I’m not on OkCupid these days looking for a hook-up or a date – but more for friends. So when I put in who I’m looking for, I selected “everyone”. So on my homescreen I will see updates from straight women, gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, just…everybody!
Twice now I’ve messaged women on Okcupid with absolutely no intent of further contact – I just felt compelled to tell them something nice. The first girl was a little bit overweight, gorgeously curvy and came across as confident in her profile and photos. She had some photos up of herelf in outfits looking cute and sassy and proud of her curves and I just had to tell her, girl to girl, that her one outfit was fucking outstanding and she looked great in it. Her simple reply made me smile “Thanks, you so totally made my day!!”. How often do straight women, strangers no less, compliment each other? More often than not we’re likely either silently judging & jealous in our heads or thinking that it’s a great top/bag/shoes but never say it because it might seem weird. I’m the type who wouldn’t say these things to a stranger in person (I’m just too shy) but in this medium it gives me a boost – nobody else around to think “what a weirdo” or no “what a weirdo” look from the person I compliment.
The second woman was today. She recently updated her profile and part of it caught my eye, so I visited. All in all she sounded like someone I would be great friends with (pity she’s not in CT or I would have tried) but it was very obvious by her wording and such that she’d recently had her heart broken and was sick of dealing with idiots who weren’t reading her full profile.
Here’s what I sent her:
So this isn’t your typical OKC message.
Sometimes I see profiles of women come across my homescreen because I selected that I’m “interested in everyone” and not entirely in a perverted way, either. And sometimes I see these profiles for women and I want to hug them. Like you. Whatever you’re looking for I sincerely hope you find it because, if your profile is accurate, you sound like a great catch for some lucky guy. I mean that in a non-creepy way, I promise. Don’t ever settle for just some jackass on here, or any jackass anywhere. You’re awesome and will find someone equally awesome.
And I agree….wtf did we do before Google and cell phones…man life was sucky back then, lol.
Have a good day :)
Have an amazing weekend. =)