Jan 112009


There is a way to catapult me over the line of neutrality straight into submission. If done right, the shift is immediate.

Two years ago there was a young man I was briefly involved with who was a switch. I knew he was capable of being very submissive and downright dirty, but his attitude was full-on toppy brat. I loved it. I was working my way to getting into my dominant side, but he pulled a move that had never been done before to me and the effect was astounding. He kissed me – great kisser, that boy – a hard, deep kiss and his hand went to the back of my head. His fingers pushed against my scalp, through my hair, at the nape of my neck. His fingers full of as much hair as he could get, he closed his hand into a fist and firmly pulled. It was the hottest thing ever and boom – I felt submissive. I never was able to get back into the dominant frame of mind with him, and that’s what he wanted from me – my dominance. We had fun hanging out, making out, but it never went very far because of the D/s stalemate.

I’ve been with a handful of guys since then and I find it funny that very few could do the hair pulling trick as well as the original. There is a specific way so that it is arousing and firm but not sharp and “ow you’re pulling my hair out by the root”. In the middle, at the bottom, with fingers spread so that a large area is being pulled when your close your hand to a fist, you should grab it as close to the root as possible. All of that is needed for it to be a successful move.

When it is done correctly as I am being kissed, and therefore not aware of it until it happens, the effect is obvious and immediate. A moan and a whimper, my knees might buckle a bit, and the jolt of arousal is so swift and sharp that the breath is nearly knocked out of me. I am like a puppet, and that spot directly controls my cunt. I feel it there as much as at the juncture of fingers and hair.

But this is not the only moment to use this move on me………

As I am being fucked from behind it serves as the reins to pull me back closer to your mouth, so that you may growl filthy words in my ear.

As I am sucking your cock, so that you may guide my speed and rhythm.

As I am kneeling before you, so that you may force me to look up at you.

As your lips are travelling over my body, so that you may have better access to another spot that sets me on fire……..which I’ll tell you about another time.

  • Panthera Pardus

    That is _EXACTLY_ how to do it. Anything else is either annoying or simply ineffective. That is the exact move. I shivered just reading the description.

    And it does exactly the same thing to me.

    ~ The complete and detailed description should be plastered on billboards, hehe

  • Oh I know that spot! That combined with a bite at the back of my neck I’m putty. Instant puddle of subbie. It’s that spot where cats and dogs become docile too. I read something a little while back regarding hair pulling and how it affects your beta, alpha and theta brain wave patterns. Me tinks there may be something in finding the right spot ;) x

    ~ Oh wow, I never even connected the two….you’re right…oh you just made me a geeky happy camper with all that info!!!

  • OMG I love the hair pull, properly done, too! I got so hot reading this! lol

  • Ah, the hair pull… I adore that. Alec’s pretty good at finding the right spot that makes me melt. Hair pulling is certainly up high on the list of things I like having done to me. He does it infrequently enough (unfortunately) that when he *does* decide to pull my hair, I’m pretty much done for. Delicious!

    ~Well then, I hope he reads this ;) hinthint Alec!

  • TUG

    I like to do exactly what he did when kissing you. I don’t do it all the time, but when I’m in the right mood I’ll do it.

    ~ If it was done each and every time it would eventually get stale. But I like a man who knows the right way! ;)

  • My wife has told me that I *do* know how to pull her hair without hurting her. I’ve perfected it on others. ;)

    ~ It’s nice to see a few men speaking up here, it gives a girl comfort to know there are a decent amount of men out there who can do it, and do it well.

  • Me? I have no idea how to do it well. I guess I’ll have to practice ;-)

  • Sounds like Emmy. All I need is to grab a handful of hair and she is mine!

  • Hehe. It does help to have a partner TELL YOU how she likes it. I tried it on my playmate back in October (I posted as Sunday Secret on Oct 12th I think) and she went weak in her knees right away. LOL I can’t wait to try it on BL…hmm… ;)

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