easily get to the point now where I am in agony just to hobble around after moderate activity but a home-made foot spray gives me short-lived relief. At one point in my life I was getting expensive (painful, useless, unhealthy-for-me) corticosteroid shots in my back. I relied on patches that I would plaster all over my lower back – one for pain relief, one to relax the muscles. These methods barely worked. Topical THC in a coconut oil salve works nearly immediately and almost totally with zero side effects. It’s only drawback is that it tends to only last 1-3 hours. So I’m well-versed in how and why these Foria Relief suppositories work.

Now, this isn’t a review specifically for Foria Relief since, as I said, I can’t get them. But after reading a few other reviews – one of which was super informative despite the irritating headline – I learned what the suppositories are made of and decided to create my own. My current syringe of oil doesn’t have much CBD in it so my version is 96% THC composition, 4% CBD. Mine are also an odd shade of green (from the yellowish hue of cocoa butter plus dirty-motor-oil-brown of the THC concentrated oil-goo) but that’s okay. At first I tried to just use the coconut oil salve I already had on hand, but I ended up with a mess as coconut oil quickly seeped out of me. I did shove a thumb-sized chunk of solid coconut oil in my vag, after all. I also temporarily had a sort of itchy vulva but I think it was just from the sensation of the oil slowly leaking out of me? It may also have been a tingling sensation from the THC since I’d never experienced topical THC on the sensitive mucous membranes. I’ve never had an itchy vulva from coconut oil before. I celebrated 4/20 by making my own more “proper” suppositories with cocoa butter. Even with the smaller amount of melty stuff in my DIY suppositories, oil still leaked out of me. I feel like this would pair best with a menstrual cup, perhaps, to help keep the melted oils in your vagina while you wait for the cannabis magic to happen – which incidentally happens pretty quick. I get much faster pain relief from topical THC than I do from swallowing a few Advil.

Whether it was the spur-of-the-moment low “dose” coconut oil or the homemade 60mg THC “pastille” shaped domes, I experienced something amazing. I can tell you more of how I made these if anybody wants to know but I think I know what you are really here to find out: Did it work?

Skeptics, marijuana critics, judgy-Judys and the ill-informed can shut the hell up because this was a godsend. Even my “back cramps” went away. I don’t think I really needed to make these as strong as I did and I will try out breaking a piece in half for the next time. The cost of the THC oil, for me, was $70 for 760 mg and I made 12 very strong suppositories. Is this affordable? Not for most. Is this available to everyone? Sadly no, but you’re more likely able to DIY a cannabis suppository than buy Foria Relief which is only available in California. If you suffer from debilitating menstrual cramps and currently take liver- and stomach-harming pain relievers that come with a host of unwanted side effects, this will be a welcome relief if you can find a way to get it.  I will be saving these for the bad days, when I can’t ignore the cramps and instead of reaching for Advil I’ll use my THC suppositories. The only thing that the cannabis suppositories don’t relieve is the phenomenon known as period poops and the nausea that many sometimes also have in the first few days. It was disheartening when my uterus cramps died off but my intestinal cramps did not. Still, something was better than nothing. I am currently writing this 4 hours after my last dose and am still pain-free from uterine cramps.

If you’re in Canada you can get Cannalife products but they don’t yet have a special suppository – they do have a Foria Pleasure-like genital oil. There’s the Salve1 which I can attest to working well as a pain relief salve but the odor is very musky and earthy and not really my favorite. It does indicate use for menstrual cramp pain relief, they’re just not outright saying “shove a thimblefull up your vag” so before you try that, consider asking the company first. The ingredients in the salve are all body-safe.

 

Author’s Note: I wasn’t compensated by anyone to write this post, and I’m not partnered with Foria or representing them here. I’m writing about this because I want to; it’s a product I needed and a product that many are skeptical about. If you want to know more about how cannabis and sex relate to each other, please go check out my friend Ashley’s site, Cannasexual.

