I’m going to start a new little project, and I can’t do it alone. But hey, it benefits you!
My reviews here are a good balance of subjective and objective, but sometimes they tip the scales into more subjective. Which is really why I started reviewing in the first place – I had a hard time figuring out if a sex toy was going to work out for me without reading about other people’s experiences. But when I talk about how well a toy did (or didn’t) work out for me, that opinion isn’t going to apply to everyone. Let’s say I couldn’t love a dildo because it’s short; I’m round and not all that flexible, so a short dildo is not going to work for me. But someone else without those issues might absolutely adore that dildo. Another example: the OhMiBod remote control Bluemotion vibrator is something that I’m reluctant to even ask for review, because I know that design won’t work for me and how I’m built. Since that nub has no prayer of reaching my clitoris, my opinion of how the vibe might work for others could be skewed.
You get the idea, I’m sure. So basically I want to create a list of other reviewers who review subjectively and who can plonk themselves into little descriptive boxes. I have two ideas for how this will look. The first is a line for each person, and then icons, like the icons SheVibe uses for at-a-glance info on sex toys (if you’re looking at the OMB vibe I linked up there, it’s the icons that let you know if something is anal-safe, rechargeable, waterproof, etc). Another idea is a table, with names going down the left and attributes going across the top and dots in the boxes. If you have better ideas, please explain them. This is all I could come up with this afternoon.
Who will qualify for this list? What will the attributes be? The first is easy: I’m looking for people who are not afraid to do negative/critical reviews and who include plenty of “personal experience” information on each review. If your reviews are primarily objective and factual, that won’t really work out for this. I also believe heavily in the value of negative reviews; not only do they help readers determine if your opinions are in line with theirs, but it shows them that you’re not being positive just to please the retailers or your affiliate account.
Gender: Not necessarily YOUR gender, but the anatomical gender that aligns with what you review for. The body part. This aspect makes the waters a little murky when people are talking about and shopping for sex toys. I’m not sure how I’m going to word it. I review toys for the vagina and clitoris, but not the butt from a cisfem viewpoint, but yes from a cismale viewpoint. I really want to include trans reviewers on this list, too, since their experiences with toys can be so different. I try my best, but when a transwoman reader asks for my advice on a sex toy, and typical penis toys are off the table, I’m at a loss because of a lack of personal experience. If there is someone else better equipped to answer this, from personal experience, I absolutely want to send them to the right place.
Body size and vulva type: Bigger people of any gender can run into the same issue with reach and flexibility. Thinner people don’t usually have that issue. And of course, the vulva issue. Exposed or hidden clitoris? Minimal labia/mons, or prominent? Those factor heavily into whether or not a design will work for someone. Another aspect I might want to go into is size preference, and find a way to note if someone tends to have pubic bone issues with insertables.
Sensitivity: How easily can you orgasm from manual stimulation? Easily? Moderate? Difficult?
Other things, too, like BDSM reviews, reviews slated towards disabled people, and so on. I don’t know HOW exactly I’m going to do this, but I’m gonna do it. I just need your input!
Please give feedback! What attributes do you think should be included? What layout would work best? And if you qualify and want to be included in this, please leave your details in the comment as well. If you have input but don’t want to publicly comment, please feel free to contact me via email.
What if it looked like this for each person:
- Vibrations: 4
- Size – Vaginal: 4
- Body: Fat, fuller labia, buried clit
- Gender: Cis female
- Disabilites: Reduced strength, mild arthritis, issues with flexibility
- Orgasm ability without toys: 5
- Partner reviews: prostate stimulators and masturbators, cismale POV
- Favorite toys: We-Vibe Tango, Njoy Pure Wand, Je Joue Uma
1 to 5, 1 being least intense/smallest/easiest
orgasm scale – one being easiest, 5 being hardest
Size scale -
- 1.25″ and under
- 1.25 – 1.5
- 1.5 – 1.75
- 1.75 – 2.0
- 2.0 +