You may, or may not, have noticed lately a culling in my public blogroll. It is with caution that I tread on this subject, but I am not, by far, the first to speak of it. Sage. Rage. Naughty Secretary. Just a few.
They all pick at different aspects, some focusing on responses to the comments left on the blogs they read, some on the lack of comments they receive on their own blog.
There are two edges to this sword – I write for myself, I write for the world. While I do write for myself, this blog is quite cathartic, it is aided by the fact that I have a small audience as a sounding board. A set of people who don’t judge on petty things like the more closed-minded folks that surround me in daily life. So while I would continue on writing, I value and appreciate the comments I get both publicly on the blog and privately via email. It is a comfort to know that there are others in my boat, in my corner, more than just my partner who sits beside me here (hello, dear). It is an even larger comfort to have made friends with some of the shadowed audience. So, I think, how rude it would be of me not to acknowledge your words when you comment. In real life, do you stare blankly at someone who pays you a compliment? No. You would either never get it again, or get smacked upside the head.
I cannot complain at ALL about the comments I receive. Yes, I see other bloggers get more. So what? It’s not a popularity contest. But, that’s not my point. I suppose part of it is….if you see that I make an effort on your blog, and I am on your public blogroll….well, whyever am I on it if you don’t read it?
Mostly, I’ve removed people from the blogroll who rarely or never reply to comments, or to mine specifically, and who couldn’t give a flying fuck about me and my little square in the webiverse. I don’t mind, no skin off my nose so to speak. I’ll still read it in my feedreader because I do enjoy the blogs, but I won’t make the effort anymore to comment or be a presence. Basically, ignore me and I’ll go away. There are one or two I’m still figuring out. They reply to my comments in a polite manner, but don’t seem to welcome me there. So if I’m not welcome…..then just don’t say a darn thing, I guess.
I’ve recently been hunting for new reads, both sex blogs and well…..non, lol. And if I like something, I comment. That’s my nature. That’s half the point. If they never respond…..I’m not sure they’re worth the effort of faithfully reading.
The We-Vibe contest winner is: Coy Pink, with this entry:
http://www.redtube.com/1289 (red tube link, as some reported the original link giving issues)
Well, most importantly, it was believably real. Decent quality (security cams are pretty poor quality, but offer great views), good length, good sex (despite the dude’s blinding white tan lines). You felt like you were peeping along with Tom who was peekin out his window. I’m not sure I understand his point of zooming in on the crap in the yard tho….meh, oh well.
The other entries were all great too! Panthera‘s parking lot cam was decent, although that kid needs a few lessons in sex. My favorite part was the truck that stopped to watch his white lil ass bang his gf. Jobthingy‘s entry was hot sex, albeit staged (by at least part of the couple, even if the female didn’t know she was being filmed). Some more parking garage antics occured, sadly cut short. A romp in the woods was filmed but the plausibility seemed iffy….the forest is a noisy place, all leaves and crackly branches underfoot….I find it hard to believe that couple didn’t know they were being filmed, ya know? Elevator sex was HOT, but short and grainy. We had to make the line in the sand somewhere, ya know?
Hey, for such an expensive toy, we can be picky about our porno :P
Thanks to all who entered, it was great fun :)