 

 

  1. I used this stuff on my gallbladder removal surgery scars and my doctor was amazed at my 2-week followup on how well I’d healed in that time. It didn’t help the extreme itch from the healing but it made the wounds less painful, it made the muscles they cut into hurt a lot less and I didn’t need to use the Percocet they prescribed me.
 Posted by at 4:28 pm
Apr 102016
 

13 Tips to remove odors from your butt plug - photo shows a purple butt plug on a kitchen towel with coconut oil, vinegar and baking soda containers in the backgroundMany people like to wear a butt plug overnight or during the day, and we’re all told that silicone is a fabulous sex toy material – truly body-safe, essentially non-porous1, able to be sanitized, etc. Yet for all day wear like this it’s a secondary material to glass or stainless steel. Some people are not able to afford a good glass or steel butt plug or may have found that the material doesn’t feel as comfortable to them for all day wear2, so they stick with silicone only to find that sometimes when the plug is removed it basically smells like a fart. When you’re dealing with butt play, shit happens3.

I’ve talked to people who have even experienced some staining if they wore it for long enough and their rectum wasn’t completely free of fecal matter4; this can happen after one use or slowly over time. They all wonder how this can happen with silicone, it’s non-porous! It’s safe! Yes, but this isn’t uncommon. I’ve had it happen with silicone kitchen stuff – never let tomato sauce stick around on those more expensive, softer silicone spatulas, let me tell you. Also, never use a silicone ice cube tray for making ice cubes from anything smelly5. Softer silicone is more apt to staining. If the staining issue would be a concern to you, then purchase black or very dark-colored silicone plugs.

From what I’ve read the odors on your silicone sex toy tend to happen because the bond between the oil-soluble odors and the silicone is strong. One of the better tips I’ve seen therefore involves oil – smearing the silicone plug with coconut oil for a little while and then washing it well with a very mild soap and hot tap water. I’ve also heard that if you use a plant-based oil as your lube (and thoroughly coat the silicone toy with it) it can prevent the odors from clinging to the silicone.  Many people have reported that boiling their sex toy does nothing – while some have reported that a long (30 minutes) boil has helped.

Keep in mind that you should consider checking with the manufacturer of your plug before trying these. Tantus specifically has recommending baking but will this work for cheap $20 silicone butt plugs? I don’t know. I’d assume so, but I’m obviously not an expert on every brand.

13 Tips for removing odors from your butt plug:

  1. DO NOT shove the stinking plug into a plastic bag or other container and shut it. This will only trap the odors and make it worse.
  2. Try to simply air it out for a day or three. Even better if you can get it exposed to sunlight for awhile.
  3. Boil it! Add a little vinegar to the water, but don’t boil straight vinegar. This only works if the toy is 100% silicone, no other materials. (this option has worked less often)
  4. Bake it! Yep. Start out at 250 degrees for 20 minutes6. This only works if the toy is 100% silicone, no other materials.
  5. Some menstrual-cup companies recommend a brief soak in hydrogen peroxide, but I’ve also read that this could degrade silicone. Try it as a last resort.
  6. Try soaking it in room-temperature vinegar. A 15-30 minute soak should do the trick. Please be sure to wash it well as soon as you remove it from the soak, soap and water, and then let it air dry for awhile.
  7. Try soaking it in a 10% bleach solution. Please be sure to wash it well as soon as you remove it from the soak, soap and water. (this option has worked less often)
  8. Try soaking it in a liquid solution of Oxyclean for 15-20 minutes. Follow with a good wash in warm tap water and a mild soap.
  9. Create a solution of baking soda water – maybe a cup of baking soda in 4 cups of water, doesn’t need to be scientific. Soak for an hour to a few hours. Rinse well, air dry.
  10. DO NOT ever boil a bleach solution!
  11. Smear it first with coconut oil, let it sit like this for an hour or two and then wash well with mild soap and warm water.
  12. Don’t be afraid to try a few of these tips if one of them doesn’t dispatch the smell/stain 100%
  13. Try a bit of preventative measure: Pick up unlubed condoms (because most use a cheap silicone lube) and cover the plug with the condom; to be extra safe I’d recommend bringing the condom down over the base and tying it off like a balloon.

None of these options will work though if your sex toy isn’t actually silicone. Make sure that it’s not PVC, rubber, TPR, etc. If it is, then simply throw out the stink bomb and buy something in a better material.

If you have additional tips or can report one of these working well/not at all for you, please comment below and let us know!

