Ugly on the Inside

Ugly is right. Ironically just today I was thinking why I like some of these bloggers and the posts, pictures I read. The reason? Because they are real people just like me. Not the photoshopped media version that we are surrounded by every single day. I’ve been reading several body positive blogs as well & had no idea that basically EVERY image we see is modified in some way.

As for the rest of the complaints, if she doesn’t like it she doesn’t have to read it. Those who are the most critical are usually, in my opinion, people who have not dealt with adversity and the reality that not every thing is black and white. It’s so much easier for them to criticize others lives than to look at their own.

I feel sad for this person. Life and who we are is so much more than what we see on the outside.
Enough rambling from me. :)

~ It IS disheartening about all the photoshopping. It is harmful to society.

I LIKE looking at pictures of people with cankles and saggy tits and big nipples and pudgy calves. THEY ARE REAL! Also, those people are fucking ballsy. Society tells each and every one of us, including the person who wrote that crap, that we should look a particular way. Well, stop the presses, but about 95% of us look like normal, average people and we have stretch marks and and rolls and unibrows. I am totally amazed again and again when I see someone full of bodily imperfections showing it off to the world. I am in awe and inspired and those are the people I definitely want in my world. They teach me it’s okay to like my own body, regardless of what everyone else says.

~ I agree. But thanks to fashion and Playboy….we’re all supposed to be nipped and tucked and skinny and flawless. fuck that.

Ugh, I used to think otherwise about that woman but you’re right, she is an ugly person on the inside. Anyone who spews that kind of judgmental venom about people is an ugly person and has no place in my life, even if it is just someone I might socialize with occasionally online. It’s disgusting. This is a great post. I love when you rant. I also love the Christina Aguilera lyrics you ended this with, that is a beautiful song. I wish more people focused on what was inside of someone versus what their packaging looks like.

~ I can remember thinking that, too. Didn’t take long before she showed her true colors.

I’ve stopped participating in HNT, in part, because of personalities of some other bloggers. Some of the people are great, but many express sentiments similar to what you posted. Or they are misogynistic. Or the are trans-phobic. Or homophobic. Or any other number of things that I just don’t need to be a part of.

~ They are….but then I try to remember that it was never a meme intended for us “crazy sex bloggers”. It was drummed out entirely too much how we all got our freaky fully naked selves wormed in there and “ruined” it for the originals. Of course, though he may not admit it to his flock, he loves those the best and has been known to try and ferret them out on blogs if someone happens to have uploaded one but not posted it. So they’re not sex-positive bloggers, and no you can’t expect them to be open and welcoming, not all of them. Just like society, really.

Ugly on the inside. Yes, this person definitely is. I wonder if she has ever thought that there are other people who might find her outside ugly, too? Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. To me, there is nothing more beautiful than a man or woman of any age, any size, that is happy with their body and their sexuality – shown is pictures and/or writing.

Some recent and some not so recent events have caused me to stop reading many “sex” blogs. I’ve remained faithful to ones that offer insight, education and entertainment. The others that pass judgement, ridicule and have that, “I’m doing you a favor by posting about my magnificence.” attitude are gone from my blogroll. They’re not missed.

Also, try being a sexually active, somewhat overweight, woman in her ’50′s writing about sex and life. I’m damn near invisible!

Thanks, for another inspiring post.

~ Ah yes, the pompous douchebags tend to give us a bad name, don’t they. And I don’t think that there’s anything at all wrong with being a sexually active woman in her 50′s writing about sex. Forget the body part. Plenty would want to read that. More than you think!

Holy wild assumptions, Batman. Her attitude, though I have no idea who she is, is one reason I steered away from posting HNT/WW stuff. I didn’t want people to think I was trying to beg for attention by posting half-naked pictures of myself on my blog and I started noticing that I got lots of traffic if I updated twitter with HNT or WW posts.

Meh. Fuck her. People who need to tear other people down to make themselves feel better are shit anyway.

Nicely done, Lilly! People need to stop looking at others through their own glasses.
And the funny thing about it is that those judgments based on nothing make them sound way more childish than anyone they’re trying to judge based on looks, writings or behaviors. Ironic, isn’t it?

I couldn’t help it… I Googled to find the blog in question, and my first thought was how “off” it was to see that post residing next to a big “Erase Hate” banner in the side bar! Even worse that the person uses “Namasté” as a sign off in their About section. Do they have the slightest clue what the base concept is behind either sentiment? Guess not, and somehow that makes it even more sad.

Anyway, you’ve hit the nail on the head Lilly (as usual) and I love your post. I’m half tempted to try a Wanton Wednesday myself now, even though I’m older and not likely what would be considered “hot” by most definitions, if for no other reason than to irritate people who think like that by showing them my bod (LOL).

~ Hey now, did you learn nothing? We’re not all spring chickens at WW. It’s not about being up to standards that are impossible to meet without heavy photo editing, lol. And you know, I didn’t even read those things on her site. I was too overwhelmed by how ugly it was and how ugly her words were.

As I always say, you can’t fix stupid or reason with crazy.