Comments on: The Perfect Fat

By: kateanon

kateanon — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 01:06:34 +0000

I appreciate this, as I have some of the same complaints. Lingerie especially can be difficult, I tried both a small local adult shop this weekend (in their tiny section) and Torrid, and had no luck with some of the lingerie pieces, corsets and such. Frustrating.

By: blazngScarlet

blazngScarlet — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:13:15 +0000

My size has also varied over the years, but I am at a comfortable 16 right now.
I’m healthy and I feel good.
However, i;m also short …. 5’3″.
Finding plus-sized clothes has been a challenge.
Especially AFFORDABLE ones.
However,I have had some success with Torrid.
I have also shopped online at: http://www.biggalslingerie.com/dress1.html
I also have noticed that the models in the clothing section are more accurately portrayed … double chins, rolls, dimples on the butt, etc.
You might want to give them a look-see.

Anyway, thank you for the article.
I do think it’s nice to see bigger women models …. just use all types.
Same thing with smaller women.
We’re all built differently, we should celebrate and encourage our fellow sisters for how beautiful they are …. regardless of size.

By: Ivey

Ivey — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:21:29 +0000

Like some of the previous commenters my size has varied from about a twenty years ago a size 10 at my smallest (which I still believed to be enormous since I worked in film and TV) to a size 20 two years ago at my largest. Right now, I’m about a 14. For someone with a reasonably healthy body-image shopping can be challenging, but for one who is larger than the “prefered” size AND wraps their self-worth into that freakin’ number, it can be beyond excruciating bordering on self-torture. But many people I encountered over the years saw it only as a shopping problem. But for me, the constant struggle with weight carried over into my work, my relationships, my sexuality, and so many other areas.

Thanks for the many thoughtful posts, Lilly. I truly enjoy reading them and will be back for many more.

By: thepinkpoppet

thepinkpoppet — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:05:57 +0000

Great post! Thanks for laying this all out there. For me personally…I have been large woman (size 28). I have been small woman (size 8). Right now I am rather average sized woman(size 10-12). I remember and understand the hellacious frustration of trying to find proper fitting and beautiful clothes and being so mad at designers that I could have spit at them. They never seemed to realize that the average woman in the world is not a size 00 and that if they designed clothes for real women they could increase their sales and make us happy at the same time. I always found it insane that if I did indeed find clothes that were age appropriate and fit across my ass or tits, they danged sleeves were so long as if they expected me to have ape hanger arms since I was larger other places.

By: Joanna Cake

Joanna Cake — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 12:47:54 +0000

What Backstreet Boohoo said. I dont work in an office. I just need some casual clothes and Im fed up with wading through the Barbie themes in the kids section.

However, our local Tesco (in the UK) superstore do seem to do a huge spread of clothing sizes. The bigger and smaller sizes aren’t there for long tho, leaving all those in the middle to benefit in the sales.

Those of us in the sizes at either end have to buy anything we like that is in our size as soon as we see it, because it certainly wont be there the following day.

Surely that must mean that there is a bigger market out there in the biggest and smallest sizes than they are stocking for and a smaller one for those sizes where so many garments end up on the sale rail a few weeks later… They are getting the ratios all wrong.

~ I wonder what I have to do to get people with power in the retail stores to see this post and the thoughts by others…..

By: Lannay

Lannay — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 08:05:38 +0000

I have that skirt! And you are so incredibly correct. I’m a size 20-22 and so I ordered the skirt in my appropriate size. It fits….but not at all like it does on the model. It’s tight on the tummy, there is no elastic at all so if you do get it (which I say go for, it is beautiful) but make sure you size it right..or else you’ll be squeezing which is no fun. Also I’m only 5’5 and there is no give for drape at all. I can’t put it up in the front and still have a train in the back, it hits mid calf when I do that. All of that said however, I do love H & C..oh and Torrid too is great. There aren’t many stores that have sexy clothing for plus size women so as frustrating as it is I’ll still continue to shop (and pay the ridiculous shipping!!! That’s another rant altogether…maybe it’s just canada, i don’t know lol) :)

Oh and PS…While I completely love your pics and erotic stories I do also love your intelligent posts too :)

loves to you and hubs
lannay

By: Listener

Listener — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:19:05 +0000

It’s not as bad for guys, but it’s pretty bad. There are no stores except specialty shops that carry pants or shirts that I can wear. I’m not even the biggest guy I know, but I still can’t shop at any department store or mall store. Target doesn’t carry clothes my size. WalMart has a few things — they do have a pretty good “big guy” selection, but only for “average” big guys. I’m not just big; I’m also tall. I can’t wear the same sizes as shorter overweight guys or taller in-shape guys. I own nothing that is cut quite right for my torso.

At least I can shop at K&G for suits — they’ll tailor them if you buy them at the store — but just once I’d like to be walking through Target, see a funny shirt, and be able to buy it.

Oh, and online? Just like there are fewer selections in stores for plus-size women, there’s much smaller inventory for big guys — they all say “up to 4X!”, but they’re always sold out by the time I try to buy.

I feel your pain. I really do.

~ I think it’s time we write to company owners!

By: Marcus

Marcus — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:15:08 +0000

I have been offline for a while and just now saw this post, sorry for such a late reply. Anyway, I very rarely comment on anyone’s blog at all. When I do comment it is likely to be in relation to something sexy such as pictures or erotica since I rarely think that I have anything worthwhile to add when a blogger posts something intelligent. However, I sincerely hope that you never get to the point of posting nothing but brainless smut and sexy photos because that is not why I keep coming back to your site. While those things are nice, and I do believe you are one of the most beautiful women to ever grace this planet, I can get brainless smut in plenty of other places online. If the site was entirely sex and smut I would have enjoyed the sexy material and when I was done I would have closed the site and never returned. Instead, I find myself wondering each day what you have decided to post. I don’t know about anyone else, but just because I do not respond to something certainly does not mean that it is not appreciated. Also, I refuse to buy clothes for my wife for the same reasons you discussed. Instead, when I want to buy something for her I tell her what the spending limit is and we have fun going around and trying to find an outfit for her. She gets to try on lots of clothes (which she loves doing) and I get to see her, for just a moment, in outfits that are a lot more daring than anything she would actually wear (or be allowed to wear) in public. Over time I have also learned which of the dressing rooms in local shops have questionable locks that may be used to get quick glimpses of my darling one as she changes. ;)

~ Ah dressing room fun! My kinda couple! Never think you don’t have anything worthwhile to add in comments, I’d be willing to bet you do ;)

By: blueyeguy

blueyeguy — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 06:51:54 +0000

Have you tried Coldwater Creek online? My s/o is a plus size and she buys much of her everyday clothing there

~ I have looked, but don’t usually see much that’s my style

By: Dewey

Dewey — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:01:24 +0000

I can’t offer an empathy, not that you were looking for it, or even asking for it, but unlike some people, I enjoy reading about the real you, and about what the real you thinks about, worries about, and struggles with. So thank you. It’s nice. I can sympathize with you that not being able to find clothes must really suck!!