  1. I say essentially because it is technically porous, but bacteria/mildew/yeast/etc cannot live in the pores
  2. Although every report I’ve had about the Njoy Pure Plugs has deemed the very comfortable for all-day wear
  3. Sorry. I couldn’t resist.
  4. And I think it has to do with your body, your health, etc
  5. Before I found powdered buttermilk I would freeze my liquid buttermilk in cubes since a carton would go bad before it could all be used up in baking recipes – after doing this twice the silicone retained an odor I couldn’t remove, but then I never tried these tricks. It was no doubt the fat in buttermilk making the odor stick around
  6. Tantus has stated it’s safe for their silicone to go to 350 degrees for 30 minutes
 Posted by at 1:14 pm
Apr 032016
 

Jopen Lust L2.5I picked up the Jopen Lust L2.5 during a big Black Friday sale because I’d heard a few other reviewers rave about it (or the nearly-identical Lust L2). You’re getting a good deal for $49; powerful, rechargeable, waterproof. While it isn’t as useful as the Tango because the Tango can replace similarly shaped bullet vibes that insert into dildos, some people just want a powerful clitoral vibe that isn’t quite as pricey as the Tango at $79. So with hopes very high and expecting awesome things with no drawbacks, I got the Jopen Lust L2.5, finally.

Historically I’ve not had great luck with Jopen toys and Jopen warranty service; at least 4 Jopens I’ve received for review had to be sent back (at my dime, usually, unless SheVibe stepped in) for warranty replacement before I could even write my review. More than one Jopen vibe gets unusually warm during use which isn’t listed as a “feature” so I assume it’s not supposed to happen (and was told that with their early Envy line that it wasn’t a feature). Thankfully for me so far the Lust L2.5 has held up but just like I warn about Lelo’s customer service, I want to be transparent about Jopen issues. While Jopen toys are “powered by Powerbullet” (BMS Enterprises) and the line started off as the US-counterpart of the Swan (Leaf) brand, Jopen is a CalExotics line.

Ok But That Fucking Button

When you have such a small vibrator the places to put the button are limited. With the Tango I never accidentally hit the button because I don’t hold it in such a way that I would. But with the Jopen Lust L2.5, the only way for me to comfortably hold it during use has my thumb resting right on the button. There’s no getting around that. The number of times I have accidentally turned it off? I’ve lost count. The way Jopen’s single buttons work is that you have to press and hold to turn on and then press and hold to increase the vibrations. So a single, easy click of a button shuts it off. For me, the constant accidental shut-off took my theoretical rating from an 8.5/10 to a 6/10. I find it THAT annoying. It’s been an orgasm-ruiner because of this. Sometimes I’ve been able to overlook oddly placed buttons or buttons that require a bit of contortionist hands or buttons that require strength to press or even buttons that are an ugly rhinestone. If I love the vibrator enough I can overlook that. So I don’t know why this button issue has me so irritated. Maybe because I’d read reviews that got me hyped up to think it was as great a vibe as the Tango? I also think my button hatred issues stem from the fact that I’m not accustomed to the Jopen way of life, where you have to remember to press-and-hold the button to increase your speed during use. The vast majority of my vibrators do not work that way. My brain, especially in the hormonal haze of masturbation or sex, forgets that this one is different. And so, I shut it off accidentally. Every. Damn. Time.  If you don’t think this is gonna be an issue for you, then you’ll enjoy it more than I do.

Jopen Lust L2.5 Button

People have complained about the lack of travel-lock on the Touch and Tango. I never experienced an issue, especially after buying a protective case. So while you may be excited about the travel-lock feature on the Jopen please be aware: You may think your Jopen is defective at first. It arrives in travel-lock mode; click three times in a row and the button will glow red for a second. Okay, great, we’re done. NOPE. Every damn time you charge it it goes right into travel-lock mode after you pull out the charging pin. Annoying.

Good Vibrations? Lust L2.5 vs Tango

Speaking of the Tango, you can’t not compare the two even though, shape-wise, they’re nothing alike. The vibrations of the Jopen Lust L2.5 are strong and just nearly as rumbly as the Tango on the lower settings. But when you ramp up the intensity of the Lust L2.5, the rumbly changes to something with some buzz to it. It’s got this itchy edge to it on high that which is definitely not a hallmark of rumbly. From some reviews I expected it to be just as rumbly as the Tango but I should have known better – I have other Jopen toys and none are quite as rumbly as a Tango or Rave or Prism V. They’re good; I like many of them. But as I’ve said before my genitals are a diving rod for true rumble. If you’re looking for a truly deep, rumbling, powerful and pinpoint clitoral vibe I’ve gotta tell you to save up for that Tango. I’ve been keeping the Jopen Lust L2.5 as my backup for when all 5 Tangos are dead (yes, that happens, I’m lazy at charging). But in order to keep the peace while using it, I can’t hold it.  I sometimes get the same amount of run-time from the Jopen Lust L2.5 as I do from the Tango, but the Lust L2.5 takes 2.5 hours to reach a full charge. Tango is a fraction of that time. I’ve also had situations where I swear that I’m only getting 15-20 minutes of run time with the Lust L2.5 and I’m not even using it on high. I’ve had it die on me during use more times than any other sex toy in recent history. Sometimes I can have the patience of just 5-7 minutes to charge the Tango just enough to quickly get me off if I need to but that will never happen with the Jopen Lust L2.5.

