Comments on: Confessional: Flawed

By: frances

frances — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 04:06:33 +0000

i just had the honor of reading this. wow. i’m almost speechless. it could have been written by me…were I as brave as you. daniel and i often fight over hnt. it’s silly but i hate them. i want to be the person that i can fake in pictures. thank you for posting this. you are very brave.

By: Bill

Bill — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:12:06 +0000

Unfortunately, anything I say here will have little effect on how you “see” yourself, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder and “reality” is in a person’s mind. But here goes anyway.

A man (at least THIS man) sees (and FOCUSES on) what he WANTS to see. My ex-wife gained a lot of weight toward the end of our marriage, and it bothered her. When she was naked with me, I saw the GOOD effects – her bigger tits, which I LOVED!

My first girlfriend after I left my marriage was heavy and hated her body. At first she wouldn’t even let me see her naked. When she’d get out of bed, she would make me close my eyes. She felt her 38DD breasts were unattractive. She was SOOOO wrong. I LOVED the way they sagged, and she finally realized that I was being COMPLETELY honest and SAW how much I liked them! She is now with a wonderful man who also sees the beauty in her luscious tits.

My lady is GORGEOUS. She worries that she doesn’t have the figure she used to have. I understand that she is a little heavier. The photos of her with her youthful 36D’s were nice, but I MUCH prefer her current 36DDD’s! She wishes her tits were “perky,” but I assure her I LOVE how they hang!!! And with her true self inside, I LOVE this woman! Her sexy body is just VERY delicious icing on the cake!

I LOVE big saggy tits. Natural big tits (I hate implants!) HAVE to sag because they ARE natural. And that is actually part of the beauty in them! Personally I also love LARGE areolas! On the internet, when I would first start talking to a woman, I wanted to know their bra size and also the diameter of their areolas. They thought that was a very unusual question, but it was very important to me. Small areolas (especially on big breasts) are a turn-off for me. The bigger the better! So your description of your tits sounds like perfection to me!

Everyone has flaws – usually MANY! Why is it that women tend to focus on their flaws. Why are you so HARD on yourself? :( Men REALLY focus on a woman’s assets. And once you get to know the REAL person inside, the outer appearance isn’t as nearly important! Don’t you agree, when you think about how you feel about men?

That is just my opinion.

By: isis

isis — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 17:02:44 +0000

I think your lovely.

I hate looking at myself.

I would love to do HNT.

I am not brave enough to even start.

By: ToyGeek

ToyGeek — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:52:27 +0000

You’re far braver than me and you’re certainly not a bad person for having insecurities or any other feelings. Sometimes I think I let myself get overweight on purpose just to avoid getting entangled in a relationship, because I saw all dating opportunities as a hassle at best, and all relationships as ultimately doomed. Now I hate my body and would never show a square inch of it to anyone, especially online, where I don’t even have to show my face. So what does that make me, if you’re judging yourself for hiding your perceived flaws?

I applaud all of you brave people who do post pictures. You rock. I hope someday I’m as comfortable in my own skin as you are in yours.

By: vanimp

vanimp — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:43:03 +0000

You are beautiful inside and out and I don’t care I’m saying it. We all have flaws or imperfections we see in ourselves but others don’t see them as flaws. I struggle alot and actually had no idea until the following day that was the theme last week. I’m still too afraid to reveal all and probably never will. I understand the angst but the thing is you ARE beautiful. xxx

By: adamantixx

adamantixx — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:56:31 +0000

like many of us, especially women, you’re being far too hard on yourself…nothing anybody can say is likely to change your mind but just remember that what others see is not the same as what you see in the mirror yourself…you’re beautful.

By: A

Tue, 15 Sep 2009 07:30:09 +0000

I wish my girlfriend would believe me when I tell her she’s not ugly. I wish she could believe that she was sexy. I wish I knew what I could possibly say to a woman to make her understand that. I’ve never seen you but I’m sure your body is actually pretty damned okay, just like all the other self-loathing women out there… no, you’re not Cindy bloody Crawford, but you’re not bloody ugly either. You’re normal. Just normal. It’s okay to wish you were Cindy Crawford but don’t lose sight of the fact that in reality, you are not ugly, you are NORMAL, and the men who tell you you’re attractive, are NOT lying to make you feel better; take it from a man who’s never met you and never will and who’s been in the same situation. Normal women ARE attractive, they’re supposed to be, it’s how the species propagates… Does the media teach women to hate themselves like this, or is it somehow natural?

By: Tech Reader

Tech Reader — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 05:09:57 +0000

Few people (other than actors) think that they, themselves, look good. You’ve gone off on yourself, but I suspect that your enormous, gigantic, PLAINLY OBVIOUS FLAWS are in reality quite minor, the sort of thing that we all, each and every one of us, feel. Cut yourself some slack; the rest of us are obsessing over our OWN flaws, and won’t spend a whole lot of time criticizing you for yours.

You’re FAT, you say, OBESE! OK. I detest the Kate Moss/anorexic/concentration camp survivor look. Women are supposed to be curvy. I suspect that you’d be right in my “comfort zone” if you wandered by.

Big soft breasts, big pouty labia? Oh, YEAH, Baby! You’re singing my song! (In fact, you could be describing my beloved wife of 30+ years.)

And no, I’m not a freak; or if I am, I’m in good company. Read the “Rose is Rose” comic strip for a while; Jimbo keeps offering Rose candy and imagining her as substantially heavier than she is. Any trait depicted in cartoon-space is at least common enough to be mocked.

Enough. Don’t dwell on your flaws without at least MENTIONING your strengths. Unless your intended career is on the stage or in film, your weight probably won’t me a major factor in your overall attractiveness.

Be nice to yourself!

By: Raven Quince

Raven Quince — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 18:37:14 +0000

I think my degree is in physical self-loathing. It comes from a childhood filled with taunts that made me hyper-critical. For seven years I was deemed the “fat” kid, though photos from that time clearly show I wasn’t. It branded me. For most of my adult life, I’ve hated how I looked no matter if my weight was up or down. I’ve questioned my husband countless times how he could possibly love this body that I hold in such contempt. And now, as I age, it betrays me again. I share your pain. So many of us do.

By: MarriedWithSexToys

MarriedWithSexToys — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 18:25:45 +0000

Thank you for sharing this very honest post with all of us. I don’t think you are a bad person for trying to hide the flaws otherwise we would all be bad people.
Thanks again for sharing.