Jopen Lust L2.5 vs We-Vibe Tango

I’m also torn on how to talk about the intensity of the vibrations because, unlike the Tango, the Jopen Lust L2.5 suffers from severe vibration dampening when any pressure is applied or it is surrounded by fleshy labia. The dampening is actually kind of a good thing though because it tones down the bit of buzz I feel on the higher settings and lets the rumble side shine through a little better on the lower settings. But with the way I use the Lust L2.5, how fleshy my labia are, etc….I am getting so much vibration dampening that it’s a drastic change from how powerful it feels when you turn it on and just hold it in your hand. It’s then that I realize that it’s better than the Lelo Mia 2 but it’s not up to par with the vibrations of the Touch and definitely not the Tango.

Love. Hate. Love. Hate.

I think that for the price, this is a great little vibe. It’s not the best, it’s not better than the Tango, but it is one of the better vibes around $50 – you’d have to up your budget to $79+ to find a better vibe. So who would love this? Who will be satisfied? I think you’d have to be someone who simply cannot save up for the Tango in the foreseeable future. Or maybe you already know that seriously rumbly, seriously powerful toys are not quite your thing, that you want moderately-to-very rumbly. Then you’d prefer the Jopen Lust L2.5.  You have to be someone who is able to roll with the change from the norm in button style, and who can hold it in such a way that you don’t accidentally turn it off. I don’t feel that the vibe being covered in a thin silicone skin makes it any more comfortable to use than the Tango, but I do feel like it’s a little bit easier to hold given the grippy silicone and the overall shape.  The main difference between the Lust L2 and L2.5 is the ridges right below the head – if you’re someone who likes movement, rubbing, friction, etc with your vibrations, you’ll want the Lust L2.5. If you want to use a vibrator and not worry about lube then pick the slick, shiny plastic of the Tango. And while I do love that the Jopen Lust L2.5 doesn’t waste my time with pulsating patterns I’ll just ignore, if you need those then you’re out of luck here.

This review, and my feelings about the toy, kinda remind me of the Palmpower Wand. When I finally got my hands on it I was shocked by how much I hated it and how much others loved it. No, I don’t hate the Jopen Lust L2.5, but I feel a lot differently about it than most. It absolutely does bring me to orgasm, and a good strong orgasm at that so it’s not a total loser. It’s just not the best in class, unless your budget limitations are firm. I feel like this could have gone over better with me if the button were different, if it weren’t such an orgasm-ruiner.

 

 Posted by at 2:07 pm
Mar 232016
 

Sex toys and condoms - Should you really cover your sex toy with a condom? Shown are 3 dildos with condom wrappers, one of the dildos is a clear, red jelly dildo covered in a condomFor as long as I’ve known about porous and toxic sex toys I’ve heard the old “cover it with a condom and you’re fine” mantra1. It’s an oft-used phrase to make buying a toxic or porous toy seem more “safe” than it is and I am starting to get really cranky about how easily this is bandied about. I can understand how someone came up with this idea – a condom is a great barrier against STI’s and pregnancy, so shouldn’t it work in this situation? Well, that depends on a number of factors, like the situation and the condom material. It’s true, not all condoms are created equal for these purposes – and bad news: the condoms that are right for these situations are probably not the condoms you already have in your drawer. So if you’re going to use, or recommend to others the use of, a condom on a sex toy please make sure that it’s the right condom otherwise you’ll end up with sad toys or mad genitals. At the end of the day I’d really like to see this band-aid “solution” recommended a lot less, but I think that most educators and reviewers say it as a last-ditch attempt to keep others safe; those who insist on using porous sex toys. We want you to be safe and would rather you avoid porous insertable sex toys2 but we know that some of you are going to use these materials anyway.

A note for those new around here: I talk about toxic and porous toys separately. Not all porous toys are toxic. TPR/TPE is non-toxic, but still porous and still breaks down and sweats oil.

Using A Condom to Protect Yourself from Toxic Chemicals

Absolutely no research has been done to prove that this is true. Of course, no official research as been done to prove it’s not true, either. I’ve heard from numerous people that they still experienced a burning sensation despite covering a toxic sex toy with a condom. One person confirmed that the condoms they’d tried were latex and polyisoprene and they still felt the burn; neither of those condom types play well with oil. Why does that matter? All porous sex toys have oils in them. This jar is proof of that! When the toys sweat/break down, even just a little, there’s a constant sheen of oil on them. This oil will render latex condoms so porous that it’s useless against the fight. You might be able to succeed with using polyurethane condoms or nitrile condoms but again this is a theory and not proven. Polyurethane and nitrile are safe with oils but I don’t know if they’re a barrier against the toxic chemicals in some sex toys. If you’re going to take the risk on sil-a-gel, sex toys with phthalates, “jelly” sex toys and more, at least use the right condom to have a shot at this theory working. 

For the photos I put a Trojan Magnum condom on this disgusting jelly dildo3 I have; I left it on there for maybe 5 minutes while I took some photos. Then I decided to try and cover the whole sex toy with the latex condom – after all they’re stretchy enough to cover a large fist and go up to the elbow, surely it could cover the whole jelly dildo, right? Wrong. The condom broke about 30 seconds after this pic was snapped when I tried to stretch it a little farther – the ring came off and the condom tore lengthwise a little. Then I put a Magnum over the Tantus dildo in the photo and was able to stretch it over the balls, the base and have more room leftover to theoretically tie it off like a balloon if I had more nimble fingers – Also, I was very careful with the condoms when stretching them over the dildos, but then I stopped being careful with the condom over the silicone Tantus. I stretched it out more at the opening, and even held the dildo up by the part of the condom I was grasping in my fingers in the photo. The condom that spent a little time on the oily dildo tore easily. The condom over the silicone dildo remained tough and intact.

Photo shows a latex condom stretched over the whole red jelly dildo, including base and balls  Photo shows a discarded condom with the base ring torn off laying next to a large purple silicone dildo that has been covered entirely in a condom, from tip to base  Photo shows me pulling a condom entirely over the base of a large purple Tantus dildo, able to twist excess condom tightly as if to tie it off like a balloon.

tl;dr: No latex condoms. Only polyurethane or nitrile. Or just stop buying potentially toxic materials, and if you must must must buy cheap porous toys, then buy TPE/TPR if you can’t have silicone. I mean I’d rather you avoid all porous materials but I realize I can’t have it all.

Using a Condom to Extend the Life4 of Porous Sex Toys

Again we have the wrong-condom issue: most condoms that people buy are the kind that are useless in the face of any oils5; but to really protect the toy (and yourself) you would have to cover the entirety of the sex toy to really really be safe. Even if you cover most of the dildo, part of it is still quite likely to get into contact with your bodily fluids and could retain bacteria, etc. These microorganisms would spread inside the porous material, past the surface. Remember, with a porous sex toy you can really only clean the very surface. You would have to probably use two condoms, one over each end, overlapping a lot, to really be sure. But that’s 2 polyurethane condoms a pop – the best price I can find on Amazon has them at $1.58 each.  That’s $3.16 per use if you’re going to really make it worth the effort.  So unless the item you want simply cannot be had at all in silicone…I don’t see why you’d save money by buying a porous toy and then pour money in a slow trickle down the drain with condoms. Having never used polyurethane condoms, I don’t know if they’re as stretchy as latex condoms. I was able to get a Magnum condom to cover the entirety of the Tantus dildo in the photos and maybe even leave enough room to tie it off like a balloon (if I had more nimble fingers), so if your sex toy has no balls, you could use one condom in this manner, for money-saving purposes.

Edited to Add: The morning after writing this I decided to locate one of the TPR toys I bought for testing purposes. Unlike the red jelly dildo above, this TPR toy didn’t feel greasy to my fingers. It’s a pretty firm TPR, too. I put the latex condom on, first rolled it all the way down to the bottom and then rolled it up just partway to show that it wasn’t baggy on there, it was snug. I rolled it back down just a little bit closed to the handle, maybe another inch, and left it alone. Then I walked away for a little while (an hour at most? I kinda forgot about it while I responded to an irritating email and then made coffee) and came back. I tried to roll the condom the rest of the way down to see if I could tell a difference between the latex actually on the toy vs the latex that wasn’t touching the toy because it wasn’t fully unrolled. The condom promptly tore. You can see how the condom looks more “roomy”, like a bag, and retained some weird texturing from the dildo. 

4 images show a latex condom rolled over a pink, translucent vibrator made of TPR. In 2 photos the condom is snug fitting and intact, and in 2 other photos the condom has torn while part of the condom remains on the dildo

Making it Easier to Keep a Somewhat-Porous Sex Toy Free of Stains

One of the few instances that I can get behind the “throw a condom on it” mantra on is for things like the Magic Wand Original and similarly-made wands. The material is still kinda porous, but doesn’t seem to be as porous as the soft materials (the more softening agent that is added, the more porous a toy becomes and the more likely you’re going to see telltale signs of hitchhikers. Also I’ve never seen a Magic Wand head deteriorate like most porous toys), but the Magic Wand WILL stain if you’re bleeding and the leather-like texture makes cleaning difficult. In these particular cases, since these wand heads aren’t chemically unstable and sweating oils, latex or polyisoprene will be okay.

tl;dr: No latex condoms. Only polyurethane or nitrile on porous toys. Better yet, stick with non-porous materials like silicone, glass, and metal and never worry again!

Using a Condom on Non-Porous Toys

The only times I really think it’s necessary at all to use a condom on a non-porous sex toy is when you want to use a sex toy both anally and vaginally in the same session but don’t have the means / ability to properly sanitize in between uses OR if you’re in a situation where sex toys are being shared about the room with people you aren’t fluid-bonded with. Or if you’re bleeding and just don’t want to deal with the extra hassle of blood on your vibrators buttons, you could put a non-lubed condom over the handle. 

In these situations, especially if you’re putting the condom on silicone sex toys, I highly highly recommend buying non-lubricated condoms. I didn’t know this until recently but the vast majority of condoms are lubricated with silicone lube. We don’t know what kind, so I’d not recommend combining it with a silicone sex toy. Some high quality silicone lubes are fine with high quality silicone sex toys (like Tantus and Pjur are said to be best buds), but there are a bunch of different types of silicone that can be used in a lube, and most are used in a combination, so I don’t know which condoms would be considered safe with high quality sex toys – condom makers almost never tell you the ingredients of the lube on their condoms. There are some condoms that are rumored to use water-based lube, but I suspect most (if not all) would contain ingredients that are best avoided by most people. Also, there are lists I’ve seen claiming so-and-so’s particular condom uses a water-based lube but they got their info from the manufacturers, and I don’t know how long ago this was – formulas can change and I can’t get confirmation from the manufacturer’s websites.  So again, I’m back to recommending non-lubricated condoms.

I’ve seen it recommended occasionally that you should always use a condom on your sex toy, even if it’s non-porous, being used in a single hole by a single person with no current infections – i.e. best-case situation. I can totally understand wanting a condom for anal use for easier clean-up, but I’m less convinced of the need for vaginal use, personally. There are quick, easy, and cheap ways to clean or sanitize your sex toys if they are made from a non-porous material. But if it makes you feel better, if you cannot possibly stand the thought of using them without, then go right ahead but again….non-lubricated condoms, please. You can buy them singularly for 50 cents each at SheVibe, by the 100 at Amazon (Atlas Brand) or a value pack at Amazon of Trojan Enz.

tl:dr: non-lubricated condoms!

Unfortunately, I have not been able to find a non-lubricated non-latex condom. If you have latex allergies I don’t know what to tell you here; the non-latex condoms all have silicone lube in them. I suppose you could try to rinse out the silicone lube but that seems unlikely, since silicone repels water.

 

  1. myth?
  2. Porous penetratable sex toys are kinda unavoidable for the most part and there are definitely non-toxic brands that I recommend, but ya gotta keep a really close eye on these materials for sour smells and black spots
  3.  Yes, I have an old “true” jelly dildo in my possession. I was sent it for testing purposes, to see what would happen to condoms (wanted to see if I could test for myself how quickly/obviously the latex would deteriorate on something like this dildo). The dildo smells of chemicals, and feels oily.
  4. And in theory protect yourself from whatever is living in your porous toy
  5. The reason? There’s really only one brand making a polyurethane condom so it’s not a majority leader on the shelf
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